Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Bizarrely, your offer of help suddenly made me realise my paternal aunt is HEAVILY into this - and might know some other small sliver of detail... so I'm going to risk asking her to look into it. Bit scared now as she might know more than I've been told and it might be 'sensitive', but as he came back 40-50 years ago, she might even have been told at the time, or after (unlikely), but you never know.

So I'll ask her and see what happens.... I'll try to get the b4lls to email her later.

If you don't get any joy from her, I'm only too happy to help, just let me know.

sjaypink

Thank you all very much :A If there was a double thanks button I'd hit it

I will do a bit more googling and reading, now I know a bit more about what I'm looking for. If I still can't figure it out at least I can go to the savings board sounding a little wiser than I actually am

PasturesNew

I really don't understand ISAs at all. Only got my first ones ever since I sold my house - never had a brass farthing to my name until that point as all income goes immediately on the very basic bills, then there's usually just enough left over each month to get to/from work and eat beans on toast for tea.

So I've not got any shares ISAs.... but maybe I should click Gen's link and call that a "decision".

They made ISAs far too complex for everyday people really.

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

... (do people steal ancestors?) followed by a link to a family tree he had put online. So one email contact led to the whole family tree going back to 1854:)

It's not that they steal them - it's just it's a precise and detailed research exercise - and before you absolutely join somebody into your tree you have to be 100% sure they're the right person, otherwise there's no point.

For the record, I asked my family researcher about my claim to the Payens line and it seems: "the two family lines are interlinked many times over". I don't go "directly" back/under him, but alongside and above and around him, from many directions. It's all very incestuous, with multiple marriages being the norm.

PasturesNew

lemonjelly wrote: »

Sometimes, it is a miracle we ever came to exist...

I'm often thinking of this. My mum was an abandoned wife with one child of 7-8 when she moved into a house and got friendly with a neighbour. They used to go out and the neighbour's husband would babysit, so it probably wasn't that often.

One night they went out and, for whatever reason, they chose a pub, they chose a bar in that pub. On the same night, my father, who doesn't like pubs, also chose that bar and that pub.

If they'd not met that night, they might never have met.

If they'd not managed to get speaking, maybe if somebody else had spoken to mum first, or her friend hadn't liked the look of my dad and dragged her away .... and what if he'd never called her? She didn't have a phone, so he must have had to arrange to meet her again - and them both actually turn up.

It's all so random isn't it.

PasturesNew

lemonjelly wrote: »

How big is your kitchen?

I can honestly say I have never been in a kitchen with a settee in it.

Me neither.... but I've seen open plan kitchen/diners, L-shaped, with sofas in on Rightmove. I rather like that idea.... but then my house won't be much larger than that in total

The kitchen we had when I was growing up was 6'x7' - and somebody pushed past me once when I was frying chips and the whole pan of hot fat fell over my hand/arm, I was bandaged for weeks with huge blisters

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

If they'd not met that night, they might never have met..

My parents were set up by mutual ''friends'', who either weren't very nice people or really didn't know my parents well enough to meddle.:D

PasturesNew

Generali wrote: »

One of the civilised things about Australia is that dogs live outside. I had to point out to an English temp at work recently that the RSPCAA probably wouldn't take kindly to a complaint that a dog lives outside in Sydney and 'only' has a dog basket in the laundry. Most only get to stay under the house; laundry access is luxury.

Like dogs. Prefer them outdoors though.

When I was growing up most dogs had kennels in the garden, very few dogs were allowed inside houses. I wonder when/why that changed.

lemonjelly

lostinrates wrote: »

My parents were set up by mutual ''friends'', who either weren't very nice people or really didn't know my parents well enough to meddle.:D

99.9% of problems are caused by other people sticking their noses in. Imo of course.

STing

Sjay, the suggested trackers seem like good options and have low fees. The tracker will need to be held in a Stocks and Shares isa (a tax efficient wrapper), this can add to the costs.

Can anyone on here recommend an inexpensive S&S ISA wrapper?