families

seyjane

sorry this might be a long
In may 2003 one of my mums sister 1 died (i was very close to her) any way in the previous year the other sister 2 announce she was getting married (didnt know when). after sister 1 died sister 2 decided to get married later in the year. auntie 2 lives up north and kept coming down to arange the wedding for the october.in the november it was my mums birthday 40th and organize a little something sister 2 said she couldn't come down because she made so many times to organize the wedding and it was my 18th birthday even though she and her husband took me out to the pub for my birthday she couldn't come to my birthday party tea because she was going to a wedding but only a her husband knew it wedding was . she sang happy birthday down the phone while a husband was at the stag do and she was home alone.don't get wrong she took me to the pub, sent flowers and gave me a bracelet but all i want was her to there as because auntie 1 was not there.

one christmas auntie 2 came down for christmas and everybody was talking it crop up that it was the first christmas we had ever spend with her she was laughing at it (even it was not funny)

any way through out the years it been known auntie 2 is my grandma and grandad favourite
2010

it was my mum and dad 25th wedding annervery me, brother and sister organize a party any way day after grandma and grandad organize sunday at the golf club because grandma didn't want cook after helping us cook for the party. we didnt get an invite only found out an uncle ask if was coming.

then in august we had holiday from hell
car broke down on the way cornwall (went on the truck flashing lights)
first day my mum broke her arm
car rolled a hill made a small dint in my dad car
on the way home caravan wheel fell off all five bolts came out at once luckly we was only going walk speed

in october it was my grandma birthday so my mum organize small party. even though my auntie 2 did cheese board and got the birthday cake and uncle did curry (uncle did say something to my mum about food she payed all the food and all he did was a curry)
i was helping my mum prepare the food due to her broken arm spend
all day in the kitchen.
the next day grandma did a sunday dinner (grandad told her to get lamb auntie 2 fav) brother was going up north with auntie 2 for college and mum and dad drop him off grandparents house and say good bye to my auntie (she had a son in august so see him as we didn't know when we will see him). we walk in (i did a sherry trifle,normal trifle and brought some cheesecakes mum decided two save the cheesecakes for the sunday as we had cake) grandparents auntie and husband had finished their dinner and started eating the cheesecake and normal trifle which hadn't been touch or opened.we had not been invited the sunday dinner.
about 2 weeks ago it was my mum birthday and sister 2 didnt ring or send a birthday card from her or my cousin, my mum is upset about as she never had card that say auntie.
auntie 2 because she lives up north she down to visit my grandparents don't tell anyone that she coming down and dont pop in to see us to say hello (it not me who upset by this my uncle)

sorry about the spelling mistakes and grammer and it for it being so long. i just wanting talk to someone about it as i feel a can predicted the future.

MyRubyRed

Sorry love but can't make head nor tale of your post

scottishchick27

MyRubyRed wrote: »

Sorry love but can't make head nor tale of your post

Me either.

Frosti

MyRubyRed wrote: »

Sorry love but can't make head nor tale of your post

Neither could I.

Rossy.

Same

Confused.com i am

PasturesNew

I've kind of adjusted it a bit for slightly easier reading - although I did skimp and it was confusing.


We have three people:
Mother
Aunty1 (dead)
Aunty2 (alive)

In May 2003 my Aunt1 died, (I was very close to her)

In 2002 Aunt2 announced she was getting married (she/we didn't know when).

After the death of Aunt1 in 2003, Aunt2 decided to get married later in the year. Aunt2 lives up north and kept coming down to arrange the wedding for the October.

However, in the November it was my mum's 40th birthday and we organized a little party. Aunt2 said she couldn't come down because she had been so many times to organize her wedding already.

It was also my 18th birthday. Aunt2 and her husband took me out to the pub for my birthday, but she couldn't come to my birthday party tea because she was going to a wedding. But she didn't go to a wedding, it was a stag do that her husband was attending, she was home alone, although she did sing happy birthday down the phone.

She took me to the pub, sent flowers and gave me a bracelet, but all I wanted was her to be there (at the birthday tea) since Aunt1 was not there (dead).

Going back some years ... one christmas Aunt2 came down for christmas and it was mentioned that she'd never spent Xmas with us before - she laughed it off, but we didn't see the funny side of it.

Throughout the years it been known Aunt2 is my grandma and grandad's favourite.


In 2010 it was my mum and dad's 25th wedding anniversary. Me, my brother and sister organized a party for them. The next day after the party, grandma and grandad organized a Sunday out at the golf club - because grandma didn't want to cook after helping us cook for the party. We didnt get an invite - we only found out as our uncle asked if we were coming.

Then in August we had holiday from hell
- car broke down on the way to Cornwall (went on the truck flashing lights)
- first day my mum broke her arm
- the car rolled down a hill and made a small dint in my dad's car
- on the way home the caravan wheel fell off; all five bolts came out at once, luckly we were only going at walking speed

In October it was my grandma's birthday, so my mum organized a small party. Even though my Aunt2 did a cheese board and got the birthday cake and uncle did a curry. (My mum paid for all the food, and all he provided was a curry)

I was helping my mum prepare the food, due to her broken arm, I spent all day in the kitchen. The next day, grandma did a Sunday dinner (grandad told her to get lamb Aunt2's favourite). My brother was getting a lift up north with Aunty2 for college and mum and dad dropped him off at the grandparents' house and said good bye to my auntie (she had a baby in August, so also to see him as we didn't know when we will see him next).

We walked in (I did a sherry trifle, normal trifle and brought some cheesecakes; mum decided to save the cheesecakes for the Sunday as we had cake for that day). My grandparents, Aunt2 and her husband had finished their dinner - and they started eating the cheesecake and normal trifle which hadn't been touched or opened. We had not been invited to the Sunday dinner.

About 2 weeks ago it was my mum's birthday and Aunt2 didn't ring or send a birthday card from her or my cousin. My mum is upset about that as she never had a card that said "To My Aunt" (from the new baby).

Aunt2 went down to visit my grandparents, but didn't tell anyone else that she was coming down and - and didn't pop in to see us to say hello (it's not me that's upset by this, but my uncle)

It's all a bit all over the place but the gist of it is: I miss my dead aunt, the alive one is horrid - and she's the favourite - and our side of the family are being overlooked.... and the c0w ate our trifle.

seyjane

sorry that you can't understand what i have written i will look at it to make it simple

Fang_3

Not a word. But I suspect that the family have interbreeded and inter-married and that's why uncles are cousins, and aunties are sisters. It's all very peculiar.

It would help if you could just stick to one name for one person, and learn to use possessive apostrophes at the very least. Actually that's not even going to touch the sides.

poppy_f1

families suck but theres nothing you can really do tochange themexcept maybe accept that fact and either get on or dont speak

January20

You don't choose your family. You choose how you react to them however.

Your aunt is a cow. You grandparents prefer her to your mum and you. You're 25, aren't you? Time to grow up and get over it! You won't get what you want from them ie a close loving relationship, cards for birthdays etc, stop expecting it and you won't be disappointed.

I'm sorry but your post makes you sound quite immature too. Don't waste your energy and emotions on people who clearly don't care and don't deserve your interest!

Oh, and I'm not just being heartless. I speak from experience, sadly.

Nixer

Um, am reading PasturesNew's very patient (I didn't get as far as the trifle in the OP) rendering of the incomprehensible OP. Sounds like Aunt2 is maybe a bit inconsiderate and that you appear to be stewing about Aunt 2 not coming to a birthday party in 2003, eating a trifle that was not meant to be eaten, and some other fairly minor things, unless I missed a murder in all that.

I think it would be best to divert all the energy focussed on your feelings towards your aunt/grandparents towards remembering that you can't change people and that you're better off investing energy in people you like.

Everyone's already said it but I'll repeat parrot stylee: Families can be a dead loss sometimes and despite this board being full of stories of people putting up with cruddy behaviour from partners, friends and assorted family, it (putting up with it) really is optional.