Pippi’s pulling up her stripey-socks for the final sprint towards the Good-Life……………

ZTD

Cheery_Daff wrote: »

Oooh, they'd best not, the pesky young fiends!! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

(although if they did, the thing I'd be most annoyed about is being outwitted by a chicken :rotfl:)

You find a message "Who were you calling bird-brain?" written on your window...

Uniscots97

ZTD wrote: »

:grouphug:

I take it that person wasn't invited because of past behaviour?

correct but they still managed to wreck the restof the holidays and the worst is still to come (new year). Its really getting me down

ZTD

unixgirluk wrote: »

correct but they still managed to wreck the restof the holidays and the worst is still to come (new year). Its really getting me down

:grouphug:

And can I also take it that they don't take a telling?

Uniscots97

ZTD wrote: »

:grouphug:

And can I also take it that they don't take a telling?

Not only do they not take a telling, they take great delight in creating total havoc and only ever want to be centre of attention and always for the completely wrong reasons (usually done when its christmas, someone else's birthday/special event etc). Each time worse than the last.

ZTD

unixgirluk wrote: »

Not only do they not take a telling, they take great delight in creating total havoc and only ever want to be centre of attention and always for the completely wrong reasons (usually done when its christmas, someone else's birthday/special event etc). Each time worse than the last.

You know - just looking at the paragraph above, you could be mistaken for thinking you're writing about a toddler in the middle of the "terrible-twos".

I think that unless he has a plethora of redeeming features, your only regret will be that it took so long.

:grouphug:

Karmacat

Well, I was laughing out loud at Cheery and the escapologist chickens, but Unix is having a terrible time - so sorry to hear all this, Unix. You've sussed that the person just wants attention ... there are two ways of dealing with it. Deny the attention (which can temporarily leave the havoc to get worse and worse) or name the behaviour. What you actually do, and how you do it, depends on how many people they're trying to get the attention from, i.e. just you or the whole group ... does everyone else agree with your assessment of the situation? If not, why not? I'm not suggesting you answer these questions on here, just that knowing the answers yourselves can help you ... I wonder if its a whole family dynamic you're struggling with, in which case, unless the whole family knows whats going on AND wants to change it, I don't see you can do much on your own, honestly - the thing you can do is keep on bringing your analysis of it to people's attention, and also - this is hard - to look at what your own contribution is. Everybody makes some contribution to whats going on - it might be silence, for instance. Or being chatty and trying to deny the situation - I've really no idea, but what you can do, when you've sorted out what your contribution is, is to look and see does it make the situation worse, or better. And how it does it.

I hope some bits of this can help - its the sort of thing I deal with at work, but thats in a therapy group situation, which is obviously hugely different.

Lots of hugs.

vl2588

Ooh I like that ^^

Lemon_Tree

sending you hugs ((((Unix)))),
i think KC has lots of good ideas, i may just have to badger her for some more ideas with how to survive my visits to the outlaws.

makeup

Massive hugs unix, sounds awful. Hope things get better or you find a solution that works for you - however painful at the time.

Dealing with emotional situations can be really draining so make sure you are making time for yourself wherever possible and get plenty of sleep ..... I always need to get to bed when things are tough as I can't deal well with anything when I'm tired!

Hope things improve soon. xxx

Cheery_Daff

(((unixgirl))))))) sounds like things are very tough for you some good ideas on here, and ZTD's right about reading back what you wrote... xx