nosy neighbour

emilyt

shopaholicsan wrote:

I get DLA and to anyone looking at me on the days/times I can go out would think there was nothing wrong with me. I get some glares when I park in a disabled bay even though I have a badge that I am entitled to use. I am also in terrible pain but you cannot always see someone's disability easily. When I am having a bad day I cannot even open the car door let alone drive - no-one sees me like this! I found the whole process of claiming DLA a nightmare and I had to have proof of my symptoms from my GP, specialist and independent doctor. Please be sure of your facts before shopping anyone - I would be devastated if I was reported for being able to go out on good days.

I know exactly how you feel shopaholicsan. I too get stares e.c.t. Actually i was with my DD1 a few weeks ago an elderly gentlemen had the nerve to ask well whats wrong with you then. My DD1 who is very direct said i have got tourettes now sod off. I am not for one minute looking down on people with Tourettes and i know someone who suffers from this awful illness. This was the way my DD handled the situation. Whether it be right or wrong. So please make sure of your facts before reporting anyone. Then again if they are entitled to the benefits then they will still get them.

cheepskate_2

skintas wrote:

i ve got a right nosy neighbour always into everyones business, she was gossiping about everyone. always wants to know about all the neighbours, she said her car is a mobility car, she gets disability money, she works fulltime, so does her live in partner. surely can this be right me and my partner are struggling to pay are bills and we work. they wear all the lastest labels, i feel like they are laughing at me. i know she fell out with one of the threaten to shop her for working. i didnt think you can claim dla and work................ sorry to sound like a grass, buts really gets to me, if she making false claims, some genuine people who claim, are really struggling and got nothing.......:mad:

How do you know they are not up to their eyeballs in debt to live this lifestyle.



i know she fell out with one of the threaten to shop her for working.(quote)

If someone threatned to do something that would adversly effect you would you still have them as a friend / aquantence

saintjanet

Every week or so someone starts a thread like this.If you KNOW someone is on the fiddle,by all means report them.Please be sure of your facts though,there are many threads,on here and on other forums written by people who have been wrongly accused.They have been questioned ,under caution,by fraud investigators,then found innocent of any wrong doing,mean while they have spent weeks worrying about the outcome,often making their illness worse.

So if you have facts not opinions to go on by all means report them.

Turning_into_scrooge

skintas wrote:

just read, and no she has no problems walking, dosent use a wheelchair or walking stick, goes to the gym regularly

She may have a disabillity that flares up and causes considerable pain. I have a disabillity that can be fine in the morning and unable to walk by lunch time, sometimes its hour for hour. As for the gym i've just managed to get hydrotherapy from physio, swimming is helpful to my condition, doesn't mean i can walk or run far or swim more than a couple of short lengths, but don't most gyms today have a pool also.?

Turning_into_scrooge

doelani wrote:

I would love to report someone but can never get the courge to do it. I know it they will not know who it is but just cannot do it.

My DD has a friend and they are both in 6th form. Her friend get EMA of £30 per week my DS gets nothing. This friends mum works full time as does her step dad both in well paid jobs (well above min wage ) Her mum still uses her old married name and I believe she never informed anyone she had remarried as she married abroad and it was all kept pretty hush hush. Before marrying she lived with this guy and I remember her one saying to ma about her Family Credit (whatever it was called before CTC) I believe she is still caliming as a single parent as she was widowed before marraige and probally alos gets a wodows alowance. Her DS is still at school but has been working since 15 and her mum takes £20 per week off her also. To get full EMA I believe your family income has to be something like less than £15k so she must be lieing to them.

My hubby works and I am on IB but we have to much money coming in to even get my DS a reduced EMA. They do not take into account that hubby pays his ex £70 per week CSA so reducing our income by £4k which would make my DS get £10 per week EMA. As it stands my DS I give my DS £20 per week as she does not get the EMA and that is all I can affford.
IT MAKES ME SO MAD:mad: :mad:



Sorry rant over.

I was under the impression that you can still qualify for EMa if you are under is it 38k a year or 35k.

I take it your husband is on more than that figure. I live comfortably on IS in place of IB and middle rate DLA and high rate DLA for getting around. I live on a hell of allot less than you, i'm not having a go at you, but be grateful for what you have, I am.:)

lil_me

So easy for people to pressume other peoples situations from what they see rather than what they know. I have been on the receiving end of nosey interfering neighbours on several occasions with benefits and social services. As expected nothing came of the allegations, but it's bloody frustrating when others pressume things about you and aren't happy to live their own lives and have to try and interfere with yours.

If they are not entitled they will be caught out at some point, but don't pressume because you can't see a disability it doesn't exist, or that because someone wears labels they have a lot of money.

doelani

Turning_into_scrooge wrote:

I was under the impression that you can still qualify for EMa if you are under is it 38k a year or 35k.

I take it your husband is on more than that figure. I live comfortably on IS in place of IB and middle rate DLA and high rate DLA for getting around. I live on a hell of allot less than you, i'm not having a go at you, but be grateful for what you have, I am.:)

Our joint income is more than the upper limit for EMA of £30k all our income is included which includes his 2 jobs and my IB. I am happy with what we have and I do not want anymore just makes me made that others abuse the system. It is awkward when my DS asks why her friend get £30 per week plus a bonus at end of year when her mum and stepdad both work and why does she not get it.