How to Uninvite A Guest...?

Lexxi

You do realise that the alternative is that you don't say anything, she bullies/coerces your wedding details out of you and then turns up at your wedding and insults your mum to her face about being a single mum! If she ruins your day you won't be able to have another one and why would you want to. Text or email if you can't do it face to face but make sure she knows she is not invited. Or wait till she asks when the invites are going out and tell her they went out ages ago!

prosaver

just say theres to many coming to the wedding and Ive got more relatives to invite..so we are fully booked
............so can I have my wedding present now as you cant come.

thebettingbride

You feel a bit like she's caused this because she has! And not just a bit either! And I think you're right, no matter how nicely you put it she will probably be upset (because she's one of those types). Maybe you can actually use this fact as a sort of motivation, no matter what you try or do she will always be upset so there's no actual point in worrying about it, you may as well bite the bullet and get it over with. If she's horrible remember to come back here to let off some steam - we'll understand

twirlypinky

Take the easy route, a message on her FB page saying "Just to let you know, we've decided on an intimate style family and close friends wedding because we're being credit crunchy, wanted to let you know before you waste any money on tickets etc, thanks, me x"

Sambucus_Nigra

*Paris* wrote: »

Thanks for the advice everyone, I'm being a wimp as I know I don't want her to be at the wedding really, and I need to bite the bullet and just tell her (in the nicest way possible!).

I do feel a bit like she's caused this by inviting herself, but at the same time, I hate upsetting people.

I think she will be upset no matter how nicely I put it, and that's why I've been putting it off and putting it off!

I'm going to brave and just let her know, as I agree the sooner I let her know the better....

Wish me luck

I don't understand how you are going to let her know without giving her the opportunity to insult you again.

Just carry on regardless and when SHE brings it up, then tackle it....be prepared and you can get the upper hand.

Dellers

Hi you need to tell her. I got married recently and I had the same problem I let it go and the person had me in tears that evening with there comments and they left the wedding at 7 o clock ! ........... they were a brides made to make it worse. Dont have my regret you need to say it.

abc1989

If she's so determined to go, make her pay for her cut of the food/drinks/hotel and explain that this is the only way you can afford for stragglers to go the wedding.

Don't be scared of "upsetting" her....at the end of the day shes only a work collegue, no importance in your life.

Sambucus_Nigra

Dellers wrote: »

Hi you need to tell her. I got married recently and I had the same problem I let it go and the person had me in tears that evening with there comments and they left the wedding at 7 o clock ! ........... they were a brides made to make it worse. Dont have my regret you need to say it.

Sorry - you didn't tell the bridesmaid that they weren't invited? How did they get to be a...oh never mind.

This is not the same problem! It's some woman at work that thinks she's the bees knees and has invited herself.

If the OP tells her she will say 'You didn't really think I wanted to come to your stupid wedding did you!' or 'Why, can't you afford it?' or any other number of insults. This will make her feel worse.

shellsuit

Sorry b!tchy Bev, you know you said you wanted to come to our wedding, well we've had to cut our numbers, so it's strictly close family and friends now.

If she moans, let her. It's better her moaning and sulking now, than having her coming to your wedding and being a complete and utter cow.

What's worse, telling her, or having her there?

The decision is yours

*Paris*

Hi everyone, thought I should update you!

I was on online chat and she said hi, so I basically said we have found the restauarants are all way more expensive than we initially thought and we have had to review numbers....

I then said that I would love to have her there, but I need to invite older school friends etc first, and could I put her as first reserve?

She seemed to take it quite well and said she understood about the costs....nowhere near as scary as I thought it would be!

I thought I will give her space for a bit and then I will not talk about the wedding (so I don't make her feel like she's missing out).

Thankyou everyone for giving me support and making me hurry up and just tell her!!