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Help for parents - disabled mother needing more care

This might be a bit long and rambly but I was wondering if you could help!

My mum has Multiple Sclerosis and needs 24 hour care, at the moment my dad is a self employed elctrician and my mum has a full time carer mon-fri 9-6pm.

She has taken a turn for the worse and has been in hospital for 2 weeks, she needs her whole care plan altered and there is a huge possibility that my dad will have to give up work to look after her, rather than the carer they have now. The disease is now affecting her brain and she has lots of altzimers type problems.

My dad spoke to the doctor at the hospital the other day, and he has been told it is now at a critical time and is not going to get better, just worse, but they have no idea how long it can go on for.

Were just worried that my dad cant afford to not work. Any ideas what they would be entitled to?

My mum has DLA which pays for the disabled van they have, and she gets incapacity benefit ect.

My dad owns the house but has a mortgage on it, plus he is in loads of debt with loans and overdrafts that we are trying to sort out.

Where could he get advice on this before a decision is made? which will have to be soon.

Comments

  • RazWaz
    RazWaz Posts: 1,070 Forumite
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    Contact your local CAB, they will be able to talk through what you will be able to claim, and might know about grants and things to help out. They will also be able to help with your debt problems.
  • MrsManda
    MrsManda Posts: 4,457 Forumite
    Does she get Higher rate DLA for care and mobility? if not it may be worth asking for a reassessment.

    As RazWaz said, contact your local CAB to see if they can help. I'd also call the Benefits helpline on 0800 88 22 00. When I got ill my local CAB couldn't help me but the person I spoke to on the benefits helpline was great.

    Money Matters for Carers - a direct.gov page with information on the different things which your dad may be able to claim whilst looking after your mum.

    as he is self employed could he just cut down his hours rather than giving up work completely?
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