Wifes debt

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barneygumble wrote: »

That argument also works in reverse, he's her husband and they are a partnership so therefore she shouldn't of run up debts to the tune of 6k without letting him know. Especially as she has no income to pay them off.
If the debt has built up whilst they've been married then in my eyes that is even worse than doing it before becoming wed.

I can see where you are coming from Barney at the end of the day it is just money, fair enough a big amount of money but it certainly is not the bee all and end all is it..............................

If it was my wife I would be more concerned with why this situation has arose in the first place, she felt a need of some sort to go and do this I would want to know why this happened and concentrate on solving the initial issue rather than placing all emphasis on the repercussion...............

Most people spend money in this way to make themselves feel better or cheer themselves up in some way, this could well be a deeply unhappy woman who used retail therapy as a way of escape without thinking of the consequences, this whole situation that the OP ids trying to claim the moral high ground on could well all be of the OP's making, we only have 1 side of the story remember.

JohalaReewi

If the OP decides to separate and divorce his wife, the judge in the divorce could easily say the debts run up in his wife's name are his responsibilty and make them his debts. One to watch out for if the OP goes down that route.

maidofrohan

She should have a look at the Debt free Wannabe board, and maybe let the CC companies know that she's in a situ where making payments would be difficult etc. I've found that if you let the creditors know that there are problems, they are more likely to be open to negotiation re: repayments etc.

I feel sorry for both parties....the OP - because if he gets lumbered with this debt then that just doesn't seem fair (I've been there - left with £14K of debt from my ex boyf)....and the OP's wife - because if she couldn't tell her husband about the spending on the CC, then that's really quite sad.

ssedd

Thanks for all the replys.

Some advice for some of you dont ever go into counselling or there may be a surge in suicides.

The message was posted just after we had been talking and things were obviously raw. I was asking about the debt more because I didnt want the kids to not have an house not me.
We have patched things up since so obviously I will be paying off the debts; my wife although no income does get money paid into her bank account each month from my wages and has the child tax credit and other things paid directly to her bank.
The issue wasnt the 6k which isnt the end of the world but this is the third time this has now happened and it was happening at the same time as some other things.
Again thanks to those that actually offered advice on the problem.