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Claz_2
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Hi, I fear this is going to be a long post, but please bear with me whilst I try and explain the situation, in the hope that someone might be able to shed some light on this.
My partner’s then 16-year-old daughter announced she was 26 weeks pregnant in June, and she wouldn’t be starting a planned College course in September, as the baby was due around the same time!
Having worked in the past with young mothers, I attempted to advise my OH’s DD about her options, and sent some information about her entitlement to benefits & how this would effect CTC, ChB etc claimed by OH’s ex, but as a number of years had passed since I did this type of work, I wanted her to go and get further advice!
Sadly my partner’s relationship with his ex wife is to say the least dire, and he finds it very difficult to keep informed with what is happening in both his kids lives. Phone calls, texts, requests for access etc go largely ignored, and we usually only find out about things once they have happened or through the few opportunities he gets to see his son – hence discovering at 26 weeks about the pregnancy. Trying to find out about her GCSE results, and whether she hoped to defer her place at college resulted in being told we were interfering and putting pressure on his DD! His DD also withdrew from OH at this point, ignoring most attempts he made to talk to her.
OH pays maintenance through the CSA, but after a period of redundancy, and then finding full time work in February, he sent info about the changes to his income to the CSA, but we heard nothing. OH has continued to pay maintenance directly to his ex, and used the online CSA calculator to get an idea of how much he should be paying whilst CSA formally assess it. In addition to this, he pays for various sport club fees, pocket money etc – because as their dad, he wanted to and felt it to be his responsibility.
Last week OH contacted CSA to inform them of our change of address and enquired about how now his daughter was a parent, had left school and had now turned 17, what the situation would be regarding maintenance. We assumed that she would be making a claim for benefits in her own right, especially as she had not taken up her full time college course. It turns out they didn’t know any of this, and proceeded to contact OH’s ex! The sh*t has hit the fan, and all sorts of accusations are now being fired at my OH by his ex and his DD!
Am I right in thinking that ChB would have stopped being paid to the ex when DD didn’t take up her place at college, so claiming in her own right would have been necessary anyway?
If she has perhaps been given an opportunity to join a college course in February or September next year, would the ex be entitled to continue to claim for ChB & CTC in the meantime?
Our assumption was DD would be making a claim for benefits in her own right, mainly to relieve the financial pressure on her mother. OH was worried that any maintenance he was paying would get DD in trouble! But as neither the ex nor DD let OH know what has been happening, he’s in a difficult position trying to do the right thing, and has just upset everyone!
If anyone can advise what ‘should’ be happening, it will give us a starting point from which to try and tackle this. So sorry for the very long-winded post!!! Any advice will be gratefully received. Thanks!
My partner’s then 16-year-old daughter announced she was 26 weeks pregnant in June, and she wouldn’t be starting a planned College course in September, as the baby was due around the same time!
Having worked in the past with young mothers, I attempted to advise my OH’s DD about her options, and sent some information about her entitlement to benefits & how this would effect CTC, ChB etc claimed by OH’s ex, but as a number of years had passed since I did this type of work, I wanted her to go and get further advice!
Sadly my partner’s relationship with his ex wife is to say the least dire, and he finds it very difficult to keep informed with what is happening in both his kids lives. Phone calls, texts, requests for access etc go largely ignored, and we usually only find out about things once they have happened or through the few opportunities he gets to see his son – hence discovering at 26 weeks about the pregnancy. Trying to find out about her GCSE results, and whether she hoped to defer her place at college resulted in being told we were interfering and putting pressure on his DD! His DD also withdrew from OH at this point, ignoring most attempts he made to talk to her.
OH pays maintenance through the CSA, but after a period of redundancy, and then finding full time work in February, he sent info about the changes to his income to the CSA, but we heard nothing. OH has continued to pay maintenance directly to his ex, and used the online CSA calculator to get an idea of how much he should be paying whilst CSA formally assess it. In addition to this, he pays for various sport club fees, pocket money etc – because as their dad, he wanted to and felt it to be his responsibility.
Last week OH contacted CSA to inform them of our change of address and enquired about how now his daughter was a parent, had left school and had now turned 17, what the situation would be regarding maintenance. We assumed that she would be making a claim for benefits in her own right, especially as she had not taken up her full time college course. It turns out they didn’t know any of this, and proceeded to contact OH’s ex! The sh*t has hit the fan, and all sorts of accusations are now being fired at my OH by his ex and his DD!
Am I right in thinking that ChB would have stopped being paid to the ex when DD didn’t take up her place at college, so claiming in her own right would have been necessary anyway?
If she has perhaps been given an opportunity to join a college course in February or September next year, would the ex be entitled to continue to claim for ChB & CTC in the meantime?
Our assumption was DD would be making a claim for benefits in her own right, mainly to relieve the financial pressure on her mother. OH was worried that any maintenance he was paying would get DD in trouble! But as neither the ex nor DD let OH know what has been happening, he’s in a difficult position trying to do the right thing, and has just upset everyone!
If anyone can advise what ‘should’ be happening, it will give us a starting point from which to try and tackle this. So sorry for the very long-winded post!!! Any advice will be gratefully received. Thanks!
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HUGE mistake! She can turn round and say she never got a penny from him, I hope to god you have proof otherwise he will be paying twice.OH pays maintenance through the CSA, but after a period of redundancy, and then finding full time work in February, he sent info about the changes to his income to the CSA, but we heard nothing. OH has continued to pay maintenance directly to his ex, and used the online CSA calculator to get an idea of how much he should be paying whilst CSA formally assess it. In addition to this, he pays for various sport club fees, pocket money etc – because as their dad, he wanted to and felt it to be his responsibility.*SIGH*
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We have proof of every payment made - thankfully!0
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Claz you may also want to have a quick look at this:
http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/taxcredits/keep-up-to-date/changes-affect/family-change/child-has-child.htm*SIGH*0
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