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Should i be on Jsa??
crossstitchamy
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Hello I'm new to this forum. I would like some friendily and helpful advice.
and i'm very confused in to know what i want and what i may need.
After some encouragement from a friend, i'm finally signing on to look for work as i want work so i have signed on with my partner who is living with me so we are signed on as a couple.
There are some days where i don't want to find work,literally sometimes if theres a job available i say i have applied when i haven't due to nerves and i get ill.
But i have quite a few problems in life.
And i want to leave my parents house for my own dependency not only that i have had an argument with my mum and i need to leave because of that as i am treading on eggshells incase she bursts out trying for more arguments.
i am having difficulty in finding a place to go to availability and money wise. believe me i tried everything. and i am getting quite angry, anxious and upset.
But when i leave i will be worrying about my father who is elderly as my mother and brother nags him to death and no one else including my brother does !!!!!! all around the house apart from me at the moment. so when i'm not there my dad will get more nagged at as i'm not there for them to target me. also when i dont cook the dinner, the dinner will be out of a tin, nothing fresh really. so quite unhealthy meals for my father which he ends up cooking as well.
I had to go to a 20 minute interview with the jobcentre yesterday, i was a bag of nerves, i felt quite silly and when i came home i felt quite drained from it all and shaking. On my first signing i was ok just a little nervous, but yesterday i was a lot nervous.
This happened before when i was on jobseekers. and then i got a job, my mum wanted me out of the house and i used to end up bursting into tears in work. Luckily i didn't need a job interview for the work i had as it was a trial based work.
So i ended up in a bedsit as i had to work in a month in hand before any money came through at christmastime and after packing in my job as i got ill and they were getting fed up of my sick notes i was still in the bedsit and me and my partner had saved a man who had hung himself. and after a while eventually my landlord evicted me illegally and i went back to my parents.
I haven't been to the doctors about any of this at all as i also get nervous about going there and start to panic.
since i have been back home especially recently i haven't been eating much due to not much appetite, i have lost a few stone in the past year, nurse told me many years ago when i was 9 stone that i was underweight.
my guess that the arguements, accusations and treading on eggshells are causing this. Also i had back problems for many of years but have chosen to ignore them as i don't want to be seen as disabled, backpain comes on if i do too much. but recently that has gone worse, i found this out when i was doing the greenhouse, bending over to water the plants with the watering can after a few trips in a row of filling it up then bending the bottom of my back is in pain and my left leg goes limp i thought i was about to fall over.
I don't particularly want to go to the doctors as i wouldn't know how to approach him as i will get nervous as well and that i'm afraid he will sign me off and i don't know what i'm entitled to and i am afraid to be seen as unfit for work hense why i havent done nothing about it before.
I am not sure if i am entitled to any other benefit such as income support anyway as i havent paid enough NI contributions and my partner is on income based jobseekers and he is living with me. yes i have looked these up as i am scared that the jobcentre will take away my jsa as i am sometimes unable to apply for jobs.
I can't even phone an hairdresser to have my hair done, i have to get someone else to do it.
Please don't tell me to get a Job, or tell me i'm lazy and unwilling to work, i want to be normal! telling me to get off my backside will just wind me up so much when i am wanting a job to be like everyone else when the last job i had has practically put me in this situation anyway.
I haven't wrote this to be judged or critisised, i just need some advice.
should i be on jobseekers allowance with all this on my shoulders? any suggestions as i am in a very confusing situation. Thanks for reading.
and i'm very confused in to know what i want and what i may need.
After some encouragement from a friend, i'm finally signing on to look for work as i want work so i have signed on with my partner who is living with me so we are signed on as a couple.
There are some days where i don't want to find work,literally sometimes if theres a job available i say i have applied when i haven't due to nerves and i get ill.
But i have quite a few problems in life.
And i want to leave my parents house for my own dependency not only that i have had an argument with my mum and i need to leave because of that as i am treading on eggshells incase she bursts out trying for more arguments.
i am having difficulty in finding a place to go to availability and money wise. believe me i tried everything. and i am getting quite angry, anxious and upset.
But when i leave i will be worrying about my father who is elderly as my mother and brother nags him to death and no one else including my brother does !!!!!! all around the house apart from me at the moment. so when i'm not there my dad will get more nagged at as i'm not there for them to target me. also when i dont cook the dinner, the dinner will be out of a tin, nothing fresh really. so quite unhealthy meals for my father which he ends up cooking as well.
I had to go to a 20 minute interview with the jobcentre yesterday, i was a bag of nerves, i felt quite silly and when i came home i felt quite drained from it all and shaking. On my first signing i was ok just a little nervous, but yesterday i was a lot nervous.
This happened before when i was on jobseekers. and then i got a job, my mum wanted me out of the house and i used to end up bursting into tears in work. Luckily i didn't need a job interview for the work i had as it was a trial based work.
So i ended up in a bedsit as i had to work in a month in hand before any money came through at christmastime and after packing in my job as i got ill and they were getting fed up of my sick notes i was still in the bedsit and me and my partner had saved a man who had hung himself. and after a while eventually my landlord evicted me illegally and i went back to my parents.
I haven't been to the doctors about any of this at all as i also get nervous about going there and start to panic.
since i have been back home especially recently i haven't been eating much due to not much appetite, i have lost a few stone in the past year, nurse told me many years ago when i was 9 stone that i was underweight.
my guess that the arguements, accusations and treading on eggshells are causing this. Also i had back problems for many of years but have chosen to ignore them as i don't want to be seen as disabled, backpain comes on if i do too much. but recently that has gone worse, i found this out when i was doing the greenhouse, bending over to water the plants with the watering can after a few trips in a row of filling it up then bending the bottom of my back is in pain and my left leg goes limp i thought i was about to fall over.
I don't particularly want to go to the doctors as i wouldn't know how to approach him as i will get nervous as well and that i'm afraid he will sign me off and i don't know what i'm entitled to and i am afraid to be seen as unfit for work hense why i havent done nothing about it before.
I am not sure if i am entitled to any other benefit such as income support anyway as i havent paid enough NI contributions and my partner is on income based jobseekers and he is living with me. yes i have looked these up as i am scared that the jobcentre will take away my jsa as i am sometimes unable to apply for jobs.
I can't even phone an hairdresser to have my hair done, i have to get someone else to do it.
Please don't tell me to get a Job, or tell me i'm lazy and unwilling to work, i want to be normal! telling me to get off my backside will just wind me up so much when i am wanting a job to be like everyone else when the last job i had has practically put me in this situation anyway.
I haven't wrote this to be judged or critisised, i just need some advice.
should i be on jobseekers allowance with all this on my shoulders? any suggestions as i am in a very confusing situation. Thanks for reading.
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Having a disability doesn't always prevent you from working. To claim JSA, you must be available for and actively seeking work - are you?Sealed pot challenge #232. Gold stars from Sue-UU - :staradmin :staradmin £75.29 banked
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Get off your backside and see your GP then.*SIGH*
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I really think that you need to do all you can to help yourself and this must include seeing your doctor. He won't sign you off as he has nothing to sign you off from!0
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Oldernotwiser wrote: »I really think that you need to do all you can to help yourself and this must include seeing your doctor. He won't sign you off as he has nothing to sign you off from!
You see I am not the only one that doesn't go to the GP!!! They really are a waste of time - well mine are.
A bottle of scotch works wonders!!0 -
andyandflo wrote: »You see I am not the only one that doesn't go to the GP!!! They really are a waste of time - well mine are.
A bottle of scotch works wonders!!
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Like others have said you should see your GP.
You should consider getting help on your anxiety/confidence issues. If it helps, take someone along to any appointments you make for support.
Get an overall physical assessment and seek out the guidelines for Employment & Support Allowance (Citizens Advice would give you this information and explain it to you). This is a benefit for people who cannot work because of illness or disability.
You need to consider the likelihood of being eligible for ESA as you cannot claim JSA at the same time.
As for the current JSA claim - you can go on covering up your availability to work for as long as it takes for the jobcentre to find out or when you start missing appointments they set up for you. That's entirely a decision that you have to make, keeping in mind they can sanction you for not sticking to your requirements as a jobseeker.
Remember that if you move out, depending on you and your partner's income, you may be able to claim Housing Benefit (to help with rent) and Council Tax Benefit.
If you do end up working over 30 hours a week you may be able to claim Working Tax Credits.
You should also consider getting help on your anxiety/confidence issues. If it helps, take someone along to any appointments you make for support.0
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