burials

julie03

my nan has said she wants to be buried not cremated, we have never done this in my family so unsure how this is done.

she is under the impression you have to buy a plot before you die, is this true? or is this only the case if you want a say in where you are buried and is this expensive or does all of this depend on where you live.

thanks

julie

margaretclare

julie03 wrote: »

my nan has said she wants to be buried not cremated, we have never done this in my family so unsure how this is done.

she is under the impression you have to buy a plot before you die, is this true? or is this only the case if you want a say in where you are buried and is this expensive or does all of this depend on where you live.

thanks

julie

It is only in comparatively recent times that cremation has become more common than burial, so I am surprised you say 'it has never been done' in your family. In my family it was just normal to be buried in the local church graveyard, and in fact there are 3 generations of my family all buried together.

Useful advice here: http://www.armchairadvice.co.uk/bereavement/dignity/funeral.asp

DH and I are planning for our burials in a local wildflower meadow. We haven't bought a plot. http://www.opticimage.com/thornmead/history.htm

Why don't you talk to your local funeral director and get some information about what is possible where you/your gran live? Usually there are municipal graveyards as well as the church ones.

Errata

julie03 wrote: »

my nan has said she wants to be buried not cremated, we have never done this in my family so unsure how this is done.

she is under the impression you have to buy a plot before you die, is this true? or is this only the case if you want a say in where you are buried and is this expensive or does all of this depend on where you live.

thanks

julie

In most districts burial plots in council cemeteries can either be purchased in advance or as part of the funeral arrangements. If there are empty plots then a particular cemetery can be specified, otherwise there will be a choice of cemeteries which have empty plots.
Cemeteries which are owned by the Church of England will be different.
The cost is probably dependent on whereabouts in the country the cemetery is, but a starting point would be around £1k and there may be a time limit of say, 100 years.
HTH

Biggles

It's not necessary to buy a plot in advance, but it can be done if needed.

My wife was recently buried in a greenwood burial ground, and I bought the plot next door for myself.

ukmaggie45

Biggles wrote: »

My wife was recently buried in a greenwood burial ground, and I bought the plot next door for myself.

My condolences Biggles. But it's nice to think you will be close together eventually. And even nicer that you want to be close to her still when the time comes.

margaretclare

Biggles wrote: »

It's not necessary to buy a plot in advance, but it can be done if needed.

My wife was recently buried in a greenwood burial ground, and I bought the plot next door for myself.

This is exactly what we intend to do, Biggles, in fact, it nearly came to pass in October 2008 because DH was desperately ill from septicaemia. I found out a few things then. I sympathise with you, but there is a comfort in knowing that you've done things as the loved one wanted.

Whereabouts does your Nan live, Julie?

We saw a lovely burial ground a couple of days ago - it's at Epping Forest and is managed by the Essex Wildlife Trust. DH said he couldn't imagine anywhere nicer.

julie03

my nan lives in peterborough, she is 100 next february, so getting her to understand everything is hard as she is quite deaf as well.

i will phone some funeral directors in her area and go from there, thanks for all the advice

parsonswife8

Bless you for being so caring towards your Nan hon.