Disabled and can't find a house to rent!

tbs624

PasturesNew wrote: »

It's a secret society of "in phrases" that only "they" know, whoever "they" are as they club together secretly.

They're making up secret rules together, secretly, so they can pick on Joe Public for not knowing their secret PC ways and phrases that they just made up.

Hardly secret in this particular case PN

The different phrasing is two-fold: it corrects a error in English language usage (see above) and, more importantly, it's about not dehumanising people who have a disability.

The phrase "the disabled" is viewed by many as objectifying disabled people.

System

tbs624 wrote: »

slapping an adjective after the word "the" is where the mangling lies !!!!!!;)

But the word is a verb, adjective and noun. There is nothing wrong with putting 'the' in front of a noun

tawse57

I am sorry to hear about the problems you are facing. I juggled being a carer and my job for years and it almost killed me - my health has never fully recovered so I think, as difficult as it must be financially, that you have made the right decision.

You need to pursue social housing and get put on the list. I don't know where you are in the UK but, from what I have heard on the grapevine, in my part of the world you have to play the system to get bumped up to the top of the queue by housing associations.

I knew a family who were in a similar circumstance as you and because they were good, decent people they remained at the bottom of the housing association list for years... all the time seeing others, other those who knew how to complain and play the system, get allocated lovely flats and houses. In the end they were forced to go against their nature and repeatedly complain, go into the local housing association offices and be quite determined if not forceful in their need for a place, even saying that they were being deliberately discriminated against and you know what... with a a couple of months of this they got their names put at the top of a wonderful new development and moved in about 3 months later... sadly, the wife tragically passed on within a year.

I am telling you this because good people often do not know how to play the system and perhaps you need to reconsider your approach to the local housing associations.

Have you considered getting on board your GP, your local Councillor and even your MP in getting a decent place via a housing association? The GP could vouch for the need re your family health to get put near the top of the list and both the Councillor and MP could do you wonders.

The only other thing I can think of is local or national charities who may or may not be able to help in some way.

tawse57

Jowo wrote: »

OP, please note - your partner is not disabled as you have indicated but has a disability.

Ridiculous. The man has a real problem that needs a practical solution and you are worrying about a use of language.

No wonder this country is in such a mess.

A n al

Gwhiz

tawse57 wrote: »

Ridiculous. The man has a real problem that needs a practical solution and you are worrying about a use of language.

No wonder this country is in such a mess.

A n al

I think you meant that fortbsS624, not Jowo (who was making a sarcastic, and, in my eyes, justified jab at tbs who needs to get a life)!!!!

tbs624

Gwhiz wrote: »

I think you meant that fortbsS624, not Jowo (who was making a sarcastic, and, in my eyes, justified jab at tbs who needs to get a life)!!!!

All view points welcome Gwhiz , even from people who use lots of exclamation marks, as if writing a teenage diary

Failure to recognise when some phraseology may cause offence to *people* to whom those terms are applied is a sign of the terminally ignorant. Some people do, of course, choose to be ignorant but there is help out there for you

thistledome

tbs624 wrote: »

The different phrasing is two-fold: it corrects a error in English language usage (see above) and, more importantly, it's about not dehumanising people who have a disability.

The phrase "the disabled" is viewed by many as objectifying disabled people.

Don't you mean it objectifies people who have a disability?

Mupette

This isn't a thread about where to put your exclamation marks, although i have a few suggestions on that.

OP Really do think about Social housing.

I have been in social housing for 17 years, not because i am a chav or lazy or couldn't be bothered to better myself.

I just could not afford on the wages i was on to go private or even buy.

I too am disabled, and once you have handed in you medical notes, they will provide these, you will be assessed on your needs.

When it was decided my last property was unsuitable it was 10 months of being housebound, I now have a brand new purpose built for disabled and elderly bungalow.

I couldn't be happier with my home, it makes my living hell of a life more bearable.

The is no stigma unless you want it to be, social housing isn't just for those who can't be bothered, it is for those that need it.