What help is there for Teen parents?

Oldernotwiser

nottslass wrote: »

They will both be parents to the baby & suggesting that the Dad lives away from his partner and baby is absurd especially as this young couple are obviously trying to be a family & do whats best for their baby - Young Dads nowadays are more than happy to do the 2am feed and spend time bonding with their child.

You can be a family without living together, particularly as the OP says, " at the moment they don't feel ready to live together." At this point in their lives it's more important that they prepare themselves to be financially self supporting in the future than that they play mummies and daddies in the short term.

nottslass_2

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

You can be a family without living together, particularly as the OP says, " at the moment they don't feel ready to live together." At this point in their lives it's more important that they prepare themselves to be financially self supporting in the future than that they play mummies and daddies in the short term.

Actually you've miss quoted the OP.

The OP was asking about benefit entitlement and was not asking for opinions /suggestions on whether or not they should live together and the couple concerned have obviously already made that decision.

alwaysonthego_2

nottslass wrote: »

Actually you've miss quoted the OP.

The OP was asking about benefit entitlement and was not asking for opinions /suggestions on whether or not they should live together and the couple concerned have obviously already made that decision.

We was also looking from a money saving view that the op would lose her benefits for her son if his GF moved in. The OP has acknowledged the advice that we have given and has not dismissed it. In your last post you also seemed to be offering your opinion;

nottslass wrote:

They will both be parents to the baby & suggesting that the Dad lives away from his partner and baby is absurd especially as this young couple are obviously trying to be a family & do whats best for their baby - Young Dads nowadays are more than happy to do the 2am feed and spend time bonding with their child.

Sam____2

nottslass wrote: »

They will both be parents to the baby & suggesting that the Dad lives away from his partner and baby is absurd especially as this young couple are obviously trying to be a family & do whats best for their baby - Young Dads nowadays are more than happy to do the 2am feed and spend time bonding with their child.

why is it absurd? they are very young and would probably both benefit from staying with their own parents and finishing their education, rather that than end up in a house they can't afford to run and getting themselves in a rut...

nottslass_2

Sam___ wrote: »

why is it absurd? they are very young and would probably both benefit from staying with their own parents and finishing their education, rather that than end up in a house they can't afford to run and getting themselves in a rut...

If you'd read the OP,you'd know that was never an option and they were planning on living together with parents - but unfortunately some people decided to express their opinion and felt that it would be somehow be preferable for the father to live apart from his partner & baby.

Sam____2

nottslass wrote: »

If you'd read the OP,you'd know that was never an option and they were planning on living together with parents - but unfortunately some people decided to express their opinion and felt that it would be somehow be preferable for the father to live apart from his partner & baby.

I read the OP thank you, and I think you'll find that's what the she would prefer also. And if you read her further posts she actually thanks people for their input, so you can stop being offended by proxy there really is no need...


perhaps it's you that needs to re read the OP?




:Hi All

My son and his girlfriend are both 16 and have unfortunately found themselves pregnant.

They both want to go through college, although she has had to put that on hold for 12 months, and at the moment they don't feel ready to live together.

Firstly what help could she get if she was to live with her mum and dad, who both work, in order to go to college.

Secondly if they decided to both live with me (which could be a possibility) what help could they and I get.

I am a single parent of 4 children (1 now lives with her father so only 3 at home), the 16 year old is the oldest. I claim tax credits etc.

What I would really like for them is to continue at college with her starting next september. There is a very good nursery near my work and my hours would allow me to help alot but i'm not too sure how the tax credits and childcare help etc would work.

thankyou in advance for any advice

nottslass_2

Sam___ wrote: »

I read the OP thank you, and I think you'll find that's what the she would prefer also. And if you read her further posts she actually thanks people for their input, so you can stop being offended by proxy there really is no need...

You obviously haven't bothered to properly read or understand the entire thread - especially the post where onm mis-quotes the OP and offers a personal opinion which incidentally had nothing to do with benefit entitlement.

If you bother to re read the actual post that I was responding to I think that you'll find that Older not wiser was suggesting that the couple did not live together as a couple at either parents house - which is what they have already decided that they want to do !

Duncombe

xmumof4:->x wrote: »

Hi All

at the moment they don't feel ready to live together.

Firstly what help could she get if she was to live with her mum and dad, who both work, in order to go to college.

Secondly if they decided to both live with me (which could be a possibility) what help could they and I get.

nottslass wrote: »

If you'd read the OP,you'd know that was never an option and they were planning on living together with parents - but unfortunately some people decided to express their opinion and felt that it would be somehow be preferable for the father to live apart from his partner & baby.

I think it is YOU who have misread the OP.

Go back and read it again. Or if you are feeling lazy, read the bits I have highlighted above.

The couple have 2 choices; the girl lives with her parents, or they both live with the boys mothers.

Nowhere did the OP say her son and his gf were 'planning on living together' as you put it. Infact, she said the exact opposite.

And the boy living apart from his gf and baby may be a preferable situation. If finances are tight for all those concerned, and this is the best option for them then why should they be encouraged otherwise? Because you think that a young family should be pushed into living together?

Your posts seem as though they are just trying to throw a spanner in the works. The OP is happy with the feedback she has received from other posters. If you can't offer anything constructive, dont comment.

Sam____2

Duncombe wrote: »

I think it is YOU who have misread the OP.

Go back and read it again. Or if you are feeling lazy, read the bits I have highlighted above.

The couple have 2 choices; the girl lives with her parents, or they both live with the boys mothers.

Nowhere did the OP say her son and his gf were 'planning on living together' as you put it. Infact, she said the exact opposite.

And the boy living apart from his gf and baby may be a preferable situation. If finances are tight for all those concerned, and this is the best option for them then why should they be encouraged otherwise? Because you think that a young family should be pushed into living together?

Your posts seem as though they are just trying to throw a spanner in the works. The OP is happy with the feedback she has received from other posters. If you can't offer anything constructive, dont comment.

thanks, was doubting myself there for a mo, that's exactly how I read it

nottslass_2

xmumof4:->x wrote: »

Hi All

My son and his girlfriend are both 16 and have unfortunately found themselves pregnant.

They both want to go through college, although she has had to put that on hold for 12 months, and at the moment they don't feel ready to live together.

Firstly what help could she get if she was to live with her mum and dad, who both work, in order to go to college.

Secondly if they decided to both live with me (which could be a possibility) what help could they and I get.

I am a single parent of 4 children (1 now lives with her father so only 3 at home), the 16 year old is the oldest. I claim tax credits etc.

What I would really like for them is to continue at college with her starting next september. There is a very good nursery near my work and my hours would allow me to help alot but i'm not too sure how the tax credits and childcare help etc would work.

thankyou in advance for any advice

xmumof4:->x wrote: »

Thank you all for your help. I will have a look at all the links later.

There is no way that they are ready to live together in a flat or house. I'm not even sure if they are ready to live together with either me or her parents but I am willing to let them try.

I work 9 til 3 every weekday so if she went to college the baby would have to go to a creche for them hours.

My son has just started his college course so I am now in receipt of his child benefit and tax credits. Obviously if his girlfriend was to move in then that would change (woudn't it?).

I don't want this to ruin there lives and I am not one of those people that thinks they should suffer for their mistakes by giving there dreams up to look after the baby. I just need to know that we are going to be able to afford to live.

I take the above to mean "they" want to live together.

BTW I would have thought that they will be treated as a "couple" for benefit purposes regardless of living arrangements.