Benefits, living with ex partner

nannytone_2

op - you say if you rented, it would be a single room and as a lodger. isn't that what you are already doing?
the 10k youve spent 'doing up#' the property isnt a bad amount of rent to have paid over the past 6 years really.

Oldernotwiser

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Wouldn't a serious alcoholic would possibly have trouble holding down a full time job?

There are many functioning alcoholics that hold down responsible full time employment, just as there are drug addicts who do the same. Not all substance abusers are in the gutter!

Duncombe

cazzasmazza wrote: »

I agree with the other posters on here that I think you are stuffed benefits-wise

Aptly put.

Good luck with the job hunt OP.

vapd

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Wouldn't a serious alcoholic would possibly have trouble holding down a full time job?

No! I used to be friends with a heroin user. He lived and worked fine for all the years I knew him. Until he died of an overdose. After about 8 years of use.

My ex is on flexy time and there are different types of alcoholic. Some can be fine for a while then go mental. Thats what she does. So when she isnt drinking she does extra long days and builds time up or pays off any deficit. When shes drinking (she only has to get in for 10am) and can do 1.5 hours, have a long lunch break to top up, go back for 2 hours and then go back down the pub! The others must smell the booze but its not against the law and as long as she does her allotted hours and no one complains about the work it can be done.

Actually I used to be an alchy, maybe thats why I was so tolerant. I used to poor wine into a 500ml soft drinks bottle and I could take it to the toilets when I felt dodgy, drink a third, swill some tooth paste, go back to work. Do that three times a shift and you can keep off the withdrawal symptoms. I sorted myself many years ago and can now drink now and again without any problem. I was very depressed at the time.

vapd

nannytone wrote: »

op - you say if you rented, it would be a single room and as a lodger. isn't that what you are already doing?
the 10k youve spent 'doing up#' the property isnt a bad amount of rent to have paid over the past 6 years really.

Yes I said to Sam_ that when it was worked out like that it made sense. Of course one should not ignore that that is a minimum estimate. And that she spent less in the same period.

Not sure what the quotes mean around 'doing up' but we had a complete reroof, inc sky lights. I converted the attic into an office, insulating with I think it was 80mm in the rafters and 100mm in the joists (paid for all that myself). I did the garden, turning it from an overgrown mess of brambles and nettles into a nice lawn with a new shed, 3 raised beds of good size, BBQ area and decking. And we had a new kitchen (range cooker, loads of room) put in what was the the master bedroom (its a detached bungalow) and converted the old kitchen into the new master bedroom and the list goes on. I have invested a lot of time and quite a bit of cash into this place.

So although I am now a bit limited to one room (and the attic) as a lodger ATM I still have the garden, I mowed the law and did the edges today. And I am actually in love with the woman and want to get back together. But she dosent.

nannytone_2

she may have spent less, but its HER house.
it's unfortunate that no one left a house to you instead, but thats how it goes. no ones left me a house either!

vapd

nannytone wrote: »

she may have spent less, but its HER house.
it's unfortunate that no one left a house to you instead, but thats how it goes. no ones left me a house either!

If only she married me when I asked!

Like I said thou, I promised I would not try to take half of it when I moved in.

And I still dont know the quotes on 'Doing up#' meant.

kb92830

As stated the common law spouse no longer exists, it was abolished back in the 1753 following the introduction of the Hardwicke marriage act, however, if you can show a level of contribution to the household you may have a claim against the asset. This can be demonstrated by the provision of bank statements showing contributions to household bills or housekeeping money. Have you spoken to her regarding a settlement, even if she were prepare to give a nominal amoout of say £5k this is enough to start you off, alternatively go to the benefits office stating that due to the seperation you are now effectively homeless with insufficient income to provide housing for yourself. It appears the biggest complication you have is that you still currently share a property with her and therefore it is difficult to say you are seperated. The other course of action is for her to issue you with a 28 day eviction notice based on the fact it is her house and she no longer wants you living there, again this can be presented to the benefits office which should then consider emergency housing.