Do you celebrate your anniversary?

jackieglasgow

I'm not a card sort of person, but MIL always remembers (even though we eloped, but that's a whoooole other story) and gives us a card with £40 in for a night out, or to buy something for the house. Which I really appreciate, but am a bit embarrassed accepting. OH always buys me a card, and I usually get him one if money's tight we don't bother with gifts, but we always make the effort to have the day off work together, and if the kids aren't around we spend the morning in the house and go out for something to eat. If not it's a family day out.

You need to make sure you make it clear to those who matter that you'd like them to celebrate it with you, in our house its a private day really, and I don't mind if no one else remembers but OH on the other hand does.
I should just add that 10 was a lovely tin and diamond necklace from Cornwall, which I had heavily hinted about, lol - but 8, 9, 11 and 12 have been lean with not much in the way of gifts except a bar of chocolate I think.

Mayflower10cat

A very, very happy 10th wedding anniversary to you both. I'm trying to recall what the 10th is, something strange like pottery or cotton???!!!! It should be pans or ceramic hobs at the very least?!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, we celebrate anniversaries in our families. Despite my FiL remarking, grumpily at his 50th reading all the cards, 'what makes you think it's all been so damn' great anyway................" Infact my husband (we were living together, engaged for 8 years before we got married in 1994) still 'marks' the day we first met, which amazed me as I'd absolutely forgotten the exact date!

I think the fact that we hold everyone elses anniversaries as being very important seems to reinforce their importance, in our eyes, to our families and also our friends. I do think it's something nice to celebrate, I really do.

We don't really do anything extra special for ours, mainly because we got married barely a week before my birthday, so the two occasions do blend into one. But cards, usually home-made and often a bit rude, do feature heavily! Actually, this year we went out for a very good lunch at a decent local restaurant, we asked my parents if they'd join us and they were surprised and delighted to be invited. We booked taxis and ordered a bottle of Bollinger (actually the set lunch menu was such incredible value & really great food) and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.

I do think anniversaries deserve to be celebrated! These day, to be married in 'double figures' really is something special!!

nearlyrich

We got married abroad and family and friends were always moaning about us not having a party, not in a nasty way, on our tenth wedding anniversary they arranged a surprise party for us, we usually just buy a card and as the date is just a few days after my birthday I don't expect extra pressies although I did get a lovely diamond cluster ring from DH on our 10th anniversary.

OP happy anniversay did you drop any hints to DH about what you would like for this special anniversary, most of them need a bit of a push !!!

mountainofdebt

Have been married 20yrs and tbh the only one who sends a card is my mum - who also lets OH off the hook by buying me flowers as well. Having said that I was impressed that Junior managed to send a text wishing us a happy anniversary as he was away (and without being reminded!)

We might go out for a meal but its usually nothing 'special' iyswim.

Doesn't bother me though - its what we do for each other the other 364 days of the year that matters.

Any

We celebrate our anniversary usually by going to a restaurant.
I also get a card from my best friend. I find it a bit daft, but she is big on cards so I go along with it. I know it is important to her so I would never dare to forget about her Bdays and such. (not that she would let me:-))

My MIL got me massive bunch of flowers last year - I personally think that is only because she was worried my OH will forget :-)) Which he would if his son didn't call him every day of the week to remind him:-))

If it matters to you, then let them know. But if you give them cards etc then surely they should do the same?? It's only polite if nothing else!!

JodyBPM

DH and I usually cook a nice meal in together, occasionally we go out or away for the weekend but with the two little children its hard! We have been married 7 years in October. For our 5th we had a couple of couples over for a full out dinner party, but otherwise its just between ourselves. We rarely get cards, but sometime token gifts for each other. A couple of people send us cards, but that always seems a bit odd to me, I kind of think of our anniversary as between DH and myself and am always suprised that others remember it!
I'm not terribly big on anniversaries (apart from milestone ones), but I'm not that big on (adults) birthdays either. A meal out or a takeaway in would probably be the most I'd think of.

jackieglasgow

Oh and Happy Anniversary, where are my manners? Sorry! And ten is tin, chuck a tin of beans at him, he won't forget to get you a pressie in future

LillythePink

Aww happy anniversay!

We will celebrate future ones, I get my parents a card, but don't tend to get/send to other people (MIL is widowed)

I must admit I was a bit sad that OH didn't get me a gift but did buy a bunch of flowers (which were dying as he had bought them the night before and left them in his car - it was August and hot!) when I got him a pressie - it was our first anniversay

We did go out for a nice meal (cost £190!!) as we had a bottle of champers

kirwell81

Happy anniversary!

We've just celebrated our first wedding anniversary and as I had just had a little luck on the lottery decided to get OH tickets for the British Grand Prix (paper). I'm hoping he remembers this come the diamond, ruby anniversaries etc!

I always send a card to my two friends who I was a bridesmaid for and they both sent them to us this year (even though we !!!!!!ed off abroad and didn't invite anyone when we tied the knot!). Also got cards from MIL and her one of OH's aunts but they both love making cards and will use any excuse to send a card! Like I said this was our first wedding anniversary so I'm guessing it will likely tail off in years to come.

scottishminnie

Congratulations on your 10th anniversary.

I'm heading for 21 years next week and both sets of parents will send a card and I will give one to hubby however I won't receive one back. I got one on our first anniversary which I know my mum bought for him and he only signed it. It doesn't bother me though, he's just not that kind of guy, doesn't do birthday cards or Christmas cards either and avoids present buying like the plague as he simply doesn't ever go shopping.

Usually when we are on holiday (which tends to co-incide with my b/day and our anniversary anyway) he will ask me to choose something. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I'm kind of at the stage of thinking how many posessions do I need anyway?

I would like a bunch of flowers at some point in our marriage though - the only time he evergave me flowers was when he gave me a box of pansy seedlings which he'd bought when making a delivery to a plant nursery!
I have to admit they lasted a whole summer, miles longer than a dozen roses would have done:D