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Mupette

dmg24 wrote: »

That would not mean you are on IB ESA, the same would happen for someone on CB ESA.

I did ring them and they did tell me which one it was and I did write it down, i am sure it is income related.

But i am satisfied that when i marry this will all go and i am fine for this to happen.

dmg24

Mupette wrote: »

I did ring them and they did tell me which one it was and I did write it down, i am sure it is income related.

But i am satisfied that when i marry this will all go and i am fine for this to happen.

Are you not going to live together before you are married?

dmg24

According to this thread, you are on IB ESA.

bestpud

Mupette wrote: »

That's fair enough.

I've been married before, for 10 years, been divorced for 11 years now and i just don't want to ruin this relationship, if it means we take our time then so be it. I just don't see the rush to go and live with each other, for the sake of someone thinks it's morally wrong, tbh deep down it's living in sin isn't it?

Morally wrong would be to have your partner practically live with you and claim benefits as a single person, which i am most definitely not doing, but you seem to think i am. Been waiting a year for social services to decided wether i was allowed to have direct payments to pay for someone to come in and help me to take the pressure off OH and DS, now i can have that (once they decided how much and how many hours) there would be no need for him to stay ever, not even for one night.

I don't think you are living together at all - if I did, I'd have said outright.

It's a moral issue for just that reason.

You have a long term partner who you intend to marry and who plays a big part in your life and yet you won't make it an 'official' relationship until the child related benefits dry up.

Once your income drops considerably, you will suddenly find it ok to move in with your partner and combine your incomes.

In the meantime, you may have separate finances and homes but you are basically sharing a life in every other way.

It just seems wrong to me but it's just my opinion.

Mupette

dmg24 wrote: »

Are you not going to live together before you are married?

Will not be living together until we are married.

dmg24 wrote: »

According to this thread, you are on IB ESA.

I thought it was income

sunnyone

If it is contributions based ESA you would keep it after your marrage and you said that you worked, did you fulfil the requirement for NI contributions for contributions based ESA?

Mupette

sunnyone wrote: »

If it is contributions based ESA you would keep it after your marrage and you said that you worked, did you fulfil the requirement for NI contributions for contributions based ESA?

I haven't a clue. sorry