Hospital aftercare for daughter?

74jax

My daughter is staying at her Dads at the moment and has today has sadly fractured her metatarsal. Been to hospital and it is in a temporary cast, she goes back tomorrow at 9am to have her main cast fitted in whatever colour she chooses (she's quite excited over this). Anyway, she didn't want me to go and visit her tonight as has painkillers, going to sleep (happened about 2 hours ago) but i'm going over to go for the appointment with the bone specialist with her and her step mum tomorrow at 9am to see about aftercare etc.

Anyway, on speaking to her Dad tonight, he said the person he saw today said to keep her appointments at that hospital (we live a 3hour round trip away from each other) and that way continuity would be kept, I agreed.

Obviously I'm upset it happened when I wasn't there, daughter was distraught on the phone at first, then calmed down when she found out about coloured plaster casts etc and so i've been walking around in a daze - wanting to go over, not going over, wanting to go over etc. So i've decided that due to the distance and the fact that she only goes to her dads once a fortnight that I do want her transfered to a hospital near us.

I don't want a problem to occur, for me to have to call her dad's hospital which is 100 miles away and have to travel there to have her treated.

Do you think I'm being unreasonable to say tomorrow that i've changed my mind? Does it seem that i'm not prepared to travel to take her to the same hospital and that i'm not having her best interested at heart by changing specialists.

I would also like to make sure that on her forms she has my details down as next of kin and her doctors details with me - am I ok to request to see what has been taken already and rectify the details?

Her dad and I get on so well, I don't want him to think I'm taking over, but I am the main carer and want to deal with everything over where we live.

Tomorrow at the hospital I'll be meeting my daughter and her step mum and I don't want her to think i'm walking all over her by asking about the forms etc as I appreciate completely the care they've given our daughter.

I'm just not sure the best way to appraoch this. Any ideas?

Wilma33

How old is your daughter?

74jax

Wilma33 wrote: »

How old is your daughter?

She is 12.

supersavershal

Hi, I am a sister on a paediatric unit.At the hospital that I work in we take both parents details and telephone numbers (families being separated is very common) our paperwork is designed in such a way that we ask who everyone is, who has responsibility for the child and the G.P. This is also a mandatory requirement for safeguarding purposes.It is also quite common to transfer the care of a child to their local hospital and it would be a good idea in this case, should the childs arm swell under the cast it becomes an emergency that the cast is split, the x-rays are now computerised so can be sent on a disc with the child.It is quite easy to arrange a transfer of care.Dont be worried your daughters situation is actually quite common.x

74jax

supersavershal wrote: »

Hi, I am a sister on a paediatric unit.At the hospital that I work in we take both parents details and telephone numbers (families being separated is very common) our paperwork is designed in such a way that we ask who everyone is, who has responsibility for the child and the G.P. This is also a mandatory requirement for safeguarding purposes.It is also quite common to transfer the care of a child to their local hospital and it would be a good idea in this case, should the childs arm swell under the cast it becomes an emergency that the cast is split, the x-rays are now computerised so can be sent on a disc with the child.It is quite easy to arrange a transfer of care.Dont be worried your daughters situation is actually quite common.x

Thank you for that. A friend did mention that you can request for a Cd with xrays on to be transfered with your child.

I think I am maybe worrying a little more than I normally would due to the fact I am not with her now, although after many calls and texts she seems as best as she can, and I think is looking forward to a coloured cast 'for eveyone to sign'.

I also didn't want my ex and his wife to think I was treading on their toes as they have been extremely kind and helpful, but I guess I just want everything dealt with here.

Savvy_Sue

I might approach it by asking what follow up there is going to be. Surely they will be able to see that if you're going to have to go back at regular intervals then it makes more sense for it to be local. Once physio starts it could be a nightmare!

I know it's school holidays at the moment, but once they are over she presumably sees her dad at weekends only. And that's not exactly convenient for hospital appointments!