Trying for a Baby Part Six

cleomolly

On the subject of telling families, that's the one thing I can't wait to do put a great big smile on my mil's face, and I'm sure my family will be just as pleased, especially my dad as he loves my step sister;s lil one to bits. Its def gona be an exciting time that I can't wait for hopefully Christmas time (everything crossed)

Tinkerbell88_2

Thanks for all your comments - Im ok, it was still early days but difficult not to get excited after we got the bfp.

Congrats to Bugsaboo and Anderson8 :j

Hopefully there will be many more BFPs to come in December!

i_love_holidays_2

Congratulations anderson8 & bugsaboo :j:j:j:j

Well the start of BFP and hope theres a few more before the end of the month!!

Re Little Angel i am scared on what some people will say although quite a lot of our family know we are trying i think when it actually happens that they wont be as happy as we would like them too - i never get why someones happiness is always overshadowed by someone elses comment even tho they are happy in every possible way iykwim
its not like we were never going to have a family we have waited 11 years to start trying but only because i was young when we first met and never been ready before now - must admit we have had a ball in the life we have led

CD13 for me - started OPK on Friday but nothing positive yet although we have been away this weekend and couldnt help but try:rotfl:

Would be nice to finish a brilliant year with a BFP roll on December!!!!

RedwoodBrook

I'm not sure if this is the right board for me to join, but my partner and I are currently trying to conceive after the stillbirth of our son on October 14th. I was 36 weeks pregnant and he was due 9 days ago, and its getting harder not easier to cope with his death. I would almost certainly have him by now and its difficult knowing I never will.

I know 5 weeks down the line may seem very quick, but I can't describe the feeling of longing I have. My pregnany with Felix was not planned and I would be lying if I said i wasn't scared. I was half way through my final year at University when I fell pregnant and I spent weeks feeing resentful that I had worked hard for 3 years for nothing, but as time progressed things changed and he was so desperatly wanted. The thought I might not get to take him home never crossed my mind.

I'm not sure how much detail you guys go into with regards to ladybits and periods, but I could really do with having a chat about things. At 21, I dont think my fertility will be an issue and I was taking the pill when I fell pregnant in February. I just don't know when my body will get back to normal cycles and no one seems to be able to tell me.

I just read some of the posts above and congratulations to those who have BFP's. I hope I can join you soon.

Wonder_Womble

Welcome Redwood and (((hugs))) for Felix

I think everyone feels scared and unsure when they get pg, especially when it is not planned. That doesn't detract from how you feel now, and I imagine it will get more difficult before it gets better because you're grieving.

I can't offer any advice about when your periods will get back to normal, but I'm sure someone will be along soon who can. Apparently you are more fertile after giving birth so unless your Doctor has placed any restrictions on DTD then I would get cracking if I were you.

I don't think anyone can judge whether it is too soon and what is an acceptable length of time to wait, it is different for everyone. Only you know what it right for you.

BTW I don't think there is such a thing as too much information on this thread, so ask away

Are you taking folic acid? If not, start as soon as possible.

Do you plan on using anything to predict ovulation, such as ovulation predictor kits, or a clear blue fertility monitor? I would recommend keeping a track of your cycles each month so that you know what is normal for you.

Be aware that regular lube can affect whether you get pg, if you use lube try using Preseed or Conceive Plus instead as this apparently helps the sperm meet the egg.

Hpe that helps and I haven't overloaded you.

RedwoodBrook

No restrictions as far as I know. Not really a whole lot of anything if Im honest. But I do know that now is the right time for me. I was happy, and now Im not.

There were no complications with the birth, but I bled for 3 weeks afterwards, then stopped for a week, then started bleeding again last Friday. I can only assume this is a period? There is no pain so I dont think it is anything "wrong", although it doesnt feel like my periods used to and its not showing any signs of stopping 9 days on... My periods used to be 3-4 days max. Is a change in this department normal after giving birth?

If I do get pregnant this month, it will be measured from 12th Nov - Felix's due date Irony at its worst

Not using any lube but I may have to find one of the ones you've suggested if it's supposed to help.

I also wasn't planning on using an ovulation predictor, mainly because everything in my body is a bit messed up anyway. I wasn't sure if it would be of any use. We have been having sex every other day or so for the last 2 weeks so if i have ovulated and my body is ready for pregnancy there is no way sperm hasnt gotten to where it should have done.

pawpurrs

Welcome Redbrook,
I am so sorry for your loss, I have just lost my baby boy too, after having had him less than two weeks ago, I have the longing that you have and thats perfectly normal after a loss. I have been told that after birth it can take a while for your periods to return and everyone is different, if you were very regular before, then you are more likely to return quickly, normally between 4 to 8 weeks after you should get a period, but you can still get pg before hand. It can be wise to wait untill after a period, to TTC again, or at least 4 weeks to let your cervix recover etc, as if its still weakened then the chance of mc can be greater.
There are some fantastic support groups on babycentre, trying after loss, etc that I am a member on but stay here as well.
Big hugs hun, its so hard/

natsing

QQuaver wrote: »

How are you doing it?

TMI The way I do it is, I don't sit on the loo, but near enough, and look at the pee between my legs. I let it out a bit to find the location, then POAS for 3 secs perfectly. Is that what everyone else do?

Hi QQ

I'm definitely better PIAC, I just can't go if I'm not sitting (mostly!), I have a plastic cup that means as little disturbance as possible.

Redwood, very sorry for your loss, sorry I can't help with the period questions I'm afraid, eventually you will get back to normal though.

deborahmcgeachy

Thanks Fanta!!!
And welcome and hugs to Redwood, I was also going to say about being very fertile after such a loss as yours, you might find that elusive period never arrives!!!

Well I finally managed to make a move on tidying and gutting my bedroom and put a whole load of CDs and DVDs on to musicmagpie.com but boy do they buy you off cheap!!! :eek: They wanted to pay me 30p for a 4 CD boxset!! :eek: But anyway its cleared some room now so I can't complain and after reading the carboot thread I'd rather people weren't cheeky to me or give it to charity!!!

So my cramp hasn't been to bad today and its back to work for me tomorrow after a week off!!!

RedwoodBrook

deborahmcgeachy wrote: »

Thanks Fanta!!!
And welcome and hugs to Redwood, I was also going to say about being very fertile after such a loss as yours, you might find that elusive period never arrives!!!

I really hope you are right. My partner is 24 and lost both his parents in the last 12 months. I think between us we are due some good luck. Fingers crossed for us and everyone else TTC.