Should I accept this job?

gazfocus

scootw1 wrote: »

It's for getting benefits advice but the way the OP is coming over it sounds as if they are asking "I get x amount now, shall I bother working as I would be still be on roughly x amount on benefits" and hasn't really considered that there are other reasons for working other than just for money.

While I don't want to get into any bitter debates, I don't see what your problem is. Yes, we get x amount on benefits (due to my fiance having a disability, not due to me not having/wanting a job) and yes, I am trying to work out which situation would make us better off.

If the situation was that by working, after travel expenses, we would have the same money, of course I would rather go to work, but I wasn't sure that that was the case as I thought we would lose all housing benefit and council tax benefit. I don't see why you can't understand that I wouldn't be able to go to work to end up with less money than what we get now...afterall it's not like we're well off.

As I said, I want to get a job because I want to be in the position in a couple of years to buy a small house so we don't have to keep throwing money away at renting. Please don't think we want to 'survive' on the benefits system because that's not what either of us want.

gazfocus

McKneff wrote: »

Actually, it does offend me. My OH is nearly blind, he has not been able to work for 10 years and got IB, no help with anything else. £6. odd for a tiny bottle of eye drops once a month. No help because i worked.
I have osteporous, pernicious aneamia, arthritis and still manage to work full time up to last October and part time since i hit retirement age, never gave a thought to giving it up, even though i could have done, and got nearly as much on benefits. I suppose Im old school, with parents who worked their socks off ill or not.
So now you know why people like you offend me.

Rant over, I'm off.

Do you think my fiance asked to be disabled, resulting in her being too scared to go out of the house on her own or even ask for a bus ticket? Well she didn't and it's down to me to try and provide a good life for both of us, so excuse me if I don't want to make our financial situation worse by going and getting a low paid job!

dmg24

gazfocus wrote: »

Do you think my fiance asked to be disabled, resulting in her being too scared to go out of the house on her own or even ask for a bus ticket? Well she didn't and it's down to me to try and provide a good life for both of us, so excuse me if I don't want to make our financial situation worse by going and getting a low paid job!

Quality of life is about so much more than money. Would it not motivate your girlfriend if she saw you going out everyday and taking a pride in your life? It must be pretty miserable with both of you just sat in the house all day.

Killmark

gazfocus wrote: »

Do you think my fiance asked to be disabled, resulting in her being too scared to go out of the house on her own or even ask for a bus ticket? Well she didn't and it's down to me to try and provide a good life for both of us, so excuse me if I don't want to make our financial situation worse by going and getting a low paid job!

Just to play devils advocate here.

If she can't go out, interact with anyone, how will her situation ever improve?

Is she getting the help she needs?

I'm sure before the advent of the welfare state people managed it, or were supported by their partners rather than the state, no matter how low paid the job was, they would just do an additional job to top there income.

Atleast with a "low paid job" you are more likely to get a better paid one.

hermum

Maybe the OP needs to know that they can afford to live, they weren't sure whether they'd be entitled to anything if he takes this job. Most of us on benefits are just managing, if they were to lose £800 a year in hard cash & then have to pay travel, work clothes & other associated costs with working. It could in actual fact have meant that they could not exist.

Duncombe

hermum wrote: »

It could in actual fact have meant that they could not exist.

Thats abit of an exaggeration...

milliebear00001

It seems absolutely fair enough that the OP shouldn't want to be worse off financially by working. They have already acknowledged that work offers more rewards than the merely financial. The income levels being discussed are very low, and the loss of income being discussed as a possibility may well make taking the job a deal-breaker. You don't know all the ins and outs of the OP's home situation or expenditure, and that is why this board is not about judging people when they ask a question.

If you are offended - don't post.