Writing a letter from beyond the grave

slopemaster

Another question about death – I thought I’d separate it from the other as its not really about money saving…
I want to leave a bundle of info and instructions about bank accounts etc, (with a copy of my will) to simplify things if I die, and it seems wrong to do this without also leaving a personal letter expressing my love for each of the people who will inherit anything. But it feels very odd trying to write a letter ‘from beyond the grave’, to be read after your death. Anyone any thoughts or advice about that?
Thanks

moonpenny

Hi slopemaster,

Regarding leaving info about bank accounts etc, I think Age Concern do a sort of form that you fill in so you can leave all the important details in one document. (Someone posted about it on here, I think!)

As for the personal letters, I think it is a lovely idea and I keep thinking about doing this myself.

I imagine it will be extremely hard to put down in words how you feel, and I imagine just as hard to read, but also comforting for those left behind.

The hard part will be sitting down and actually writing it.

Savvy_Sue

It's the Lifebook from Age UK (the merged Age Concern and Help the Aged).

BLT_2

slopemaster wrote: »

Another question about death – I thought I’d separate it from the other as its not really about money saving…
I want to leave a bundle of info and instructions about bank accounts etc, (with a copy of my will) to simplify things if I die, and it seems wrong to do this without also leaving a personal letter expressing my love for each of the people who will inherit anything. But it feels very odd trying to write a letter ‘from beyond the grave’, to be read after your death. Anyone any thoughts or advice about that?
Thanks

Yep, make sure you post it before you kick the bucket, it could be a bit difficult afterwards.

tocsin

Anybody you know who is in the forces? We have to consider this sort of thing each time we are deployed... (and yes, I am over 50!).

To be serious, sorting out the financial stuff is the first priority, but even a short "and I love you all" would work.

SailorSam

I've written that sort of letter and left it with my will, it's mostly saying why i've chosen to leave what to whom.

slopemaster

I saw a suggestion that what most people need to say can be summed up as
 Will you please forgive me?
 I forgive you.
 Thank you.
 I love you.
 Goodbye