divorce

santashelper_2

i am fuming how can you leave someone who has controlled your life bullied you physically and mentally and used your money to set up a business put all the assets in their name all the debts in yours be able to hold onto it all and when you try to fight for yours the law seems to be on their side.

I am going to become homeless in the next few months if nothing is done and nobody seems to give a damn i have applied for legal aid they seem to think there is not enough to fight for although the other person has over 400,000 of my share of the marital assets and i have all the debts i am in desperate need of some advice if anyone has gone through this i would appreciate your advice.

At the moment there seems to be no justice and it just cannot be because these sort of situations are what are causing people to loose the plot these days and is it any wonder

preable

All you can do is get a soliciter and fight for your money back or go bankrupt?

Ste_C

santashelper wrote: »

i am fuming how can you leave someone who has controlled your life bullied you physically and mentally and used your money to set up a business put all the assets in their name all the debts in yours be able to hold onto it all and when you try to fight for yours the law seems to be on their side.

I am going to become homeless in the next few months if nothing is done and nobody seems to give a damn i have applied for legal aid they seem to think there is not enough to fight for although the other person has over 400,000 of my share of the marital assets and i have all the debts i am in desperate need of some advice if anyone has gone through this i would appreciate your advice.

At the moment there seems to be no justice and it just cannot be because these sort of situations are what are causing people to loose the plot these days and is it any wonder

I'd probably divorce someone who couldn't use punctuation, too.

Then again, I probably wouldn't have even got together with them in the first place.

dealer_wins

I would get a solicitor, and seek advice quickly. Citizens advice is a good place to start also, they are very good at helping ive found when I once needed advise.

POPPYOSCAR

I don't understand this.

Surely if you are married you are entitled to half of everything?

tbw

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I don't understand this.

Surely if you are married you are entitled to half of everything?

Well, at the risk of being shot down in flames, it doesn't seem to work quite like that - especially if you are a man with or without children and your wife decides she wants out of the marriage. I have at least 2 friends whose ex wives have literally grabbed nearly everything . Historically, women wanting out of a marriage had a very hard time but the pendulum seems to have swung very much in the womans favour now. Women frequently get to stay in the house, get the outstanding mortgage paid, pretty good maintenance, the family car, half of all banking/savings accounts and any other assets and also keep all of whatever they may have stashed away without the husbands knowledge plus what may be quite valuable jewelry.

The balance now appears to favour women.

POPPYOSCAR

tbw wrote: »

Well, at the risk of being shot down in flames, it doesn't seem to work quite like that - especially if you are a man with or without children and your wife decides she wants out of the marriage. I have at least 2 friends whose ex wives have literally grabbed nearly everything . Historically, women wanting out of a marriage had a very hard time but the pendulum seems to have swung very much in the womans favour now. Women frequently get to stay in the house, get the outstanding mortgage paid, pretty good maintenance, the family car, half of all banking/savings accounts and any other assets and also keep all of whatever they may have stashed away without the husbands knowledge plus what may be quite valuable jewelry.

The balance now appears to favour women.

Yes I appreciate that., but what I don't understand is the debts being in one name and the assets in the other.How does that equate when you are married.

tbw

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes I appreciate that., but what I don't understand is the debts being in one name and the assets in the other.How does that equate when you are married.

It shouldn't equate but its fairly easy for one person to run up massive credit card debts on the partners card ! Its easy if you know the PIN - and its fairly common for one partner to give the other one their card to go shopping with not realising that the card is going to be used excessively. Doesn't matter who ran the bill up, if yours is the only name on the card, you're liable.

Our car is in my name only (even though DH paid half the cost) and, although my name is on my DHs bank account (so that I also get the perks of the premier account) even though its definetly all his cash, his name isn't on my accounts. So, if I was a C**, I could empty his account without him even knowing but he can't touch mine.

justjohn

Ste_C wrote: »

I'd probably divorce someone who couldn't use punctuation, too.

Then again, I probably wouldn't have even got together with them in the first place.

its ok we understand you are shallow.

trumpton

Many solicitors do a free 30 minutes initial consultation. It sounds as though your situation is quite emotionally and financially complex, so 30 minutes probably wouldn't be anywhere near enough. But if you can go prepared with info and specific questions, it may be a good starting point. Otherwise, CAB, though that will depend very much on who you get.

POPPYOSCAR

tbw wrote: »

It shouldn't equate but its fairly easy for one person to run up massive credit card debts on the partners card ! Its easy if you know the PIN - and its fairly common for one partner to give the other one their card to go shopping with not realising that the card is going to be used excessively. Doesn't matter who ran the bill up, if yours is the only name on the card, you're liable.

Our car is in my name only (even though DH paid half the cost) and, although my name is on my DHs bank account (so that I also get the perks of the premier account) even though its definetly all his cash, his name isn't on my accounts. So, if I was a C**, I could empty his account without him even knowing but he can't touch mine.

So your saying that even if you are married and one partner has money in their name only the other partner has no right to any of it?

I am still struggling to get to grips with this, so please bear with me!
When my OH got divorced he had an asset in his name after it was sold and the loan paid off he had to give his wife half of the balance.Why was that then when it was all in his name?