OS childrearing

Cookie_monster_7

Cheapskate wrote: »

This is a bit of a waffle - sorry! - but think people are losing touch with babies sometimes, all they need (most of the time!) is feeding, cleaning, cuddles & playing with - as long as you're near them, they're fine!
Feel free to disagree!
A x

I totally agree with you but as you are in a similar position (toddler and baby) what would you do with a baby that cried all the time to be held? My toddler needs me to and is always asking me to put the baby down so she can get attention, when I do the baby screams!:eek:

xxvickixx

Cookie, have you tried a wrap sling, sorry I know that you weren't asking me, but my DS wanted to be cuddled all the time and didn't like laying down and it really helped me. Great for going shopping too, not having to struggle getting a buggy around.

ALIBOBSY

On baby no 4 here and never had many gadgets at all. I breastfed them all for a min of 12 months (currently co feeding a 2 yr old and the 3 month old), hardly ever bought a jar of baby food, and from baby 2 onwards non at all.
Never used a baby moniter, baby was either asleep with us ie downstairs in a moses basket/carrycot or "blocked in" with cushions and blankets on the sofa, or in a pram , or awake in a bouncy chair/sling/in a pair of arms in the day. Only would be in a bedroom at night, and only alone for maybe a couple of hours before we went to bed (say fed and put down at about 8pm till 10.30 ish). We would just check for crying in between. No problems ever hearing them, but then we were in a 2 bed terrace and now in a 3 bed semi.

Obviously having older children also helps as they are the first to let you know if the little one makes the slightest noise lol.

To the mum with the screaming baby and toddler have you tried a baby bouncing chair, the baby can sit in it and see you whilst you sit with the toddler. Hoovers and washing machine noise are good baby soothers as well. They reckon its a sort of "white noise" and reminds them of the womb.
Oh and agree about a sling, amazing what you can manage with a baby strapped to you lol. Smashing for doing the school run or nipping to the shops and keeping baby happy.
ali x

Fishcake_Random

I love this board, it's fascinating to read all the different views etc.
My DD is just over 5 month, while I was BF we all co-slept untill she started sleeping through and we moved her gradually over to her own cot. My health visitor was horrified.
We have also decided after a lot of thought and research not to vaccinate which has also caused outrage with my health visitor lol. I also got a major talking to when I admitted DD had had a bread stick to suck on aged 4 1/2 months.
People seem to be so scared of their own babies now rather than going with their own instincts.
x x x

LJM

i breastfed both of mine then went onto cows milk they always ate the same as us and still do, i have had second hand clothes for both of mine all the way through they only get new stuff if desperatley need it or bday and xmas, do i sound tight i hope not but i think i was rasied to appreciate the old style values

PrincessMort

"i breastfed both of mine then went onto cows milk they always ate the same as us and still do, i have had second hand clothes for both of mine all the way through they only get new stuff if desperatley need it or bday and xmas, do i sound tight i hope not but i think i was rasied to appreciate the old style values"

totally agree - kids grow out of clothes so fast why not pass them on? I remember clothes I had 2nd hand being pased on at least 3x more!

zippychick

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Zip

ailuro2

DD is 11, we never put her to sleep upstairs in the day when she was only 3 months -she used to have a nap on the sofa on a blanket, with a towel roll wedged under her in case she wriggled around. She used to sleep in her baby seat as well once she was a bit older and the sofa wasn't so safe- it reclined so was great for a nap.

We did have a monitor, but that was just for when she had gone to sleep in her own room at night time.

We never had a rocking swing, and never rocked her to sleep either, I was convinced she would need rocked back to sleep if she woke in the middle of the night so didn't make that particular rod for my back.

andrealm

I've never used a monitor for my two. When they were very young they mostly slept downstairs in the evenings but when they started to sleep upstairs we didn't have any trouble hearing them as soon as they started to cry.

Sterilizer was rarely used as they were BF and I found expressing more bother than it was worth.

Never had a swing but they both loved their bouncy chair,one of the ones that rocks and vibrates.

They have too many clothes but I do buy things second hand and everything gets handed down.

I used jars and am using disposable nappies, cloth nappies gave dd1 nappy rash.

meritaten

I used to use a baby carrier with my 2nd child as he cried all day and all night! otherwise I would never have got anything done! mine was from mothercare and was the one where you put the babies legs through the holes then put the shoulder straps through, picked baby up against your front then grabbed the straps with one hand and pulled till the whole thing was secure - at which point you could then use TWO hands to tie it! marvellous contraption!!! (once you got the hang of putting them on, on your own).