csa arrears written off???

zirithium

Hi, i am looking for some advice as i really am at my wits end.
I split with my ex husband 3 years ago, he refused to pay child support so i contacted the csa.
It was decided he should pay 28 pound per week as his mistress had 2 children he was now expected to provide for (dont even get me started on that one!!)
He paid once then ceased. He stated he shouldnt have to pay as i earn a decent wage
3 years, numerous liability orders, bailiffs and one no show court appearance my ex husband appeared in court.
He was ordered to pay 90 pounds per month with no arrears.
As i wasnt there and cant seem to get an answer from the csa (another story but i just got a 50 pound good will gesture from them for poor service!) i was wondering why this has happened?? i actually asked him and he laughed, shrugged and said "admin error". Now this man is not the most truthful of the male species but as i cant get a straight answer from anyone else im thinking maybe he is telling the truth! He basically refused to pay for three years and the court have said "well just start paying now" surely this cant be right?? can it??!!!
Rant over

gratefulforhelp_2

You can request a copy of the data protection file, there is a thread at the top of this board that tells you how.

PlayingHardball

Was your case closed or suspended during the past 3 years?

zirithium

Thanks ill have a look and no my case wasnt closed or suspended or anything really, just run of the mill self employed ex husband wont pay. Its so annoying, its the principle of the matter:mad:

karenx

Join the club! He sounds like the typical dad who doesnt want to pay for their kids. I wouldnt expect any money soon! Nearly 7 years I have been waiting and not had a penny!

PJM68

We're not all like your ex husband....

I paid for my kids the moment I left my ex-wife and did so for 5 years before she got greedy and went to the CSA - seems I was overpaying as she got less, but they're my kids so I am happy to pay.

My wife's ex husband is doing the same now and refused to pay for 10 years and he's now having to pay those arrears within 2 years.

Regardless of whatever the situation, we bought these children into the world and they should not suffer if we separate. I will never understand parents who put money over their children.

PJM

zirithium

Thats nice to hear, i wish there were more like you. Its not even the money thats the issue, if he bought him a school uniform or a pair of trainers or a jacket that would be fine but he flat out refuses to buy or pay anything. Makes it worse that i would never have thought him being one of those dads. I still dont understand why he doesnt have to pay what he owes though but i reckon im ready to just forget it all, its driving me mad and i get in some nasty moods over it all, all of which my son sees. Hes the important one and he doesnt deserve to see mum so mad! Im very dissapointed in the csa though

gratefulforhelp_2

Don't give in, zirithium. Can you get NACSA to deal on your behalf?

minicooper1961

zirithium wrote: »

Thats nice to hear, i wish there were more like you. Its not even the money thats the issue, if he bought him a school uniform or a pair of trainers or a jacket that would be fine but he flat out refuses to buy or pay anything. Makes it worse that i would never have thought him being one of those dads. I still dont understand why he doesnt have to pay what he owes though but i reckon im ready to just forget it all, its driving me mad and i get in some nasty moods over it all, all of which my son sees. Hes the important one and he doesnt deserve to see mum so mad! Im very dissapointed in the csa though

Only just app;ied to csa like yesterday after 18 months of hell, a 23 year marriage, 2 kiddies the dad they adored who as treated them like c%^* they still adore him - i don't want to intefere with that, he is self employed and will say that he earns diddley squat yet I know what he does earn , he has just come back from Spain with his new woman and child {little do they know} he has a high standard of living {to impress} more shirts than emelda marcos had shoes!! and he is happy for his youngest to have holes in hers for the last weeks of summer term.......I am impressed with the NRP on here that support their children....and I never thought I would be saying this about my ex OH........I try to smile through for the kiddies but I am not fooling anyone right nowx rant over x

nwilkins87

Same here - my partner paid his CSA right up until the point he was made redundant. We made sure we told them everything and are now saying in the 14 weeks he's been back at work he owes £2,500!!!

The CSA are usless and have complete disregard for how families are expected to cope when they leave us with £600 a month to live on and pay the mortgage.

It's a joke. People who try to do things right get stung. The system should be made fairer - 50:50 for kids is what I say. Why should people be punished for trying to earn more money and improve their life.

I think you should have to pay for the cost of the child not the mother / father. And if you want to treat them with the extra that is earned it should feel a pleasure.

CSA have made me so angry. I hope this new government sorts them out!!!!

snugglepants

nwilkins87 wrote: »

The system should be made fairer - 50:50 for kids is what I say.

Sorry, just browsing when I saw this.....

50/50? But you would be put in a much worse situation if both parents had to pay 50/50......half the roof over the child's head, half the food bill for the child, half of the yearly clothing bill, half of the activities bill and so forth. It would be wonderful if both parents could contribute equally towards their children when a relationship breaks down, but the reality is that the PWC pays the majority of the cost of providing for their child (unless funded by the state). I think 15-20% from the NRP is a very fair deal for the NRP's.

I don't understand why a NR father or mother would begrudge their child that (not that I'm saying you do believe they should - just a general comment here). I believe every parent should WANT to provide for their child, and not grudgingly do so (or avoid it completely!).

I know your situation is complicated with the £2,500 "arrears", and is completely wrong and unfair. This is why I wish both parents, all over, could be like minded in wanting to do what's best for the child, whether they can't stand the sight of each other or not. But 8/10 times you're going to have one side (or both) who have to make it hard, and cripple either the PWC or NRP by dodging payments or involving an agency which seems to thrive on making mistakes. I really hope the £2,500 is wiped ASAP for you - as you say, it's crippling and cruel. *HUGS*