please suggest punishment for OH!!

Paulie'sGirl

Oh OP, I feel for you! I'd be tempted to go on strike. But in the end it achieves very little, even if it makes you feel in control for a while.

What might be more rewarding is telling him that this was the straw that broke the camel's back (he'll think you're just being female and irrational if you don't make this very plain - "for goodness sake, its only a bit of mashed potato" - we've all been there.....).

Tell him you feel he's not pulling is weight and you're feeling worn down by it, but you're not having a moan and would like to talk about real ways he can help you with the family management. Have some simple but effective measures in mind, and talk to him about it. Listen to his responses, and he might have some ideas too.

Can he help you make a big freezer cook up on a weekend? Can he be your sous-chef (do all the peeling and chopping). Can you send him with a strict list to do the shopping? Or baby-sit so you can get round the shops quicker?

Its good to get it off your chest, and it might mean he finally starts appreciating the work you do

Good luck!

PGxx

mrbadexample

kymbogs wrote: »

I just don't understand why he'd do that and think it was what I'd asked!

Grrrr.

It's because he's a bloke. Trust me, I know whereof I speak.

mrbadexample

smeeinnit wrote: »

to the OP..you could try educating him with this site...

http://www.cookingforengineers.com/

I think it really does appeal to a male brain, oh and the recipes do work :T

Thank you! Just my sort of site. I'd been thinking about having a go at creme brulee, to widen my repertoire of puddings, and there it is, right on the front page. :drool:

Stephen_Leak

radiohelen wrote: »

Or you could lock him in a cellar wearing nothing but a blindfold, handcuffs and his pants and throw mushrooms at him....

The last lines of Billy Joel's "She's Always A Woman" spring to mind - sort of ...

# And the most she will do is throw [STRIKE]shadows[/STRIKE] mushrooms at you,
But she's always a woman to me. #

[Deleted User]

The best thing I ever learned from being married for almost 40 years was if you want something doing do it yourself.My much adored late OH would do anything for me, but as far as I was concerned the kitchen was my domain.I didn't service the car, or mow the lawn, or clean the windows or catch anything small and furry that scuttled anywhere in the house, and he didn't cook,iron,or do the washing.I preferred it that way as the mess a single chap can make in your kitchen is beyond belief.I have yet to meet a chap that can cook a meal of anysort without using every pot and pan in the place and clear up after himself .it just isn't in their make-up at all.
This afternoon as I do on most Sundays I go to my DDs for dinner which my lovely son-in-law Simon cooks.He is a fantastic cook and does a splendid job and will do the full monty of meat,three or four veg plus two sorts of gravy ,one ordinary one for the children and a special one for the grown ups .His roast beef is to die for and so melt in the mouth.But after dinner its my DD and I who have to clear up the kitchen .Her kitchen is very small as they live in a town house and every single surface is covered in pots, pans,colenders,wooden spoons,all most every cooking utensil under the sun.It will take us ,plus the dishwasher at least 40 minutes to clear it all up.DD lets him have his own way in the kitchen on Sundays as he likes to experiment with different recipes .The rest of the week she will normally cook unless she is late home from work then he will start the dinner and she finishes it off.
Why do you want to punish him ? he can't help being a bloke ,blokes don't think like women, they are a totally different species ;)altogether.Use him for the heavy, hard work bits in the house and you will find that he will be quite happy chopping wood or cleaning the car as its simple easy things that he can cope with not the complicated stuff that we all multitask at the drop of a hat.
e.g. I used to put stuff on the bottom step of the stairs to take up next time I went ,OH used to say why are you leaving stuff at the bottom of the stairs as he walked past on his way up.It just never occured to him to take it up when he went.Mens brains aren't programmed like ours sadly .;):D:rotfl::rotfl:

ubamother

The_Thrilla wrote: »

No punishment on the following grounds:

"There can be no guilt without intent." (Letter from George Bernard Shaw to Noel Coward.)

I'd go with "ignorance is no defence" and on with the punishment!!!:D

gratefulforhelp_2

Ten lashes of the cat o' nine tails!

Ladyhawk

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Ten lashes of the cat o' nine tails!

Some people might not see that as punishment

kymbogs

JackieO wrote: »

The best thing I ever learned from being married for almost 40 years was if you want something doing do it yourself.My much adored late OH would do anything for me, but as far as I was concerned the kitchen was my domain.I didn't service the car, or mow the lawn, or clean the windows or catch anything small and furry that scuttled anywhere in the house, and he didn't cook,iron,or do the washing.I preferred it that way as the mess a single chap can make in your kitchen is beyond belief.I have yet to meet a chap that can cook a meal of anysort without using every pot and pan in the place and clear up after himself .it just isn't in their make-up at all

I might have to invent some man-jobs around the house in this case. With no car to wash or wood to chop, and his idea of sorting out scuttling things involves pointing the cat In the right direction lol. He does the washing up every other night and emptied the kitchen bin. He gets a lot of brownie points for being the sole emptier of the cat litter tray.

Unfortunately he promised me last year that when I started uni he would take over the meal planning and online shopping but it didn't even last the first month. Maybe I should try again for this academic year lol.

I'm going away for four nights with my mum and the kids - I WAS going to leave him single-serving meals in the freezer.....

Lost2

make him wash he's own socks and nickers
MEN ! why can they never do as there told