mother claiming csa arrears from daughters

cheza1982

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DUTR

cheza1982 wrote: »

we wernt named i was told it was to be split three ways and to pay for funeral.

Yes the funeral has to be paid for 1st and from the estate.

DUTR

cheza1982 wrote: »

we wernt named i was told it was to be split three ways and to pay for funeral.

You were told by whom?
Unless the mother was named in the will then she is not entitled to anything.

AnxiousMum

cheza1982 wrote: »

I am not disputing the fact the child support was owed but after 13 years of being friends and not argueing or fighting for the money and the fact that my mother blackmailed me for 5000 or she was going for it all, all this after i promised her she wouldnt go without you believe this is the right thing to do to your children after all that has happened, some people have a funny way of looking at things, i have three children and would never take anything away from them if i was giving the chance,

When I replied earlier, I don't see where the 'blackmail' or 13 yr time lag was mentioned.....so please don't take my posted info in relation to information you did not originally provide.

I guess all cases are different - and I know that in my case, and things that my other children have gone without due to my ex not doing his part, yes, I would go for everything, but then I know that the boys would be well taken care of through wills etc. anyways, so I wouldn't be leaving them without. If your mum is the type to have 'blackmailed' you out of £5000 at some point, then it doesn't seem that she does, or possibly ever had, the best interests of her children at heart. I do however, but not just the interests of the two whose father is supposed to pay regular maintenance, but I have the best interests of ALL my children at heart.

cheza1982

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cheza1982 wrote: »

My father as we had talked about it as he said he was making a will this year, but he never got the chance

Which means he has passed away intestate, and the intestate rules apply, any executor solicitor will tell you that.
And even if they were married the intestate rules still apply, moral of the story, make a will :beer:

Mojisola

So your father didn't make a will and the insurance policy is part of the estate?

In that case, the rules of intestacy will apply and, providing your father was not married to anyone at the time of his death, his children will share the estate.

If your mother didn't make a claim through CSA at the time as you say, I don't see how she can try to get any money back now. There must have been a claim in place.

Your father had an unpaid debt and debts are always paid out of the estate before anyone inherits anything.

Your mother hasn't handled this well but, in her shoes, wouldn't you feel that the father of your children owed you something?