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Payrise of £5,670.- in a year - can I do it?

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  • Marru
    Marru Posts: 4,126 Forumite
    Very tired today. No reason really as I went to bed at 11 and didn't get up until just before seven. Intention was to run to work and save the P&R (and get some exercise) but I wasn't able to motivate myself to do that in the morning. The ghastly weather didn't help.

    BF has come to the rescue again. I don't know if I should :smileyheabecause he is so lovely or :mad: because I can't seem to be able to cope without his help. Need to now do a proper cashflow for the rest of the month and pay council tax today.

    Also I feel now quilty because I went clothes shopping today. My defence is that I am in desperate need of more work clothes and also I needed something smart for my interview.

    Tasks for today:
    - cashflow
    - menu plan to start next week
    - shopping list
    - list of stuff I need to take with me when I go away for the weekend (i.e. folder ready for the interview etc...)
    - see if I have done any extra hours at work that I could take off as TOIL on Friday

    Ex sent me a letter today, I opened it but as soon as I found out who had sent it I put it back into the envelope. I will take it with me this weekend and let BF read it. I really don't want to know. I have felt so much better without having "his shadow" over me. If that makes sense.

    Other not so nice thing that happened was that DD's headteacher is worried about me and DD and was thinking of recommending some parenting courses for me. Making me feel like a really !!!!!! parent even that I know she meant well. Ok, I am off to have a little cry and then go and spend little time with DD before I get her to bed.
    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."

  • *hugs, babe*

    Sorry about your ex :( But don't worry about leaning on your BF sometimes, that what relationships are about

    And as for DD's teacher, sounds like she truly does mean well. Getting help is no sign of failure, hon - we all need a helping paw or 2 at times.

    Please don't feel too down, xx
    @ LBM = £15,872.65, now £10,819.82
    AF Jan = 7/? Feb = 5/14 Mar = 14/20 Apr = 6/14 May = 2/14 June 2/14 July 0/TF Aug 1/TFv Sept 6/TF Oct 4/7
    "NEVER DOUBT YOUR OWN QUALITY"
  • Marru
    Marru Posts: 4,126 Forumite
    Thanks HB :)

    Job news: I have been asked to go for second interview so it looks promising. I still don't know how much they would pay me or if they will support my studies. Also I am getting stressed about the removal costs and having to borrow more money from BF to be able to pay deposit and first month's rent for new place.

    Nightmare: I woke up this morning from awful dream, I was in a leasure centre with DD and I had parked my car (the one I sold year ago) on the neighbouring gym's parking space. When we were ready to leave I suddenly had in addition to my DD three dogs (BF's two and my one that I lost last March) and my car had been towed away. I tried to find out where the car was taken and desperately think if I had enough money in my account to get my car back. I was so releaved to be woken up from that. Talking of being out of control.

    Still no mealplan in sight, more nasty letters from DCA's, still no idea about my cashflow for the rest of the month (this was one of the contributors for the dream I think), BF read the letter from EX and what was on it is too little too late plus that he has always been good with all kinds of promises but lacking of all substance and action - no reply will be sent.

    Aim for tonight is to catch up with some voluntary stuff that is nagging in my mind. I am hoping that if I can get that up to date then I am more able to tackle my own stuff. Also one letter to a DCA needs to be written but that shouldn't take long as I am only forwarding the stuff I sent to the previous DCA.
    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."

  • Marru
    Marru Posts: 4,126 Forumite
    I found a new toy :)

    I was sitting here staring at my spreadsheets thinking that I should find a way to make them more simple so that I can only add information into one place and then use it in different ways. So off to Google to find a free accounting softward and I found THIS

    I am not sure that it is most user friendly but it seems to suit to my purposes just fine. I can compare actuals against a budget and can see easily payments that are due and when they are going out from the account. The reports are not that great thou so perhaps before I start inputting August and September data I should have another look around to see what is available.
    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."

  • Marru
    Marru Posts: 4,126 Forumite
    CHALLENGE COMPLETED and not even two months in :j

    I found out that I got that full time job and the salary is beyond my wildest dreams. I am completely shocked and was actually in tears after I found out due to massive relief. I have hard time accepting that I really deserve this.

    Next challenge will be to a) get debt free by b) sticking to the budget so watch this space
    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."

  • Marru
    Marru Posts: 4,126 Forumite
    I have created a blog for the next edition. Link in my profile.

    Thank you eveyone who have been supporting me either by posting or lurking.
    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."

  • Marru
    Marru Posts: 4,126 Forumite
    I have decided that I will reserve the blog for different projects (at the moment it is all about moving) but need a place for general day to day chatter. So I have revived my old diary. Linky HERE
    "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end."

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