Deposit & lazy housemate

robpw2

kajstring24 wrote: »

I just don't fancy letting him think he can coast through life doing the bare minimum, but who am I to decide what he does with his life.
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but it is not up to you to decide what he does in life , your leaving him now so let him get on with his life and you get on with yours

Jowo_2

edit: removed post, posted in wrong thread.

sequence

Why would you care about him "coasting" through life doing the bare minimum. That's exactly what many people do, and it's perfectly acceptable.

I think you need to get off your high horse and come back down to earth....

sequence

kajstring24 wrote: »

Well, thanks for the useful advice guys. Yes, the cleaning was discussed between the 3 of us at several times throughout the tenancy. As stubborn as I am about this, I think the majority are just confirming my gut feeling. I just don't fancy letting him think he can coast through life doing the bare minimum, but who am I to decide what he does with his life.
[who are you again ? ]


As for anyone else, if you don't have anything decent to add then why bother, other than to belittle someone? A nightmare or not, you don't have the right to judge me in such a way. I asked for advice and I expected that. Not sly comments.

This is a public forum, and if I think you sound like a nightmare, I will say so .

There is a be nice policy, though, so you were spared the worst :rotfl:

foolishboy

Jowo wrote: »

But there's no aggro in punishing a lazy flatmate by witholding the deposit until they take legal action - its the flatmate that actually has to pull their thumb out of their bum and do all the work to raise a small claims court action. All the OP has to do is spend 5 mins writing a cheque and putting it in a postbox once they've had their fun.

As it happens, i bet this lazy and disorganised flatmate will show a lot more motivation in claiming their deposit than picking up a j-cloth, but there you go.

It is petty of the OP but if she wants to tease her flatmate, then there's next to no aggro involved for her to withold it for as long as she likes.

If the flatmate doesn't know where she lives, then he has to pay a tenant tracing company to find her in order to get the address to serve the court papers.

I totally agree that it's exactly this kind of person who'd kick up a stink, hence the agro, I've known a few in my time .. lazy toads but when it comes to ££££....

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Riq

kajstring24 wrote: »

Well, thanks for the useful advice guys. Yes, the cleaning was discussed between the 3 of us at several times throughout the tenancy. As stubborn as I am about this, I think the majority are just confirming my gut feeling. I just don't fancy letting him think he can coast through life doing the bare minimum, but who am I to decide what he does with his life.

As for anyone else, if you don't have anything decent to add then why bother, other than to belittle someone? A nightmare or not, you don't have the right to judge me in such a way. I asked for advice and I expected that. Not sly comments.

So I can't call you a nightmare but you can call someone lazy and belittle them on a public forum.

You have no right to deduct anything at all.

You cleaned up the whole house for him, yeah that's really teaching him a lesson. Go you.

loracan1

You're going to have to give it back, this you know. But if you have to be asked a few times and can't find your cheque-book and you've become a bit forgetful...

DVardysShadow

Sympathy = 0

kajstring24 wrote: »

I moved out of my rented house last week into a new place with my boyfriend. We should receive our deposit back soon and as it comes back to my account, it's my responsibility to return the correct share of the deposit to my boyfriend and our housemate.

Returning it to my partner is no problem, however, our housemate was a nightmare for the year we lived in the house and it came to a head at the end of the contract. Me and my boyfriend cleaned every room in the house between us and the housemate did a half-arsed job on his room and cleaned the kitchen work surfaces. Obviously thinking that he had satisfied his share of the cleaning.

Sympathy = +9.5

kajstring24 wrote: »

I hate to be involved in something to petty because this sort of row happens when you move out of student digs, but I quite simply do not think he deserves his deposit back, because as far as I am concerned he did not meet the terms of the contract. He did not even offer to do a room and simply sat around the house doing nothing while I was slaving away on my hands and knees cleaning. I even blocked his computer from accessing the Internet in an attempt to make him do something but it didn't work.

Sympathy = -209.5

kajstring24 wrote: »

He wasn't forced into doing any cleaning for the simple reason that we shouldn't have to. He is an adult who simply can't assume adult responsibilities and it drives me mad because he thinks he is getting by in life.

Obviously, his excuse of a life is not my concern, but while we still have a deposit to settle he'll be on my back reminding me as if I'm a child. On one hand, he doesn't deserve all of his deposit back, but on the other, do I really want to prolong this whole saga? I'm worried that if I withold any of his deposit, even after offering an explanation he'll go as far as taking legal action, so has anyone got any advice to what I should do?

You know, cutting internet access is what parents try to do. So you treated him like a child, but you don't want to be treated like a child yourself.

Sympathy = -2209.5

kajstring24 wrote: »

Well, thanks for the useful advice guys. Yes, the cleaning was discussed between the 3 of us at several times throughout the tenancy. As stubborn as I am about this, I think the majority are just confirming my gut feeling. I just don't fancy letting him think he can coast through life doing the bare minimum, but who am I to decide what he does with his life.

Obviously, you are his mother, but I bet the little ingrate doesn't see it that way
Sympathy = -5209.5

kajstring24 wrote: »

As for anyone else, if you don't have anything decent to add then why bother, other than to belittle someone? A nightmare or not, you don't have the right to judge me in such a way. I asked for advice and I expected that. Not sly comments.

Who are you to complain when people put you straight to your face? You have come on here and belittled your housemate behind his back. He does not have the opportunity to put his side of the matter. For all we know, you could have been petty to him all through the contract and making you scrub out is the one thing he could think of as payback.

Advice? I think you are above taking advice.