Should I feel guilty?

Me_At_Home

A few weeks ago I went dress shopping with one of my bridesmaids and I fell in love with a dress. I didn't order it at the time because I wanted to try on a few more to make sure. Last week I went to a bridal shop with my mum but they were very busy and i didn't get chance
to try any on but we looked through some books together in the shop. Everything I liked my mum didn't and vice versa. Anyway I showed her a picture of the dress that I loved and she didn't like it and she thought I was silly for wanting to buy an expensive dress.

Today I went shopping with my other bridesmaid and I tried on another 9 dresses before trying on the one that I really loved. I decided that
I still really loved the dress and none of the others that I tried on made me feel the way that one did. I honestly loved it!! So I ordered it and this made me very happy.

I popped round mums this afternoon and I told her that I ordered the dress that I loved and that I was really pleased with it and after trying on 15 dresses in total I felt I had made an informed choice. She seemed ok with this and I asked her if she would come with me
for my first fitting in a few months and help me decide whether to have a veil or not. She agreed that she would.

Anyway everything was fine until I got home and then I started feeling guilty that I had ordered my wedding dress without giving my mum the opportunity to see her only daughter trying on dresses. At first I thought it was a good thing as she is a very negative person and may have made me doubt my choice and also because of the price. I am still very happy with my dress choice and I am glad that I have ordered it because I feel as though I have tried on enough dresses and this one was/is definitely the one. However I feel guilty now and feel like a bad daughter, I feel like I should have taken her regardless of her negativity just so that she had the experience with me.

I know I can't do anything about it now but I just wondered what
you ladies thought or if any of you had been in a similar situation? Should I feel guilty?

Sorry for the waffling

xxx

shellsuit

I'm an only daughter (only child infact) and my Mum's not really interested in the wedding.

I looked and chose my own dress, as it's me that will be wearing it, not her!

I don't think life is like in the movies, where the Mother goes with the daughter dress shopping, daughter tried dress on and Mother weeps with joy ~ to me, that's just on the telly. Of course it will happen for some people in real life, but I suppose you've got to have a close relationship and have a Mum who is really interested to have that.

Should you feel guilty?

No, why should you?

Kinski

No way should you feel guilty, my daughter is getting married next year and we went out once together to look at dresses. My daughter bought her dress on line without telling anyone, the first I knew of it was when it was delivered here ( daughter doesn't live with us ), did it bother me, no not a bit. You've asked your mum to go to your fitting and your involving her with the other things you need for your day, I'm sure your mum is more than happy with the way things are going.

Terri

MyRubyRed

You shouldn't feel guilty at all. xx

Errata

Go and try it on again and take your mum !

kazwookie

You shouldn't feel guilty. Have a lovely day

I went on my own, and bought the first one I tried on, end off!!

justengaged_2

As someone whose mother is trying to take over the whole day, I would say don't feel guilty. It was the one thing that I chose without anyone and the one I wanted and it's allllllllll MINE!!! She's asked for photos but she's not seeing anything until I've finished with it.

Please don't feel guilty, if she really wanted to do it, she would have already said it earlier.

hunnycat

dont feel guilty at all. i took my mil2b with me to try on dresses as my mum was being a pain in the backside at a wedding show and i thought she was not bothered. i picked and ordered my dress that day and when i showed my mum photos online she was nasty about it which upset me!
Turns out she was just jealous of me taking mil2b so i had it out with her, my aunt also said to my mum she didnt blame me for not taking her because of the way she acted at the show.
The end result is i am constantly having dress wobbles and wish i could pick another dress!

really dont feel guilty, weddings bring out the worst in people!

RainbowDrops

I think it depends on whether you think your mum was really looking forward to the whole dress shopping experience.

I think my mum felt a bit left out when my sister went to buy her wedding dress on her own.

Because of this, I made a point of going into a Monsoon with Mum to try on a few, even though I might be getting my dress made by a friends, but I thought it would be nice to have a look with mum.
And she REALLY loved it - she sent me a text thanking me for taking her, and Dad also said that she really enjoyed it.

hayleythedaisy

My mum had no part in picking my dress, don't feel. guilty, you picked the dress thats right for you... I'm assuming shes not paying so just be happy that you've got your dress and it's the one you love!!!

(where are the pics anyway?)

sexymouse

I deliberately didn't take my Mum as I have always argued with her over my clothes since I was a child, and didn't want her criticising the dress I love. She still hasn't seen the picture of it, and won't see it until the reception as we are marrying abroad.

Don't feel guilty about it.