So, what next?

nelly12

PlayingHardball wrote: »

I agree, not a very good example. Some people are so selfish that they put themselves before their children.

If that is you, beware. It may very well backfire as it has for my ex. Once a loving doting dad of 3, now a bitter selfish lonely man, and not one of his children wanting anything to do with him. But he has kept his money for now, so who wins?

If damaging your children, or your relationship with them, is of no consequence to those who would go to such great lengths to get out of financiall supporting their kids, good luck to you.

!!!!!!! why do people feel it is their right to jump in and pass snide and sometimes downright nasty comments???? I pay for my son from my previous marriage and SHE makes it as awkward for me to see him as possible. Plans change at the last minute... Need I go on about spiteful women.

PS. I got made redundant last year and also have a new family to support and all SHE said was "I hope you get a new job quickly as we need your money because we're moving house"! Guess maintenance not always used for the benefit of the child(ren). So to all you !!!!!y mothers please think before you slag people off as there are genuine people here whose circumstances you will never know!

markeymark

if you got a new contract in march and couldnt supply the payslips, then it is now nearly august, so you will have the correct amount of payslips by now, provide these to CSA and let them work out what your maintenance should be

PlayingHardball

LovesDennys wrote: »

You will get very good advice advice in a private members only forum away from prying eyes, or at the fathers institute. Some contributors might disagree with the ethics of changing the way you own your company even if its perfectly legal to do so. PM sent.

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Nelly - Talk about 'jumping in'! I was responding to the 'so called' ethics of the above post. This is an open forum, but be sure you read the full context of a complete thread before you jump in and add your two bits of nothing.

I simply don't agree with hiding income, legal or otherwise. I see it as a further attempt to avoid supporting children.

markeymark

well said playinghardball!!!

ilovemykids1979

bet you dont playing hardball because that would mean PWC arent able to rinse every last penny out of NRP.

Many NRP pay several times for there children via contact clothes food trips luxerys solicitors fees for contact usually several times ect ect saving for future also if you have contact your just has responsible has NRP to putting roof over there head.

so i see it has this PWC sees supporting cchild has soley giving them money but do not see the bigger picture.

ill tell you know ill swap role any day eith PWC and they can keep there money just make sure the child sees some, but my PWC are very singled minded.

DX2

ilovemykids1979 wrote: »

bet you dont playing hardball because that would mean PWC arent able to rinse every last penny out of NRP.

Many NRP pay several times for there children via contact clothes food trips luxerys solicitors fees for contact usually several times ect ect saving for future also if you have contact your just has responsible has NRP to putting roof over there head.

so i see it has this PWC sees supporting cchild has soley giving them money but do not see the bigger picture.

ill tell you know ill swap role any day eith PWC and they can keep there money just make sure the child sees some, but my PWC are very singled minded.

There are however some NRP's who are quiet happy to pay the bare minimum and Knack off, without giving their child a second thought. I will happliy swap roles with my NRP and pay £30 a week (still waiting for) and never call the child, never visit the child, never send a birthday card/xmas card. I won't have to worry whether there is a roof over the childs' head or if there is food in their stomach because at the end of the day he doesn't give a sho!te.

See the bigger picture.

ilovemykids1979

i think the BIGGER PICTURE is personal to us all and we all have our hang ups but let me say i see the bigger picture and i am seeing everything and my ex would be happier if she bleed me dry.

i see mu daughter every wed and for a full weekedn every two weeks and to me thats not enough but the PWC doesnt wwant to run out of money does she...................................................

kelloggs36

But you aren't every NRP - as DX2 says, there are many who don't give a flying flick about their children - my ex tried to walk away without paying a single penny - he didn't want to see her either. I could have let it go, but I wouldn't on principle - he lost out. Not my problem! Had he been any kind of father, he would have paid half of what the CSA said he had to, as I had asked for a private agreement at that rate, and he ignored it completely. He didn't do himself any favours in the end and is resentful to me because of the outcome; he really doesn't get it that he chose the outcome himself!

tiggerkian

the csa cause problems for families that have split up and while i'll agree if most fathers (or mothers) could walk away with nothing to pay they probably would, but when it comes down to the nitty gritty of the money thats when things start getting ugly in most cases thats when the csa fan the flames with their tactics against mainly the people that are complient,alas causing upset between the parents that often results in the child being hurt....just my opinion for what its worth....

markeymark

at the end of the day it isnt your ex who makes the CSA assessment, so she has no say in trying to bleed you dry!! so you now have to provide the wageslips in order to get a correct assessment

im an NRP, have had lots of crap thru CSA, but havent taken the easy route out like so many NRP's do ie leaving employment,becoming self employed etc. I have more moral's than that, im happier I do without and my kids have everything they need, everyone knows CSA arent perfect and never will be