help - I want to move to my own place but can I afford too?

Fang_3

top_drawer wrote: »

What I really need is a 4 day (32 hours) a week job at around £6 p/hr, that would get me around £192 a week ..... £768 a month. I have applied for EVERYTHING which is conpatible with appox this and so far no luck, I really hope it get better after my exams as I honestly dont think I can bear to continue sharing a house........ I never get any peace and quiet as one housemate in particlar is SO noisy, everytime I want to do some cooking someone else starts doing theres too, I cant even put water in the kettle without keeping my hand on it because someone will use it before I turn round. The noisy tonight is terrible as she has holidays and is off out again; she's getting ready with her friend and crashing around upstairs, banging doors, music blaring out ........

I just cant see an end to it all.

You're not going to get it. In Preston you'll be up against thousands of students and graduates, so what you need to do is get a grip.

I've seen some of your previous threads about your varying house share 'nightmares' and they are nothing unusual. You do sound quite jealous of your housemate who is going out, it's not wrong of her to be going out or to have a life. Perhaps it would be more beneficial for you to work on your issues with others, rather than attempting to move out when you can't afford to? It would certainly be cheaper.

iamana1ias

Apparently it can be done https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2627297

Kate78

Find another houseshare?

Some people are easier to live with than others, but these things are a fact of life.

As a student, I couldn't afford my own place, so I shared. Sometimes it got on my nerves, but then I finished my studies, got a full time job and moved into my own rented flat.

As will you, just maybe not as quickly as you would like.

top_drawer_2

Fang wrote: »

You're not going to get it. In Preston you'll be up against thousands of students and graduates, so what you need to do is get a grip.

I've seen some of your previous threads about your varying house share 'nightmares' and they are nothing unusual. You do sound quite jealous of your housemate who is going out, it's not wrong of her to be going out or to have a life. Perhaps it would be more beneficial for you to work on your issues with others, rather than attempting to move out when you can't afford to? It would certainly be cheaper.

Are you my mother? Only she tells me I am not entitled to want anything, am not as good as every other !!!!!! in the world at every other opportunity and so on.

I'm certainly not jealous - I do want a quiet night as I have been working all day. Yesterday it was BB on at full volume, another day it was her radio blaring out so I had to shut my window as I was trying to study. She wakes me each night when she goes to the bathroom with her banging down the landing and banging doors. As I have said I am finding it difficult to live with other people. I have not blamed anyone else. Nor have I said they are unusual or beyond what most other people have to cope with.

I will also be one of those graduates and have as equally good as a degree as anyone else, plus experience from before uni jobs and I am by no means expecting to walk into a cushy job (unlike some graduates).

Please dont feel compelled to reply if you just want to cast negative aspirations around, other posters have managed to convey the lay of the land equally well without being so unpleasant about it.

Jen

Brighton_belle

OP, want about looking for a place as a lodger?
For example, here in the south, you can get a decent place for what you earn a month, inclusive of rent and share of bills. I believe it may therefore be cheaper in Preston? Leaving you money for food, mobile, tansport and anything else. Not much but maybe enough if you really budget.

Yes, you'd still be sharing kitchen/ bathroom, but in someone elses home, quite possibly with the quieter life you are looking for?
Just make sure you check what is included in the rent and what isn't. Don't go for somewhere where bills are split after they come it, or you may find too late it is too expensive.

And finally make sure it is somewhere where they are mutually not looking for a friends, just a pleasnt quiet lodger who is considerate , honest and reliable. Don't be afraid to say you are looking for somewhere quiet too.

Fang_3

top_drawer wrote: »

Are you my mother? Only she tells me I am not entitled to want anything, am not as good as every other !!!!!! in the world at every other opportunity and so on.

I'm certainly not jealous - I do want a quiet night as I have been working all day. Yesterday it was BB on at full volume, another day it was her radio blaring out so I had to shut my window as I was trying to study. She wakes me each night when she goes to the bathroom with her banging down the landing and banging doors. As I have said I am finding it difficult to live with other people. I have not blamed anyone else. Nor have I said they are unusual or beyond what most other people have to cope with.

I will also be one of those graduates and have as equally good as a degree as anyone else, plus experience from before uni jobs and I am by no means expecting to walk into a cushy job (unlike some graduates).

Please dont feel compelled to reply if you just want to cast negative aspirations around, other posters have managed to convey the lay of the land equally well without being so unpleasant about it.

Jen

Then you have to work for it. I've not said that you're not entitled to want something, but you should have to work for it and not expect the taxpayer to pay it for you.

For everyone else, just so you grasp the level of 'nightmare' that the OP has experienced. Once she was in the bath and a housemate tried the handle. HE TRIED THE HANDLE. Good lord! Elisabeth Fritzl has nothing on you.

top_drawer_2

Kate78 wrote: »

Find another houseshare?

Some people are easier to live with than others, but these things are a fact of life.

As a student, I couldn't afford my own place, so I shared. Sometimes it got on my nerves, but then I finished my studies, got a full time job and moved into my own rented flat.

As will you, just maybe not as quickly as you would like.

Another houseshare isnt really an option. I have lived in a number of houseshares and I am just not suited to them. I have these same problems each time, if it wasnt this they would be stealing my food, have a !!!!!!!!!! staying all the time or have a attitude problem. I am fairly lucky here too but I just cant do other people 24/7.

I am only technically a student for another month so that is why I am looking to move. I would like it to be around September. I dont think that is unrealistic (apart from having a better paid job).

Jen

timberflake

Have you considered getting another part time job to top up your hours?

Also, what about a bed sit/studio apartment, thats about as cheap as living on your own can get!!

Pixiechic

Hi,

I can empathise with your situation as when I was studying I too lived in a houseshare and even after I finished studying! This was not through choice, it was what I could afford. Although I always got on well with my housemates it can get to you, just not having the space and peace.
Do you think a move to a different houseshare could be an option? Many houseshares are completely different, could it just be this one that is just not suitable for you? I doubt that as a student you would be eligable for financial assistance as if that were the case most students would be sat in there own flats! That is what your student loan is for if you have one and I know that at the best of times its not a huge amount to live on often having to be topped up with working.

top_drawer_2

Fang wrote: »

Then you have to work for it. I've not said that you're not entitled to want something, but you should have to work for it and not expect the taxpayer to pay it for you.

For everyone else, just so you grasp the level of 'nightmare' that the OP has experienced. Once she was in the bath and a housemate tried the handle. HE TRIED THE HANDLE. Good lord! Elisabeth Fritzl has nothing on you.

I have never mentioned the state paying for anything! You are an judgemental jumped up idiot and I am going to put you on ignore as so far you have contributed the total amount of squat useful information.

Jen