In need of a virtual kick up the backside...how many more LBMs will it take? :(

Marisco

Hi Davie, no, everything doesn't cost money;) As has been said, when you go to Tesco, just stick a fiver in your pocket and leave all cards at home, or better still don't go at all, until your weekly/monthly shop! When you feel the urge to spend, go for a walk to the beach/park/countryside (delete as appropriate;)) don't take your purse with you, and enjoy the fresh air - it's free!:)

Hannah_10

Right so the starting point is feeling inferior.

Who'd'ya feel inferior to? Celebs? Mates? People still working in your pre-baby job? And more importantly what do you think it is they've got that you haven't?

Your kids love you, you're the number one person in thier lives. Yeah they like you cos you do milk and bedtime stories... But beyond that they REALLY like you. If I was suddenly doing the milk and bedtime stories instead it'd never work like the ones you do. I don't look like you, worse still I don't talk like you. If you weren't there anymore and I was their needs would all be met (I'd see to that) but they'd not want me, they'd want you. You matter to them, in your own right. Not as a provider but as a person, an individual.

And what about you as a woman you love? You don't love yourself because you feel beautiful, it's all the other way round, you feel beautiful because you love yourself. When you realise that you're enough as you are and that there is nothing Tesco are selling that's gonna improve the woman you are in any way that counts for anything then just maybe you wont feel like you need to so spend to be equal.

You're good enough you know.

You're the centre of someones world.

Why not go ask that man of yours for 5 things he loves about you? That'd give you a starting point to remember who you are. Who you are is good-enough Honey.

Nottoobadyet

What a lovely post, Hannah!

daviesalie_2

Thank you for all your replies. Hannah, thank you especially for such a lovely post. When you put it like that it puts into perspective what I've got to be thankful for!! So I've got some debt, who hasn't these days. I'm going to stop feeling sorry for myself, brush myself down and crack on with clearing this debt and in a few years time hopefully be able to fulfil my dream of buying my own home. At the end of the day I've got a roof over my head, 3 adorable children, a not-so-bad-when-all-is-said-and-done partner and a job. Life's not perfect and it never will be, the sooner that sinks in the better. I'm sure when I look at the people in my life who I think have got it all, they really don't, they're just better at hiding it from the world!

Kick up the backside...tick!