sorry, need to vent

justengaged_2

puffinmuffin wrote: »

Can i ask if it's normal in your culture for parents to organise the wedding?

It is if you're quite traditional, which my parents are.

they have been more accepting of OH and seem to like him but I think they would be happier if it was someone of a similar cultural background. hence why OH is not getting involved and telling me that I have to deal with my own family. Which is fair enough.

She's kicked off even more now to the point of telling my sister that she wouldn't let me speak to the priest because she thought I wouldn't be tactful (about my own wedding *rolleyes*) enough. I'm old enough to get married and have children but she has the direct line with God.

It sounds more and more ridiculous the more I type on here. If you lot met me in real life, you'd wonder if it was the same woman cowering to her mother

I'm so sorry for those who feel left out by parents who don't care and those who don't have parents. You're welcome to my mother if you want. I'm happy to loan her out. :rotfl:

floss2

justengaged wrote: »

....I'm so sorry for those who feel left out by parents who don't care and those who don't have parents. You're welcome to my mother if you want. I'm happy to loan her out. :rotfl:

Well, at least it might reduce some of your stress!

Bluefire

You have my sympathies completely, I know exactly what it's like - I've been engaged for all of 5 days, not even getting married until 2012 and I've already had my first massive argument with my Mother which resulted in 'well why don't you just leave us out of the wedding completely then' etc... all because I said the invites would be addressed as from us and not from my parents. Unfortunately I know it's going to be like this right up until and possibly including the day itself - on my 18th birthday she spent the entire party sulking because I wasn't spending enough of the evening with her; I'm expecting pretty much the same again when it comes to my wedding day.

At the end of the day though it's you and your fiance's day, nobody elses. I've made a promise to myself that the only person that I'm letting change our plans is my partner. Once you start giving in to what everyone else wants it's hard to stop (as I guess you've realised!) So I've put my foot down right at the beginning. It will definitely cause arguments, but if it means you yourself are happier on the day because everything is how you wanted it to be then I think it's worth it!