I don't care about my debts

Bambywamby

Sorry about your friend...however where there is a breath there is a hope. The human spirit is strong and can beat the most devastating of circumstances..I wish you both well.

The delicacy of life puts everything else into perspective...however I actually enjoy being careful with my money and making sure it is put to the best possible use. I have spent too many years out of control to allow this self contented feeling of control and satisfaction to slip away.
I don't feel stingy - I feel careful. I dont feel as though I am missing out - I truly appreciate what I do have and those extravagances become extra special when they occur.
Being careful with cash doesn't stop me from being good to other people and at the end of the day...thats all that matters.

love and warm wishes to you both

Bams x.x

Dr.Shoe_2

Please accept my assurance that my thoughts are with you at this difficult time. I lost a dear friend to cancer two years ago, he never told any of his friends or family until it was too late for us to persuade him to take treatment. It was a great loss.

This doesn't mean that you need to stop living your life in whatever manner you see fit, though it does show the trivial for exactly what it is.

This is why I applaud your attitude, you haven't gone back on your DFW goals but you have pulled yourself back from the brink of obsession, and that is good.

bigdec

Good for you It has given you a real sense of life !

Open_Wallet_Surgery

Never expect the expected with any type of cancer

Six years ago my father was diagnosed with advanced (tumor on the spine) prostate cancer.....
Despite an overly pessismistic(sp?) prognosis, he's still here... driving his car, cutting the lawns on a Sunday
And just last week hes was diagnosed as type two diabetic, which for a "76 year old coffin dodger on more than borrowed time" - his words not mine, he finds rather amusing....

Never lose hope ......

Nuff said

kerryhoney

My thoughts are with you too. Putting things into perspective like that is often a good thing, though the ways that life makes us realise is not always the best of circumstances. Your friend is lucky to have someone that cares so much, and such a good network of friends and family as it sounds. Optimism and laughing will help. My grandad had cancer and that was nearly 20 years ago. He says that he got through it by laughing every day. He is one of the most optimistic people I know. He also wrote a book called A Second Helping and gave all the proceeds to cancer research, about £200,000 I think. So, often, good does come out of the bad. And he's still here to tell the tale (he has alzeheimers sp?! now but that's a whole 'nother ballgame....)

Take care and stay strong!

Kerry

bargainbetty

My godfather was diagnosed with cancer when I was seven years old, and the prognosis was extremely bad - he was not expected to last the year.

I'm 31 now, and two years ago I helped him celebrate his 70th birthday. My mum had lunch with him and my godmother just last month.

I know that not all stories have a happy ending - I lost my father to lung cancer five years ago - but you shouldn't give up hope and neither should she.

It does change your perspective, and I find joy far more easily these days...

My hopes go to your friend, and to all others fighting that awful disease.

x

Verbatim

You sound such a real, caring friend. I hope you and your friend can talk things through openly. I'm sure having no-one to discuss one's worst fears with would be the most frightening aspect of this terrible disease.

severussnape

i'm really sorry to hear about your friend i hope she has got the i'm not going to let this beat me motto going. cancer is a very strange disease, some people when they find out they have just roll over and say that's it then, don't let her do that, be there for her it will be tough. my friend has been in remission for ten years now and is fine but then another friend has just lost her husband three weeks ago, six months after being told it was terminal. be strong even if it is on the outside just do it for her
good luck and best wishes

SkippyB

How true! There are more important things in life than money but it's a question of putting everything in perspective.

It's nice to be able to have peace of mind each day and know that things will be sorted when you are gone.

Everything in moderation and moderation in everything!

Best Wishes

nidje

Hi
I was diagnosed with cancer myself in July 2001 and the impact was life changing for me but I think more so for my family and friends.
I found that for a few weeks following my diagnosis I was so alone. Family were falling to bits all around me, I was having to be the strong one, and my friends not knowing what to say or do, stayed away.
My advice would be to let your friend know that you are really there for her and when she needs to speak to someone in the small hours because she's feeling scared or alone she has you she can turn to. I know for me that would have been such a help.
I'm relieved to say I got the "all clear" this year and I sincerely hope that all goes well for your friend.
There is more to life than money
N x