Tuesday 20th July - What small DFW things have you done today?!

redsam

determined_new_ms wrote: »

{{{hugs}}} redsam. Try not to stress any worries you have can be resolved, things will work out ok in the end they always do. Money is just money, your life & health are much more important xxx

Hugs very appreciated, my free wedding venue has fallen through, my employees are being awkward (cant spell) so they dont have to put me on full pay...if i go down the DMP wont be able to out anything aside for a dress or anything else, dont want to loose any credit rating a may have as want to sell and buy with other half at some point.....

hohum

thanks

determined_new_ms

millyscarlett wrote: »

Congrats DNMS on paying off that o/d:beer:

• text ex-h to ask for some of the money he owes me - possibly a waste of time, he'll say ok and then plead poverty:o

Thank you! So excited, and happy I can share with you guys rather than boring colleagues/friends who aren't on the same page :A

You know what in the end I gave up caring whether my kids father gave me maint (he actually gave up work a few years back rather than pay me £30 pw for his 2 children - such a looser!). It was really galling when they were younger/we were soooooo hard up. But now their 16 & 17 & I earn enough money to support us and I have a distinct sense of superiority whenever I see him (I think he feels it too as he is always really uncomfortable ) because despite difficulties we have had I have a relationship with each of my children, its me who they come to when they need help/support/comfort and as the years go on they will understand and appreciate everything I did to ensure they had everything they needed. (proverbial 2 fingers to carp dad's, shame on them!) x

catmiaow

Morning all,

My list for today:

[STRIKE]Check bank
Quick shower
Email people back
Do comps before go out[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Go to interview - same job as went for a few months ago and didnt get so probably be same interview seems weird, wondering if wasting my time
Do shopping for nan and pick up prescription - doc gave her wrong one yesterday grr
Pop and see nan for 1 hour[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Vacuum house - done downstairs will do upstairs on Fri am[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]More comps[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Check job sites
Use free texts
Mop kitchen floor
Watch ITV player - this weeks identity[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Dinner soup with 15p baguette
Washing on and will hang to dry[/STRIKE]

Total spend £3.50


Hope everyone has a good day

pixiechick99

determined_new_ms wrote: »

Thank you! So excited, and happy I can share with you guys rather than boring colleagues/friends who aren't on the same page :A

You know what in the end I gave up caring whether my kids father gave me maint (he actually gave up work a few years back rather than pay me £30 pw for his 2 children - such a looser!). It was really galling when they were younger/we were soooooo hard up. But now their 16 & 17 & I earn enough money to support us and I have a distinct sense of superiority whenever I see him (I think he feels it too as he is always really uncomfortable ) because despite difficulties we have had I have a relationship with each of my children, its me who they come to when they need help/support/comfort and as the years go on they will understand and appreciate everything I did to ensure they had everything they needed. (proverbial 2 fingers to carp dad's, shame on them!) x

Thanks chick:A
My ex is absolutely useless with money - spends whatever he has before he spends on his kids. He is a good dad apart from that though, but just has no idea about paying much! i'm doing so much better than I think he ever expected - I have a lovely house (even tho' I rent, dont own), it's me who buys the girls everything - I managed to buy them laptops, take them on holiday etc...he always expected to be the better-off one when he left us:rotfl:

I've just spent £150 on new school uniform as dd2 going to secondary and, although dd1 is already there, they've changed the uniform so she needs new stuff too...grrrr:mad: I also paid for both their school trips away...one to the IOW, one to Germany - he still owes £150 for that (paid £50 a month, gee thanks!) - good job they have sensible mothers, these children, eh?:D:D

miss_empty_piggy

millyscarlett wrote: »

Thanks chick:A
My ex is absolutely useless with money - spends whatever he has before he spends on his kids. He is a good dad apart from that though, but just has no idea about paying much! i'm doing so much better than I think he ever expected - I have a lovely house (even tho' I rent, dont own), it's me who buys the girls everything - I managed to buy them laptops, take them on holiday etc...he always expected to be the better-off one when he left us:rotfl:

I am totally with you on this one. Everyone looked in shock that I had left him (how dare I, he was so sorted and such a good dad). He thought that I wasn't worthy of him and that I would be useless without him and his input into everything. Turns out that I am managing perfectly (and have never been so happy), meeting my DD's needs including holidays etc. I recently asked him to go half's on new school uniform (£100) and he said he couldn't until the end of the year! :mad: He didn't even offer to buy them new shoes or anything. It doesn't bother me either, got to the point where I have the peace of mind knowing that I am being a good parent. He still manages to go out to the pub every weekend that he has the kids, and he drinks alot when he goes out, at least £40. Sorry for the rant!!

Anyway for me today the plan is:

- do something with the pastry in the fridge that is just about ood. Oops forgot. do it tomorrow.
- clean out chickens
- clean car inside and out
- eat only from stores Managed this.
- NSD Also managed this.
- check out what suitcases are in loft for holidays next week
- collate passports and holiday docs
- get cheapest possible car hire in france
- ring tax credits people before deadly deadline
- replant tomato plants so they might actually grow
- shower instead of baths Yup
- packed luches all round Yup

Totally got distracted by organising the loft space. Have got mountains of clothes and toys for the car boot sale I'm planning. Was ruthless as hell. It was fabulous. Have got the other side of the loft and the rest of the house to finish off yet. I love the cleansing feeling you get from having a tidy loft (how bizarre does that sound?)

Keep smiling everyone. Have a great day. :j

elfen

Check bank
Check quidco
Check onepoll
Check emails
Check survey sites
Washing on
Hang washing to dry
NSD - already declared
Walk
Level 2 day 2 shred
Read more of my book
Start researching for presentation - choose film.

josiebabie

It's funny actually, one of the things Milly said to me when I first started going through the break up with DD's dad is that I WILL be more organised with my money and more in control...and she is absolutely right! How is it that men manage to cause us to be so disorganised?

determined_new_ms

he he he lets vilify all the carppy dad's!!!! :rotfl::rotfl:fair enough they are "good" dads (mine was absolutely useless left me 18 yrs old one 15 mnth old, one new born, no family, not a clue about how to be a parent and not a pot to you know what in nor a window to throw it out of) but come on it takes a sight more than weekend visits & days out, maint often would often be laughable if it wasn't for the impact it has on the family. £30 a week I cried when he had a job - i'd be lucky if I had £30 a week after paying all the expenditure that comes with a family & home. But he jacked it in rather than pay that!!!

I know that the majority of fathers are wonderful dad's, take their responsibilities seriously but there are so many that don't. I can't afford school uniforms till the end of the year???? Many was the time I didn't eat anything than a couple of slices of toast a day to ensure my kids had food, clothes and a roof over their head.

It makes my blood boil!!! The impact it has on the remaining parent (and the children) living in poverty is so unfair, and yet these absent dad's will be in the pub talking about their kids...

Anyway - I'm not really bitter :rotfl:

pixiechick99

josiebabie wrote: »

It's funny actually, one of the things Milly said to me when I first started going through the break up with DD's dad is that I WILL be more organised with my money and more in control...and she is absolutely right! How is it that men manage to cause us to be so disorganised?

Yaaaaaaaaay I said something sensible and right:beer::beer: (Doesn't happen often!!;))
When we were married I think both of us expected the other to be organised .. but we weren't! So on my own, it's all down to me...and I love it:T
I enjoy knowing where all my pennies go...and it's very satisfying to be the one providing for the girls...he can only just pay me £200 a month for them both. I'm sure he must be hacked off when I afford their Xmas/Bday presents and take them on holiday...;)

pixiechick99

determined_new_ms wrote: »

he he he lets vilify all the carppy dad's!!!! :rotfl::rotfl:fair enough they are "good" dads (mine was absolutely useless left me 18 yrs old one 15 mnth old, one new born, no family, not a clue about how to be a parent and not a pot to you know what in nor a window to throw it out of) but come on it takes a sight more than weekend visits & days out, maint often would often be laughable if it wasn't for the impact it has on the family. £30 a week I cried when he had a job - i'd be lucky if I had £30 a week after paying all the expenditure that comes with a family & home. But he jacked it in rather than pay that!!!

I know that the majority of fathers are wonderful dad's, take their responsibilities seriously but there are so many that don't. I can't afford school uniforms till the end of the year???? Many was the time I didn't eat anything than a couple of slices of toast a day to ensure my kids had food, clothes and a roof over their head.

It makes my blood boil!!! The impact it has on the remaining parent (and the children) living in poverty is so unfair, and yet these absent dad's will be in the pub talking about their kids...

Anyway - I'm not really bitter :rotfl:

My girls' dad said he'd go halves on their week-long school trips....they've both been and he still owes me £150:rotfl: It's a good job we don't rely on him really!!!!