Moods in pregnancy

janninew

Hi Folks,

Just wondered if any of you ladies or (gents with pregnant OH's) have suffered bad moods whilst pregnant?

I'm pregnant with my 2nd and I feel so angry all the time, I'm not an angry person normally, so this is so not like me. My hubby works away, but he is back home tomorrow and I know we are going to fallout, the though of it is worrying me. I feel irritated over the smallest thing and constantly on edge, I wasn't like this in my first pregnancy. I've recently given up my job due to hyperemesis and I feel worthless and hopeless.

I've tried all the normal ways to relax and I've spoken to my midwife who tells me mood swings are normal. I think if I carry on like this i'm going to push my husband away, he is a wonderful husband and dad and works so hard for us, I know this, but I also know I will still have a go at him over really small, petty things.

Not sure what anybody can advise, but I do feel a little better about getting it off my chest.

Janninew x

Courgette

No advice, just sympathy. I'm a right narky cow at the moment too. I seem to remember looking back to DS 12 years ago that I got really angry towards the end too.

Maybe warn him in advance and tell him how worried you are about peeing him off

janninew

Courgette wrote: »

No advice, just sympathy. I'm a right narky cow at the moment too. I seem to remember looking back to DS 12 years ago that I got really angry towards the end too.

Maybe warn him in advance and tell him how worried you are about peeing him off

I've already warned him! The thing is I know I'm being unreasonable, yet I still do it, its like I can't help myself!

got-it-spend-it

Yep, I was totally irrational and down a lot of the time when I was pregnant. I'm not sure that I realised the extent of it until I'd had my son and suddenly felt normal again.

I think one of the things I found really hard was that I couldn't do any of the things I would normally do to unwind like go for a run, have a glass of wine, go for a coffee etc.

The only thing I can suggest is to explain to your husband how you are feeling and that it is not his fault, or your fault. It is the hormones.

xmaslolly76

Yup its perfectly normal i can be like a banshee with PMT at times i did warn my other half before hand what would happen and told him non of it would be his fault it was all the hormones i laid it on pretty thick as well so by the end he turned round and said i wasnt actually as bad as he thought i was going to be. Sometimes i could feel myself boiling from the inside so i would remove myself from the situation sharpish as i knew i was about to explode over something completely petty its not always possible but could help when you realise its happening. I have been lucky this time only really thrown 2 hissy fits and have just been a little cranky the rest of the time.

emsywoo123

Hi
I have jsut posted on the preggers thread that I am feeling low, and I will go to bed soon or I know I will end up angry LOL. The good thing about single and pregnant is that there is no one to get angry with :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I seem to be having a few low moods at the minute, but equally I seem to still be able to rationally realise that it's nothing more sinister that the flooding of hormones, it's not the end of the world, and I will get over it!

janninew

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Yup its perfectly normal i can be like a banshee with PMT at times i did warn my other half before hand what would happen and told him non of it would be his fault it was all the hormones i laid it on pretty thick as well so by the end he turned round and said i wasnt actually as bad as he thought i was going to be. Sometimes i could feel myself boiling from the inside so i would remove myself from the situation sharpish as i knew i was about to explode over something completely petty its not always possible but could help when you realise its happening. I have been lucky this time only really thrown 2 hissy fits and have just been a little cranky the rest of the time.

You've hit the nail on the head there! That's just how I feel lots of the time, glad it's not just me though!
Just spoken to my hubby now and bless him, he said he can't wait to see me and take me to bed, you can imagine my reaction to that! Cue me shouting 'that's all you think about' and 'if it wasn't for you I wouldn't be feeling like this' God love him he is so good to me, I had to send him a quick txt telling him that I do love him and I didn't mean anything I said! I'm really going to try and keep calm and if I can't I will do as you and remove myself from the situation until I've calmed down!

xmaslolly76

I also think about some of the common situations that set me off in advance as well and prepare myself, such as your telephone conversation just. If my OH says something like that i have my response ready so he would have heard "Yes babes will be nice to be able to snuggle down and cuddle whilst i go to sleep ive missed you next to me" whilst in my head i'm thinking you selfish pig dont you know how bloody tired, aching and sick i feel at the moment grrrrrrrrr. It stops any expectations from him and prevents me from going off on one at him again :-)

fireflycatcher

It's perfectly normal, I didn't really get angry/act like a cow when pregnant, but I was the total oppisote and would be upset about every little thing.

spaghetti_monster

I was working all day yesterday and noticed that I was getting more irritable with my colleagues than usual (actually never get irritated at all with them normally), but of course I restrained myself and didn't show it.
So I think that poor OH is getting much more than his far share of irritable/moody behaviour from me.

We've been managing to have a bit of a laugh about it. The other day we were watching a news story about some idiot at a zoo - disappointed that a crocodile wasn't moving, he climbed into its enclosure and got bitten.
Later on OH was making some comments (maybe slightly provocative/argumentative, nothing too bad - but irritating me nonetheless) - so I said something like "what is it with guys that makes them think its a good idea to climb into a crocodile's cage??!!"
It helps us to have a bit of a laugh about it, and I feel a bit removed from my feelings.

I think I'm also more emotional/weepy etc (crying at Toy Story 3 )

hngrymummy

MOODS, what moods. WHO SAID I WAS IN A MOOD? :mad: Show me who said that and I'll sort 'em out good and proper. :mad: