Contesting a will

SandC

I would tend to agree with blabberwort.

If her original intention was the majority of the estate split 50/50 between both her children then I don't see anything wrong in her having changed her will to leave 100% to the son. If the other things were so small then perhaps she decided it was fuss and bother. Especially as you had seen a previous draft with your dad being executor and not beneficiary in any way 2/3 years ago it seems she had already made up her mind then.

Many people just want to make their will as easy as possible to deal with when they are gone. Many people also believe that inheritance should go to their children and that their children in turn should leave their inheritance to their children (ie nothing to go to grandchildren). It does make sense, and I personally wouldn't advice pursuing this as there doesn't appear to have been any recent change of will.

MarieAAP

I am sorry to hear about the loss of your gran, and I admire your practical head rising itself a little.

I have nothing else to add, but here is a little tit-bit that may provide you with a small smile. I always try really hard to find the silver lining in dark grey cloud (I am having to do it a lot recently:()

Does he have any dependents? If not, and no will is written up, then you will be the beneficies....

M

hopefuldreamer91

Thanks everyone - for some reason it never really hits me that someone has died until the funeral (always been that way, and the ADs seem to make that worse in me), so honestly I've not begun grieving yet. I keep going to go up there at the moment too! Even upon losing my Mum at 14 I was pretty ok until the funeral.. went decidely downhill after that though.

It really wasn't like my gran to leave nothing, if it was just us I'd think oh then, but even her own sister, but then it's possible she thought her son would do right by everyone too. She specifically always had some put for the grandkids and her sister, about 10% in total, the other 90% between son and daughter, hence it seeming really weird. I'd have liked to make sure her sister got what she was promised from the house as well, which now probably won't happen.

Bitter.. honestly yes, put up with a lot from him over the years and he always seems to come up smelling of roses, one of those people I guess. However that's based 100% on past experience, not on the annoyance.

Sorry if all this is very jumbled, I've had about 4 hours of sleep in the last 2 nights, so not completely with it!


Thanks for the replies, I guess I just have to let bygones be bygones and make sure we know when the funeral etc is (we can't find out anything easily as he's currently not telling us).

meritaten

hopefuldreamer - ring around the funeral directors in the area if you realy arent told when the funeral is. a funeral IS NOT a private event and lots of funeral directors will actually put notices in local shops etc.
i DO understand why you dont feel this is real and are focusing on the will. takes your mind off the reality of things doesnt it?
but hun, while people like your uncle are totally money oriented, they end up with no family speaking to them and sad lonely old people with lots of money in the bank which usually end up with the offspring of those it should have gone to! Natural Justice! and even if it doesnt - its only money. you however have lovely memories and a clear conscience. as the ad says 'Priceless'.

Savvy_Sue

meritaten wrote: »

hopefuldreamer - ring around the funeral directors in the area if you realy arent told when the funeral is. a funeral IS NOT a private event and lots of funeral directors will actually put notices in local shops etc.

I think they'd only be doing that if they were instructed to do so by the person arranging the family, wouldn't they?

SandC

My recent experience is it's taking almost a fortnight for the funeral to occur so don't worry if you haven't heard anything yet. Also, the death could not have even been registered until yesterday if she passed away at the weekend so you are looking at next week - a lot depends on how busy the crematorium or church is. Keep your eye on the local papers online as they usually print them in there unless they've been specially instructed not to.

NAR

hopefuldreamer91 wrote: »

Thanks for the replies, I guess I just have to let bygones be bygones and make sure we know when the funeral etc is (we can't find out anything easily as he's currently not telling us).

Is there a local paper where death notices are published? It might include funeral details. (This happens in my town)