Moved In to my house, cant settle - anyone else?

sequin123

Hi

I moved in 2 weeks ago into a our new family house, it was our 'we will be here for at least 10 years' house. 2 weeks in and I feel like I have made a terrible mistake

The road noise is loud (how I didnt notice this I dont know) and I had doubts over the garden as it is only about 32ft and now when I look out the window I feel sick. I just want to go back to our old house even though it had less space. It doesnt help that 5 weeks ago I broke my ankle so cant do anything to the house, cant go out and just sit and stew wishing I could turn back the clock.

Has anyone else moved in somewhere and found their was something that they didnt notice when they viewed their house, did you learn to live with it, if not did you sell again soon after?

Thanks

Sammy85_2

Give it some more time, 2 weeks isnt that long.

We felt the exact same way, road was noisier than we thought and little things kept cropping up, like leaking pipes, broken toilet etc, things that the seller had obviously known about. We almost felt like we'd been had, IYKWIM.

1 year on we're very happy. Road is still there but we're putting up trees and hedges and already its a whole lot better. No more little suprises (i hope!) Just going through planning now so we can make the house exactly how we want it.

MrsManda

As Sammy said, two weeks isn't really a long time though probably feels it if you're stuck in the house.

If you are unable to go anywhere with your ankle, how about getting some gardening and design magazines, a few colour charts and start planning how to make things 'yours'?

Make sure you do get out of the house at weekends, or in the evening when your family are home as spending a lot of time in the house is just going to have you dwelling on the bad things so you cannot to see the good things - and there will be good things.

leap31

I could have written your post a year ago... We moved into our current house in March 2009, but it just didn't feel right from the start. I remember sitting on my sofa the night of the move and instead of feeling excited, I had a real feel of dread. Unknown to me at the time; but I was also pregnant - so could put it down to hormones! There is really nothing wrong with the house; but it just doesn't feel like the right home for me. Anyway; my feelings didn't improve so we put the house on the market in January this year. We still managed to "make" money, so haven't lost of financially at all. It has been a complete year of hassle; and I'm not impressed on the amount of stamp duty we've paid with the 2 moves!!

I really do know how you are feeling; but do give it some time. x

Eric1

2 weeks is not enough for your ears to adjust
when I moved, it was so quiet I couldn't sleep normally for a month

cbrpaul

we bought a brand new house , a 4 bed detached , , in another area 15 years ago , house was lovely , but it was all un finished building works going on , no roads , dug up fields etc, workmen everywhere , big lorries , vans , bonfires, noise.

I never felt at home always came home from work and left my coat on ,

Needless to say we moved after 1 month ,

However we past the same area a year ago or so , and saw our old house , it looked lovely , the whole area was lovely , and I thought maybe I should have waited till the area was completed , and the property is now worth double what we sold for :rotfl:

Anyway the moral here is , give it a chance , your lack of mobility is not helping matters , also it can be a stressfull time moving , so sit down put your feet up with a nice cuppa , and make a list up of what you want to do around the house and garden when your fit again

gizmo111

Yes I felt like that when I moved here 7 years ago. It took me a good while to be bale ot aford to change it to how I wanted it but now I'm happy although planning on moving in a couple of years to a smaller place.

mrcol1000

We moved into our current rented house and discovered very quickly something which seemed nice but actually was a nusiance. Our house is on a main road but to get to the drive and front door you come off it and go up a lovely tree lined private road that eventually leads to a manor house. Our landlord literally is lord of the manor. However the private road past our house is a public footpath.
We have a massive problem with dog fouling. We can't take our dog for a walk along there the weekends due to the number of dog owners who let their dog off the lead as soon as they get off the main road (depsite a sign from landlord saying not to). Our dog is not great with dogs and okay until they are off lead and come up to her. We also get the dogs jumping a wall into our garden. The people who do this are normally quite well off (due to the local area) and don't see what is wrong with it. Also when my OH passed their driving test last year bizarrely every few days the Passed plate on the back of our car (never the front) was stolen. Sometimes at night sometimes during the day to the point where we had to remove it until we went out in the car.
This is something we didn't get use to but it was something we learnt from when we came to buy. We found a great house but it was next to a public footpath so decided it wasn't worth the bother. We found somewhere in a nice cul-de-sac instead.

twirlypinky

i moved into a rented flat in Thame in Oxfordshire. It was everything i wanted and more. It was two bedrooms when i only needed one, it was in a central location (!) and it was listed, all wonky floors and beams, really really lovely and totally what i'm into. All my kitch belongings looked amazing in there, and it was my first home after leaving my ex husband, so i really wanted to be happy. It was also my first time living alone.

Well, i had to move out after 8 months, not just because i couldn't afford to live there anymore either. It was opposite a pub which got itself a late licence and turned into a little nightclub three nights a week.

I'd be laying in bed and all i could hear is the bass from this club, i could tell you exactly what songs they were playing all the time. I could hear drunk people falling out and walking across the road to the bank alongside my flat and getting cash out of the hole in the wall. They would shout at each other and fight. It was a nightmare!

Luckily i was only renting it! Unfortunately i was stuck in a year long agreement which they would only let me out of if I found a new tenant!

poppysarah

You've got a bit of broken bone blues. Feeling incapacitated will lead to feelings of unhappyness that you are blaming on your house.

Think back to the reasons why you bought it.

I assume it's raining like mad there at the moment - damp roads are imo more noisy than dry ones.

PasturesNew

My friend bought a house, but didn't like being there alone, so would spend all her time at her parents' still. Then she had the neighbour from hell when she was there... so she sold it and moved back to her parents. Now, 2 years on, parents obviously nagging her ... she's bought another house .. brand new this time, bigger. And still she won't "live" there. She just goes to "play house" occasionally ... and still lives up the road with her parents