Should be getting married next week ....

frannyann

beks wrote: »

Thanks for the ideas dizzie, maysie and bubbles.
I will try and use all of those to make our day a little bit special (its also the day we met six years ago).
The children thing is not a can't, its a wont. he does not want more children and I know there is no way he will change his mind, no way at all. I feel so torn as I would love another child but I cant jeopordise our relationship. Trouble is, I cant get over it and I dont want to start getting bitter and twisted over it. I just hope I can bury it somewhere or I will lose the best thing in my life.
I guess I have to face it that we cant always have what we want in this life.

I understand this situation, I can't have any more children but my OH doesn't have any children. The thing that made me agree to marry him, it was his statement that 'I want you more than I want children' That meant a lot to me, because I didn't want him to miss out on having children by being with me. The children issue can break many couples, so its good you can talk to him about it xx

bubbles0169

ah i hope you can over come it too, i dont know if i could but i would probably just go along with 'he might change his mind in the future, if he sees how much i want one after a while he might change his mind' that way you have a teeny bit of hope, but you may be able to put it to the back of your mind for a bit
if i didnt think like that i would be having serious doubts too
incidently its a running joke between me and h2b that he would have another baby(after two) 'if we won the lottery' the lottery?? what about my sanity????!!!!

justengaged_2

awww you poor thing. How about just surprising him when he gets home with a treat? Or just take go for a day out, doing something that you both enjoy to remind each other how great it is.