Ladies & Gentlemen, please fasten your seatbelts ...

benbenandme

Okay, todays plan ... open the windows, get dressed and get cracking on the list and see how much I can achieve by 3 when ds comes home, then have a lazy afternoon with him

My tesco dtd vouher came through this morning too, another £14 back :beer:

benbenandme

An hour and a half in and I seem to have done loads but the list isn't looking much shorter yet The kitchen and bathroom have both been deepcleaned, the bathroom is sparkling like a new pin but the only bits I haven't done in there yet are gutting the two small cupboard, which are the bits on the list Never mind, once I know the place is all clean and sparkly it will be much easier to get the extra jobs done.

Stopping for some breakfast now, looks like it will be a nice day out today too, so want to get as much done as possible so I can go out with ds this afternoon

benbenandme

Quick update time, just to make me feel like I've achieved something so far this morning

Get old tv and sofa base to the tip
· Guinea pigs to mums
· Buy new large plant / move pot to where guinea pigs are
· Sort brown wicker drawers
· Action paperwork
· Gut baskets on lounge unit
· Gut lounge unit
· [STRIKE]Gut hall cupboard[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Clean cupboard under bathroom sink[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Gut bathroom wall cupboard[/STRIKE] DONE
· Dejunk shower head
· Clean bathroom light
· Clean bathroom filter
· Replant herb box
· Clean front door inside and out
· Replace doorbell
· Clean all windows
· Gut ds wardrobe
· Gut ds small drawer
· Gut ds chest of drawers
· Gut under ds bed
· Put up pictures / posters in ds bedroom
· Gut my wardrobe
· Gut my drawers
· Gut under my bed
· Gut all paperwork
· Clean oven
· Clean fridge
· Clean dishwasher
· Clean washing machine
· [STRIKE]Clean cooker hood[/STRIKE] DONE
· Bin / rehome stuff under my window
· Get bikes fixed
· Mobile cash-back claim NEED TO WAIT FOR BILL TO ARRIVE
· [STRIKE]Deep-clean kitchen cupboards[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Move rock salt bag to the garagE[/STRIKE] DONE
· Sort out bath pillow sucker thing
· Sort out life assurance
· Sort out will
· Book service for the car
· Check dates for contents insurance running out
· Check dates for car insurance running out
· Call Travelodge re. charger left behind KEEP TRYING BUT STILL NO ANSWER
· Label ds summer uniform
· Chase up tax return refund

Keeping_Motivated

Re your list Benben is there anything on there that you dread doing or put off and do the more (for want of a better word) the more enjoyable ones first?

If there is then according to the chat going on on Firewalkers thread (who is reading Eat that Frog) then you should do the most dreaded/difficult job first thing and then you will have more energy for everything else so maybe you could try that.....I know I certainly need to!!!

http://www.eatthatfrogmovie.com/

benbenandme

Theres none that I especially dread KM< but some lead on to others if that makes sense, and its finding the time to be able to start it and complete it as if I leave it halfway then I end up in a worse mess than if I hadn't even started

I'm currently tackling my paperwork cupboard, its not too bad but risks getting out of hand if I don't keep on top of it regularly. Once thats done then I need to think through the storage in my room and make sure I'm maximising it before i start gutting all my clothes

I will go and have a read of that though in a bit when I stop for lunch, thankyou

benbenandme

Paperwork is filed away, just a small pile of stuff to action left. All my bedroom drawers have been sorted and a bin liner filled with junk / odd socks etc They are now easy to open and close and I found several items I'd forgotten I even owned :T

Had a quick shower, now time for some lunch before I dry my hair and then I'll see if theres time to get some more done before collecting ds at 3

benbenandme

Today has been quite successful in terms of my list, and more so in terms of my head, I feel less stressed already, just knowing the place is less cluttered Theres still quite a bit to be done but I know I have made a lot of progress today and am happy with that. I will update the list in a minute ...

In other news, I had a good chat with ds when he came home about his behaviour and we have decided to set up another reward chart. This one will be quite simple, basically he has to go a whole week without a meltdown and then he will earn a ride on a bus or a train on the saturday. So today counts as day one and so far so good :T Long way to go but he is already planning where we will go next saturday I don't mind, I'm happy to go on buses and trains all day if it curbs the behaviour issues; I think it must be my fault, I must give in too often to him, let him have his own way, so from now on it changes, he needs to learn and learn fast

Also, have arranged for mum to pick ds up from holiday club on tuesday, so I can have all afternoon and err, well night with crouchy

Right, time for another list update ...

[QUOTE Get old tv and sofa base to the tip
· Guinea pigs to mums TOMORROW
· Buy new large plant / move pot to where guinea pigs are
· Sort brown wicker drawers
· Action paperwork
· Gut baskets on lounge unit
· Gut lounge unit
· [STRIKE]Gut hall cupboard[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Clean cupboard under bathroom sink[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Gut bathroom wall cupboard[/STRIKE] DONE
· Dejunk shower head
· Clean bathroom light
· Clean bathroom filter
· Replant herb box
· Clean front door inside and out
· Replace doorbell
· Clean all windows
· Gut ds wardrobe
· Gut ds small drawer
· Gut ds chest of drawers
· Gut under ds bed
· Put up pictures / posters in ds bedroom
· Gut my wardrobe
· [STRIKE]Gut my drawers[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Gut under my bed[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Gut all paperwork[/STRIKE] DONE
· Clean oven
· Clean fridge
· Clean dishwasher
· Clean washing machine
· [STRIKE]Clean cooker hood[/STRIKE] DONE
· Bin / rehome stuff under my window
· Get bikes fixed
· Mobile cash-back claim
· [STRIKE]Deep-clean kitchen cupboards[/STRIKE] DONE
· [STRIKE]Move rock salt bag to the garage[/STRIKE] DONE
· Sort out bath pillow sucker thing
· Sort out life assurance
· Sort out will
· Book service for the car
· Check dates for contents insurance running out
· Check dates for car insurance running out
· Call Travelodge re. charger left behind
· Label ds summer uniform
· Chase up tax return refund

][/QUOTE]

Tonight I want to work on the adimn tasks near the bottom of the list, and maybe get a couple more bits done from the rest of the list too

Keeping_Motivated

You're doing well with the list but then you are always good with a list, you seem to get so much done you put me to shame.

Glad you've had a chat with DS. What does his melt down consist of, is it anger?

benbenandme

Complete losing the plot, anger, screaming, hitting me .... He totally loses the plot, nothing calms him down at all / stops it until he wears himself out with it

Chicken is roasting nicely, ironing is done and put away, why do I not remember to put all these things on the list :cool: Last lot of washing is nearly finished, then I can clean the machine, run it on an empty cycle / clean the filters etc. The dishwasher will have to wait as its half full again.

Keeping_Motivated

Have you spoke to him about what he 'can' do when he feels upset ie alternative more healthy coping skills?