Marrying in Kenya

EmandDen_2

Hi there.

Please help me I am beginning to start pulling my hair out. I am getting very stressed.

I am getting married to my fiance in November in Kenya, he is a kenyan too.

We are planning all this ourselves instead of getting a planner, as we want to do this as cheap as possible. We dont have much money between us.

We are getting married on a beach somewhere near Mombasa, not sure which one, I am leaving that with him.

He has gone to the registry office in Mombasa called Ambalala house, and has got prices for a beach wedding of £87!!!!!!!!!! I mean come on how much of a bargain is that!!!!

I am planning to go and meet a local florist when I go over there in November and tell them what I want as a bouquet, button holes and petals for my fiance's 2 year old niece.

I think I am wanting a party on the beach afterwards...having the sun lower in the sky maybe a local little band to dance to and sing, what about food and drink on the beach OR possibly going back to his village....not entirely sure, as I have sent an email with a HUGE list that he needs to organise....location....price of flowers...car transfer....archway on beach.....but I am totally on a tight tight budget...looking at probably £200-£300 for total wedding...

I dont know if anyone on here could help me a little bit more.....I am going stir crazy:eek: thinking about it all the time....

I just need help.

Thanks guys.

Emma x

welshmoneylover

EmandDen wrote: »

Hi there.

Please help me I am beginning to start pulling my hair out. I am getting very stressed.

I am getting married to my fiance in November in Kenya, he is a kenyan too.

We are planning all this ourselves instead of getting a planner, as we want to do this as cheap as possible. We dont have much money between us.

We are getting married on a beach somewhere near Mombasa, not sure which one, I am leaving that with him.

He has gone to the registry office in Mombasa called Ambalala house, and has got prices for a beach wedding of £87!!!!!!!!!! I mean come on how much of a bargain is that!!!!

I am planning to go and meet a local florist when I go over there in November and tell them what I want as a bouquet, button holes and petals for my fiance's 2 year old niece.

I think I am wanting a party on the beach afterwards...having the sun lower in the sky maybe a local little band to dance to and sing, what about food and drink on the beach OR possibly going back to his village....not entirely sure, as I have sent an email with a HUGE list that he needs to organise....location....price of flowers...car transfer....archway on beach.....but I am totally on a tight tight budget...looking at probably £200-£300 for total wedding...

I dont know if anyone on here could help me a little bit more.....I am going stir crazy:eek: thinking about it all the time....

I just need help.

Thanks guys.

Emma x

Wow that sounds lovely, where are you going to live after? I'd imagine Kenya is a wonderful place to live.

EmandDen_2

Hey,

Well the plan is to get married to him in November, you see I have been off work for 6 months, have been very poorly, so im not getting SP only SSP so hardly get anything.....
So we are marrying in November, I come back to the UK and then I am leave to go back to Kenya in April '11 by then I would have saved enough money again and go out and get him, stay for a week, and then travel back with him to live in the UK......in the very long future we want to save enough money for us to have children and then move out back to Kenya and buy our own plot of land and build our own house there and have our own little serengeti...(oops I mean farm)!!!

He doesnt want me living in Kenya at the moment as it is such a poor country and he is so worried I wont adjust to easily, whilst he could adjust here in the UK hopefully without any problems.

Emz

welshmoneylover

EmandDen wrote: »

Hey,

Well the plan is to get married to him in November, you see I have been off work for 6 months, have been very poorly, so im not getting SP only SSP so hardly get anything.....
So we are marrying in November, I come back to the UK and then I am leave to go back to Kenya in April '11 by then I would have saved enough money again and go out and get him, stay for a week, and then travel back with him to live in the UK......in the very long future we want to save enough money for us to have children and then move out back to Kenya and buy our own plot of land and build our own house there and have our own little serengeti...(oops I mean farm)!!!

He doesnt want me living in Kenya at the moment as it is such a poor country and he is so worried I wont adjust to easily, whilst he could adjust here in the UK hopefully without any problems.

Emz

Wow, don't want to come across as a sourpuss but please be careful as they're making changes to immigration rules so he may not be able to come here as easy at that.

However, I don't think you'll be stopped from moving to Kenya to live with your husband.

EmandDen_2

welshmoneylover wrote: »

Wow, don't want to come across as a sourpuss but please be careful as they're making changes to immigration rules so he may not be able to come here as easy at that.

However, I don't think you'll be stopped from moving to Kenya to live with your husband.

Are you serious....? Like how?? If we are married they cant turn him away can they??? And this is a serious happy marriage we have here..it is nothing dodgy, we are not maarrying just to get him a visa, are are genually totally in love.

They cant ruin this for us....We cant stay away from each other any longer its killing us as it is

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jackieglasgow

I think this smells a bit trolly?

Sammy85_2

Marriage doesnt gain automatic entitlement to a visa.

EmandDen_2

jackieglasgow wrote: »

I think this smells a bit trolly?

What does that mean???? You saying it sounds dodgy??? Me marrying someone from Africa?

Lexxi

No that's not what she means at all. The new government are trying to change the immigration laws so your husband to be might have difficulty getting a visa, there are numerous options available to you. I'm sure you will get help with the 'all new' 'relocation' benefits

EmandDen_2

Lexxi wrote: »

No that's not what she means at all. The new government are trying to change the immigration laws so your husband to be might have difficulty getting a visa, there are numerous options available to you. I'm sure you will get help with the 'all new' 'relocation' benefits

Ok thank you...sorry for jumping too quick...people have been so negative about my wedding....they all say you hear all these stories...and yes you do, but with him and I its totally not that, and if it goes t*ts up at least i gave it a go, I would be regretting for the rest of my life thinking what if...
I cant even tell my mother about this ether...she is not too keen on the idea....not too keen on the idea what am I saying....she totally thinks he is using me...so i am doing this secretly without hardly anyone knowing sad isnt it.

But i dont know if anyone can advise this to me or not...as we are getting married, so we can finally be together and then he moves ober to the UK obviously mum will get to know him more and begin to love him...and when she thinks its time to get married..is there a possible way we can "GET MARRIED" again....so the whole thing look like a wedding?????

THis is such a horrible situation that I am in...I would love her to be involved in this wedding....but she pushed it too far last time.

Please help...

i am an :A angel really and my halo is still pretty high on my head...is beginning to slip off now lol

Lexxi

I'd hate to get married and not have my parents involved. Especially if I had to decieve them until they decided to accept my partner to then throw a fake marriage just for their benefit. I'm sure your parents will have been to other weddings and know a fake wedding.