should i take further action?

ilovemykids1979

really so we should put the roof over there head twice??

maybe pay for there house of resident parent husband and their child hey?

actually why not get them to pay for yours while your at it!!

real world is not about every person being in the same boat

afc80

my brother pays his ex £650 per month, mind you he is earning £45k pa

Loopy_Girl

ilovemykids1979 wrote: »

this is a reply of a real person in the real would, never mind the 15% rubbish evry situation is different.

15% can be way too muchc is many cases.

What % would you think would be acceptable?

ilovemykids1979

a percentage is different for every case.

i have a child that lives with me, and one i see alot of i know how much it can cost to bring up a child but 15% for some one who doesnt see kid and provideds nothing can be too little.

15% for some one who has to get bigger house to give child own room, has own wardrobe supports there child, holidays, trips ect ect 15% can be too much.

in some circumstances a NRP can be paying for a ex her husband and their children to live wny is this fair??

Loopy_Girl

To be honest you are talking about CS1 which didn't work hence why CS2 was drafted in.

There had to be a cut off point and I think that 15% is a reasonable amount for one child. Anyone earning under £200 per week also is not expected to pay a full 15% as it is done on a sliding scale so this assists the lower earners.

The amount goes into the household pot (for most people) and can't be dicated by the NRP how it is spent - much like I am sure that NRP's wouldn't like anyone else telling them how to spend their money.

If you have your child to stay overnight then make sure you are getting your reduction.

ilovemykids1979

i know how it works BUT why should a NRP pay for other people to be comfertible? my money should not go into a house hold pot were there are kids and adults i have no responsibility for.

many RP would have to have a home child or not just like NRP so what is the difference?

maitenace is about supporting the child not giving the RP an easy life finaicially, especially if they have their own family.

so you think its fair for say me to spend more on my child who doesnt live with me than the child that does? for me to pay more money than needed to help provide a equal share has the RP so they profit from splitting with thier ex?

i mean hey if women are clued up enough about csa all they need to do is have a few kids by different dads with half decent jobs and hey presto lifes easy

kelloggs36

Why should the other adults be responsible for YOUR children financially? That is what you are arguing. Your children, your money (same for PWC).

I agree with your last sentence though - especially if the PWC is on benefits because now there is no reduction in benefits for maintenance, so in effect they get all benefits and all maintenance; with multiple fathers of children, this could be an excellent earner and is morally quite WRONG! Tax payers should not be forking out for other people's children unless they are genuinely unemployed and seeking work, or disabled. If a child
has working parents then they should both pay for them, nobody else.

Blonde_Bint

I agree with you both.

I agree with the this 15% of wages as being fair. Yes an NRP on high wages is paying sometimes what can be in effect 'a wage' to their PWC. But remember this the PWC is only entitled to this for their QC.

When the QC becomes an adult this payment is finished so really a PWC shouldnt be dependent on the CM to support their way of life fully because if their CM is supporting them fully then come the childs 20th birthday they must find this money from somewhere else.:)

Plus the 15% is much fairer for an NRP who earns less.

Loopy_Girl

Supporting the child takes many forms inclusive of keeping a head over their head, gas/elec etc.

I doubt that there is a large proportion of NRP's money that go a long way to making a family 'comfortable'. It's a contribution into the household where the child lives.

ilovemykids1979

were did i say i wanted my ex husband to look after my child??? read every post never did i say that what im saying has it needs to be fair!!!

i put a roof over the childs head obviously when i have over night, i pay for clothing proberly just has much has mother. i had to but a house has ex wasnt happy with me renting a room but hey i get a house and she wants more money.......comical

food well i through it away all the time has its easy to make for three with out much extra cost.

trips holidays luxeries i do all this and proberly more than PWC.

o yes and i v thought three times up to now to keep contact with my daughter which the pWC has tried to stop, which cost £????? so please tell me how i expect me ex husband to support my child?

the thing is i know first had how much it cost to look after a child i have a 15 month old who lives with me, i pay more to my child who doesnt through csa and other cost why?? cause it is me and only me who supports my child.

like very many people.

the PWC says and does what that want because the whole system is biased simples