BF needs a boot up the bum - any advice??

MinnieSpender

Sammy - please stick to this. Why should he take responsibility if you and his mum are doing it for him? You need to get her on side too, by the way.

MoneyMagnet

sammy_kaye18 wrote:

RIGHT THATS IT - MY LIGHT BULB MOMENT - NO MORE MONEY - hes taking me for a mug. Im paying for all his bloody stuff. I already pay £300 of household bills adn im on a p/t wage adn he works full tiem and pays £240 - no bloody more.

Thank you for making me see sense.

NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!

Good for you! :T

Gforce_2

well done sammy, you have made the right decision.

CLAPTON

obviously dont pay his bills ...but also think about the future ..is he right for you...how do you see the future....if he is part of your future then his debts will limit your options and those of your children... you need an equal partner not an overgrown child.

sammy_kaye18

Clapton - agreed

I had a talk with his mother this morning and she had the fright of her life yesterday,2 blokes in a white van walking towards her door, she panicked and ran inside and closed the door (my poor MIL is 50 btw)

anyway it turned out to be my MILs next door neighbours mates and they couldnt find his house as its an awkward street so they were going to ask for directions!!!

Anyway ive told her now tht if at any point there are baliffs on my door step hes gone. My priority is my son and his well being. Sounds a daft way to put it but my son doesnt need the constant worry of baliffs turning up on the door - i know he doesnt understand whatd happening but its not a nice prsopect and if im worrie dhe'll pick up on it. I want a stable happy life for him.

Question : if at any points there are baliffs on the doorstep will they take mine and my sons things or just my bfs? would i need to prove what s mine and whats my bfs?