Should we accept it??!

Bufger

Yeah i get what you're saying. Believe me it is a huge amount to us too!

I was also taught just to say thankyou and accept gifts but a gift of this size i couldnt just do that straight off - first i needed to see this wasnt any savings she's living off no matter how big or small. Secondly i wanted to know the family situation which i still feel uncomfortable about (my nan gave me her old sofa and just that made such a big fuss in the family as it was unfair to all of my cousins - despite the fact that over 5 years ive probably spent about £1000 in fuel taking her to bingo/asda/days out and they hardly see her).

We will definately be showing her exactly what its going towards and i would also like her to have a say in that part of the day (we'll see what my missus thinks though as shes the boss!).

Thanks again

Stephb1986_2

You could always give her a special role in your day to like guest of honour or something?

Steph xx

rhardwick

hmm. when we got married we were helped by relatives - we put in 50% and they between them kindly offered us the rest between them (parents, grand-parents) We also asked our guests for hard cash rather than presents so we could put this towards our honeymoon. This allowed us to have a nice wedding without any debt. (thank you!)

A wedding is a really special occasion and if someone wants to help you (and they can afford to) then don't feel guilty about accepting the gift. She will enjoy seeing the extra special boost the cash will bring to your day just as much as you. Maybe you could make sure she's included in a special way somewhere - a reading etc?