Thank you cards

Phyzelda

I'll be doing thank you cards how every big or small the present!! I'd thank someone just for turning up on the day!!:o

brownbabygirl

Those who do not say thank you or post a card, I think they seem to think nothing of the present because they are thinking they probably spent more on the guest. terrible i know but just what i suspect

bigmomma051204

i have to say that, although i shall send out thank you cards to people, i wouldn't actually take it personally at all if someone didnt send me one! Honestly, i think after all the hoo-haa in organising a wedding, thanking the guests during the speeches for coming to the wedding, then paying ALOT of money for the guests to attend and then going on honeymoon (or not in my case) i think it is time for the newly weds to have a break from worrying about other people etc!!!!! LOL... but thats just me of course, i know lots of people who would be offended as it is the "done thing"...

A friend of mine only sent thank you's to the guests who had given cards or money or presents. I agree with that, i'll be honest, i know it isnt all about the money, BUT who in this day and age cannot afford to pop to Tesco and spend £1.50 on a congratulations card???? She had 10 people who came to the day part of her wedding... not that its all about money as i said, BUT she paid approx £95 per head for each of those guests so for them to turn up, eat the food, drink the champers, dance the night away and take a piece of cake home etc, and NOT even bother to take a card i think is pretty poor show!!!!!!!


OP - have gone off on a tangent lol... not making my point at you lol, just in general! Oh and for her to not say thanks verbally when she saw you - that sucks.... huh!

mimosaurus

I agree with everyone else that it is really off and rude to not send out thankyou cards, but i hate to see a friendship (especially one that started out in childhood) end over a misunderstanding and perhaps she thinks she has said thankyou? not that this excuses not saying it.. but i know that i am terrible at thinking "I must do blah" and then forgetting and thinking that i've done it just because i thought about it! does that make sense? she may be uncomfortable, trying to remember if she has said thankyou or not - and this will only get worse as time ticks on!

i feel absolutely certain that she's not sticking her nose up at your gift - i personally feel that £30 is a very generous gift REGARDLESS of how much the wedding cost per head (it is entirely personal preference to go for an expensive wedding package and if you can't afford to be generous then I personally think it's totally unacceptable to expect your guests to pay for it instead through their gifts unless you've discussed this with them first).

i'm sure it is a misunderstanding, and if it is something that is really bothering you perhaps you could try to bring it up with her - like for instance by asking her what she spent your wedding money on in the guise of needing tips of where to spend your own wedding money (if you're getting them as gifts?)

i hope that it all gets cleared up as I think in your situation I would be feeling very uncomfortable and quite put out.

PinkPeach

Thanks so much for your comments. I don't think I could ever ask if she got the money as it would make me feel so awkward, especially as my wedding is so soon and I'll be in the same situation. I think I just need to remember that she had a nice day and leave it at that. It has helped though to see what other people think as I was worried that I was being a bit unreasonable for expecting a card. I realise newlyweds can be rushed off their feet before their wedding etc so enjoy the break afterwards but I think it's a shame that more and more people seem to not be thanking their guests. I wasn't aware of this until I posted this thread and read your comments. Personally though for me, the thank you's are a way of rounding off the whole event and I love the idea of some personalised ones with your photos on.

Dizzie77

like we've said - it doesn't necessarily have to be a card - if you see the couple, then it is good enough to have a verbal thanks.

My cousin got married at the beginning of May, and we got their Thank You card 2 weeks ago - it was particularly nice, because it
said "Thank you for the voucher, we put it towards xx" - much nicer to know that we've contributed to something that they find
useful!!

manda1205

Just to give you a brides perspective. We got married May 28th, Im now in the middle of doing my thank you cards, I started them last weekend, manily because it took us a while to sort stuff with the photographer and I wanted to use a picture on the front of our cards, then I started printing them and the ink ran out, so I've had to wait for that to be delivered, and now I've ran out of envelopes (as Ive messed up so many:o). So Im hoping to get some more this afternoon and finally finish them tonight!
This is not to say that all these things could happen to your friend as well, but she may be having problems doing them. Or as others have said she might not bother at all, and it wont enter her head to do them!