Wedding wishing well ?

Legacy_user

we are going to a wedding soon and they have said they would prefer cash to pay for a honeymoon rather than a gift , they are having a wishing well can someone tell me do i just drop cash into it or should it be in an envelope ? they have "suggested" a gift of £100 !!!!

picklepick

oh my gosh! thats a bit cheeky of them!

I'd pop it inside a card and put it in, but id be giving nowhere near £100!!!

NEH

CHRISSYG wrote: »

we are going to a wedding soon and they have said they would prefer cash to pay for a honeymoon rather than a gift , they are having a wishing well can someone tell me do i just drop cash into it or should it be in an envelope ? they have "suggested" a gift of £100 !!!!

I think you should only put in what you can afford, no-one should be made to feel that is how much they have to give...

and i would put it in an envelope but each one is different to what i hear...

shellsuit

If someone suggested to me a gift of £100, they'd be getting nowt!

Seriously, are these people close to you?

How cheeky can you get, that is so bloody rude of them!

System

it hubbys neice ,i think its pretty cheeky but he says its family , we have to travel approx 4 hrs to get there to start with , id rather give a gift but im being out voted and the bride + groom will not put out a gift list . i must admit im tempted to tell hubby theres £100 in the envelope and put less in .

shellsuit

CHRISSYG wrote: »

it hubbys neice ,i think its pretty cheeky but he says its family , we have to travel approx 4 hrs to get there to start with , id rather give a gift but im being out voted and the bride + groom will not put out a gift list . i must admit im tempted to tell hubby theres £100 in the envelope and put less in .

My Dad gave my cousin £50 when she got married.

I'd put less in it. Definitely.

I would never suggest or ask anyone for money, not even my parents, let alone my Auntys and Uncles, and one Aunty and Uncle are our witnesses and are coming on honeymoon with us!

NEH

CHRISSYG wrote: »

it hubbys neice ,i think its pretty cheeky but he says its family , we have to travel approx 4 hrs to get there to start with , id rather give a gift but im being out voted and the bride + groom will not put out a gift list . i must admit im tempted to tell hubby theres £100 in the envelope and put less in .

A person with manners would never ask for so much...

If you think you can't afford it, then don't do it...If your hubby can afford it then let him pay it...Personally I would also give a gift or a gift voucher...

Why is it some brides forget that to get anything is special. Weddings cost guests too and I think some couples forget this...They should be grateful for what they get, not demand money like some common highway man...

kazwookie

Me being me, I'd buy a gift and have done with it, bluddy cheek

Bride2be24

:eek: omg, how bloody cheeky!

my cousin is getting married on 4th september and she has asked nicely if we want to contribute anything can we kindly give money to put towards a honeymoon, so we are giving £30 noway would i give that much!!!! give what you can afford.

Also pop the money into an envelope maybe put who its from? if not keep it secret so knowbody knows how much you give and post it into the wishing well

xxx

Enchantica

£100?!? Seriously?! Me and my fiance aren't even having a gift list, or honeymoon list or anything. We are going to be grateful for any gifts we receive and don't want to ask for anything. For us, it's our family and friend's presence, and not their presents, which is most important to us. You are going to have to travel and probably pay for a hotel just to be at her wedding, which is a lot in itself. Two of my friends have had weddings and I gave them more sentimental gifts that cost about £20. For one I gave her a wedding anniversary book, where her and her husband write in it about their year on each anniversary and there is space for photos etc. I thought it was nice. Cheap? Maybe, but I couldn't afford to give a lot at the time.

Personally I think it's just so rude asking for that much money

kr15snw

Jesus! We're telling people that we don't want gifts, but if they bug us we'll say that money towards our honeymoon fund would be hugely appreciative. But £100?! I wouldn't expect anyone to spend that on us!!!!!

I would spend £50 - £100 on a best friend of maybe my brothers, but no one else as I just couldnt afford it (and if they were getting married now they'd be lucky to see a tenner as we're that skint!)