Biological clock

onlyroz

swiss69 wrote: »

It was the norm not so long ago until society became greedy and started to live in a "want it all" society.

I would also like clarification on this comment. Why is it greedy for a woman to want a career as well as children?

Bubby

Just to clarify from the age of 18 I had a fantastic career doing exactly what I wanted to do and so I don't feel that I missed out in this respect at all.:D

esmf73

I'm not sure about the broodiness. I would like to have another baby, but I'd like to keep them at the baby stage - not having the child grow up!! So I'm not going to have one - despite the thoughts!

As to "want it all" society, I think that the poster who said this was referring to material things rather than the child vs career argument! I am a stay at home mum - I'm lucky and I know that, but sometimes sacrifices have to be made. I would like my children to have a simple childhood - although they're currently playing the Wii!! We do gardening and gluing and sticking etc together which they enjoy too.

I can see that having another child would upset this balance that I've worked the last 4 1/2 years to achieve! Plus I only have two knees, two arms and two eyes - so I couldn't manage a 3rd!

pukkamum

I was exactly the same we had totally decided two was enough, they have a bedroom each and at 4 and 9 life was becoming very easy.
I then started working again and both DH and i realised it wasn't what we wanted, yes the money was great but we didn't particularly need it.
After a massive discussion we decided to try for our third and here we are due another in november!!!!!!
We are over the moon as are the kids, and we're even beginning to think four might be nice!!!!!!!

How does your DH feel about it?
If it's what you want go for it after all the 'hard' part of having babies doesn't last long and before you know it life will be your own again and you will have one more lovely addition to the family.
We asked ourselves are the things we worry about now ie space, money, peace and quiet etc going to matter in 30 years when we have (hopefully) lots of kids and grandkids around?

pukkamum

swiss69 wrote: »

Nothing wrong with that if you can afford it....It was the norm not so long ago until society became greedy and started to live in a "want it all" society.

I think you will find it is actually a relatively 'new' idea for mothers to stay at home.
Up until pretty much the 60's 70's most mothers worked and children were reared by neighbours, relatives etc.
Think pre, during and post war all women worked, there was no welfare state and with men at war and when not at war in poorly paid jobs women had no choice but to work to keep food on the table and the rent paid, even the upper classes didn't rear their own children nannies and boarding schools did.

dogcat_2

Ha Ha.....I have six children. I had my first at 22, another at 23, at 25, at 28, at 30.:eek:..then I got divorced....met my partner and had another at 37...hard work, but hey...they're not babies for long..now I'm fifty and my youngest is 12...going on 20.:cool:..I'd say go for it...satisfy your broodiness.:D

kr15snw

Have you spoken to Hubby about it?

Me and OH have no kids yet but are hoping to start as soon as we're married (6 months, eeeek ) and at the moment both agree 2 would be lovely. But there is a very good chance this could change just like it has for you

Although I know I wasnt planned my mum and dad had me when they were 40, and my brothers were 13 and 9. Which apparently was a challenge BUT they never doubted the age gap

brians_daughter

we have 3 boys, and we said definately no more...but now i am approaching my mid 30's i have an internal radar that can sense a baby at 100 paces... i even found myself in asda cooing over baby clothes... the head says no, but the yearning tells me yes... but deffo no more! I love my life, i love my family and maybe child no 4 would upset the balance somewhat..plus ds1 is almost 13 now and i dont think he would be overly pleased at the thought now he knows how babies are made

kazzymac_2

Hi. I thought it was just me! I am 38 and have twins of 15. I never wanted anymore and was very much into my career, my ex husband even had the snip because of it yet theres a little something in me nowthat thinks it would be lovely(head in bubble world):) I am with a new partner now who is 12 years older than me who has also had the snip so its not possible but that tick tock is getting louder - same with some of my friends who are also heading to the big 40 - so maybe its just that:o

Ms_Piggy_2

swiss69 wrote: »

Nothing wrong with that if you can afford it....It was the norm not so long ago until society became greedy and started to live in a "want it all" society.

Actually, it's only been seen as 'the norm' since the 1950s. And that was due to propaganda - men returning from WW2 wanted their jobs back (the ones women had been doing whilst they were fighting) so the ideal of the housewife/SAHM was born.

Prior to this, most women did work - although it would be more likely 'cottage industry' type things (taking in laundry/mending etc) rather than going out to work/having a career.

That said, if a man or woman wants to SAH and raise a fam,ily - and can afford to as the other partner can support them - then why not?? But lets not pretend it's ALWAYS been the case!