when does a bf/gf become a partner?

peachyprice

What she said ^^^^^^^^

Karate

I'm 20, have been with my OH for a year and a half, have lived with him between houses for around a year, and for the last three/four months have been living with him in our own flat. I feel very much settled, and wouldn't think twice about bringing him along to an 'and partner' event.

I think you will know yourself if you are 'partners' or not, and if you know that you are a partnership, then who is anyone else to judge? It is YOUR relationship after all.

samandona

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

If your friend has been with her OH for 2.5 years and they plan to do things the right way ie: get married move in together have children (which i applaud them for)

Interesting how view's like this still exist in todays day and age.

Gloomendoom

samandona wrote: »

Interesting how view's like this still exist in todays day and age.

By more people than you might expect too.

xmaslolly76

samandona wrote: »

Interesting how view's like this still exist in todays day and age.

Im not saying there is anything wrong with anyother way of doing it its just its unusual to find a young couple who want to do things "properly" as such and i think it is nice that they want to do it that way. I myself moved in with the ex then had kids then got married

Mr.Mulla

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

"Partner" on an invitation is a nice, easy weasel-word used not to offend any homosexuals out there because you know you can't use the term "spouse", "husband" or "wife". If you're not gay, I would operate on the premise that it means spouse, long-term OH and/or the father/mother of your children. Definitely not a b/f or g/f if you're not living with them in a long-term, committed relationship.

My sentiments too.

Deep_In_Debt

I was "seeing" my ex for over 10 years and during that time, everyone thought of him as my bf. When he moved in with me, he as referred as my "partner" .

Not actually sure how I referred to him - partner, I guess as we'd been "dating" for so long.

Work do's were always difficult as when we didn't live together we were always regarded as bf/gf not "partner" even though we'd been "together" for so long. As soon as he moved in - that seemed different in everyone's eyes!

I'm in my 40's now so wasn't that young when he moved in with me.

Bit of a grey area.

LisaLou1982

Ive been with my OH for nearly 4yrs - but we dont live together.
Any invites weve had have always been to us both or as a +1 - id always take him and him me to any invited event. I dont think it has to mean that youre living together - just that you are in a committed relationship

samandona

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Im not saying there is anything wrong with anyother way of doing it its just its unusual to find a young couple who want to do things "properly" as such and i think it is nice that they want to do it that way. I myself moved in with the ex then had kids then got married

I wasn't critising! Just commenting. I suppose thats why you originally put the word "properly" that like

If i ever marry my BF (yes, I said BF not partner ^^) we will have done it the same way as you

Gavin83

I'd never use the term partner to describe my girlfriend, I just don't find it suitable.

Tricky one I guess. I've been with my GF for nearly 4 years but we don't live together at the moment. If I received such a invitation I'd take her and if I was told I couldn't as she wouldn't be considered a partner I simply wouldn't go at all. I have a friend who moved in with his girlfriend after 4 months, does that make them anymore partners?

I would take that invite to mean a potentially long term BF or GF rather than a casual fling.