Desperately needing impartial advice

jmc2305

Not strictly related to this particular board but I know people on these forums are great advisers. I am seeking impartial advice on our financial/living/renting situation.
Trying to be as brief as poss, we have constantly moved - bought, rented, bought rented and my eldest (10) has lived in 8 locations throughout UK and more houses. We relocated to current village and love it. Been hre 3 yrs and best place ever. Hubby got made redundant last year. Had to move to smaller in village. We have to rent as repossession of house elsewhere means can't buy. He got another job, they would prefer us to move to england again and would pay relocation, ie 8k covering rental, moving deposits etc. They have allowed us to stay 1 yr more to finish the eldests' primary. However, current landlord informed us last week they are moving back end July. There is NOTHING else available big enough to rent for family of 5. I really want to stay here but keep thinking how easy it would be to relocate AGAIN at no cost to us and there are plenty of houses near where we would go. Family in england are pulling us there, friends here are keeping me here. Kids want to stay and love it.
My question is, what do people think - if we have nowhere to live here and even if found somewhere would be extra cost, are we really being stupid turning down relocation money to move. Or should I stick to my guns and finally try and settle here in ANYTHING and pay out money we can't afford to move to a house/flat that is unsuitable. PLEASE PLEASE SOMEONE GIVE ME IMPARTIAL ADVICE. I HAVE HELD IT TOGETHER THROUGH MANY RELOCATIONS, REPOSSESSION, BANKRUPTCY but now don't trust my instincts one bit.

Cannon_Fodder

"finally try and settle here" - for 1 year ?

I don't call that settled. Move. Primary is less important than secondary. Get them into the catchment of a decent secondary in the new location.

Kids/friends are going to disappointed in a year, anyway, when you have to move.

Or change industry/employer, so no move is necessary.

clutton_2

""should I stick to my guns and finally try and settle here in ANYTHING and pay out money we can't afford to move to a house/flat that is unsuitable.""

you seem to have a lot of negativities here about your current location just in this one sentence.. you are prepared to live anywhere - really ?? i doubt that very much .. you want somewhere nice otherwise you will get the moving urge again very quickly indeed....

"money we cannot afford" - so the finances are Really tight and you have no spare cash at all, and

"to a house/flat that is unsuitable" - you seem to have already made your mind up that you will not be able to get anywhere nice and that is also suitable as well......

and yet you describe your current village as the "best place ever"

confusion doth reign !

i think you need to find out for definite if Hubby's employer will keep him in employment if you choose to stay in your current village... they might not ..... talk to HR

Family are pulling you towards UK and along with that pull is the lure of £8k to cover all costs .. Very attractive

Apart from family - what other passionate reasons do you have for wanting to come to UK again..

Whose views are most important in your family - adults or kids ?

If there were no money issues at all - what does your heart tell you ?

Aren't you really sick of moving by now ? i would be.... if you are - then you must decide which place you love the most - it would be awful to move locally and then in a years time realise you ought to have moved to England and the £8k is no longer on the table......