What classes as 'living with'

Thewolf_007

How many days a week can my partner stay over without being classed as living with me?

Can we go halfs on bills even though he won't live here?


Thanks

Steve

Whiteknight

Thewolf_007 wrote: »

I would really appreciate somebodys help and advice with the following.

I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and just about to finish my PGCE. I have 2 children aged 9 and 12. My partner has recently moved in with me and we try to share the bills as best as possible. He earns fairly good money (£30k pa) but has considerable debts which he pays over £500 a month towards.

Now I no longer recieve any student loans we were hoping that I would receive some sort of benefit, as with me earning no money until January we simply cannot survive on his income. I contacted Work and pensions today and was told I was entitled to nothing as I have been a student for the last 2 years.

We are both really concerned how we are going to get through the next few months with our fixed monthly D/D alone being £2000! with his income being £1810 and me recieving £300 CSA and £140 child benefit the figures don't add up! The only option that seems to be open is for him to move out, which we really don't want at this important time in our lives!

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is there nothing out there for us?

Thank you in Advance

:rotfl:

I noticed your other post, there is nothing to stop your partner paying half of the bills if he lived elsewhere. The question regarding how many days a week he could stay over with out being classed as living with you has come up a fair bit on this forum.

You appear to be trying to work the system to benefit you, he is already living with you yet you have discovered that you can't afford to live together. I would suggest you both look to see if the direct debits amounts paid each month can be reduced.

themonkeybutler

There are no number of "sleepovers" which would class as living as a couple. Very simply, if you are living together as a couple, you are living together as a couple(!) If he has his place, you have yours, his belongings are at his place, save for a toothbrush(!), and yours are at yours etc, you are not living together as a couple.

You yourself can make the initial decision as to whether youre living together as a couple - it doesnt sound like it to me though. Strange as it may seem, tax credits does sometimes deal in common sense...!

SuziQ

Whitenight is quite right: it's not about a magic number of nights someone 'stays over' it's about being a couple, otherwise families who have a parent who works away a lot (including those in the forces) would be classed as single parent despite the fact they are most deffinitely a couple. When I lost my job and became ill 2 years ago, my benefit payments weren't enough to pay my debts either, and nor should they! I had to make agreements with the cc companies and keep to them.They in turn reduced the interest in all but one case, so that what I actually pay is actually making a dent in the debt. I have also been doing the 'Dave Ramsey snowball' thing, whereby any extra money I have at the end of the month or if I am given money for Christmas/birthday I have assigned against the smallest bill, to pay it off quicker. I paid off one card the first year doing that and am close to paying a second.This will in turn free up another bit of money, and so on.I can't wait to be totally debt free! I am back on the grocery challenge, which almost halved what I used to pay on groceries, and am very careful elsewhere too. You need to look at these ideas rather than try to work out how you can make the system work for you.

healy

Thewolf_007 wrote: »

How many days a week can my partner stay over without being classed as living with me?

Can we go halfs on bills even though he won't live here?


Thanks

Steve

As said there are no set number of days where you are classed as living with/not living with someone.

This question has been asked many times before and if you do a search you may see that it has been confirmed many times by different people that there is no "magic" number.

SuziQ

You yourself can make the initial decision as to whether youre living together as a couple - it doesnt sound like it to me though.

Did you miss this then?

My partner has recently moved in with me and we try to share the bills as best as possible

No benefit agency will class her as a single parent in this situation, surely? I presume the new baby is also the partners?

Oldernotwiser

themonkeybutler wrote: »

You yourself can make the initial decision as to whether youre living together as a couple - it doesnt sound like it to me though. Strange as it may seem, tax credits does sometimes deal in common sense...!

Which bit of the quoted post didn't sound as if they are already living together?

Deepmistrust

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Which bit of the quoted post didn't sound as if they are already living together?

As he posted within a minute or two of white knights post (showing the quote), then i'm reading it, that he is responding to her first opening post.

themonkeybutler

Deepmistrust wrote: »

As he posted within a minute or two of white knights post (showing the quote), then i'm reading it, that he is responding to her first opening post.

Yep, youre spot on! Shame the rest of them arent quite as bright.....!

dmg24

themonkeybutler wrote: »

Yep, youre spot on! Shame the rest of them arent quite as bright.....!

How very rude! 'The rest of them' took the time to check their facts first - sounds like they are the bright ones!

themonkeybutler

dmg24 wrote: »

How very rude! 'The rest of them' took the time to check their facts first - sounds like they are the bright ones!

"Took time to check their facts"?

I think you mean "happened to stumble across another post by the same person which showed them up as a liar, rather than not have seen it and simply offered a genuine response to what was believed to be a genuine question, and then criticise the poster who trying to help without checking their own facts, namely that is was blatantly obvious their reply was being written at the same time as the other and they therefore had no idea about this"??

Is that what you mean?