feeling rather depressed please help

paulwf

jobneeded wrote: »

i did work for my mothers place - wastecare dealing with hazardous chemicals etc but that was only 1 week temp as general laborer...

1 weeks temp job in 2 years isn't anything to write home about. You say you are having second thoughts about being a mechanic so I'll say it again...what do you want to do with your life? At 18 you have a world of possibilities before you. Don't waste it drifting like you have for the past 2 years because as you get older the number of free courses and apprenticeships (and the option of living at home cheaply) reduces.

Go and see a careers advisor or do something, anything to map out a future path for yourself.

paulwf

jobneeded wrote: »

And no although it may have come across that I simply want to jack it in and get on the sick. that is far from the point. Im feeling rather put off from mechanics to the point im dreading the next day. Im losing sleep over what the next day might be like. And all I was hoping was that I could simply tell this briefly to jobcentre adviser and see if it would be possible to claim income support while searching for work.

You are still on probation at the garage, if you really want to get out of there and go back on benefits - and it sounds like you do - talk to them and ask them to dismiss you. It sounds like they don't like you and you don't like them so I'm sure they'll agree to it.

jobneeded

Yeah Thats what im going to do i think. I have thought about things from just everyday cleaning jobs eg bus cleaning,car valeting,warehouse oprtative work,glass work's operative's. but i dont want to go to them and do the same. so Thanks for saying that - you've given me re-assurance as to what i was thinking about speaking to an advisor

nametaken

OP I just wanted to add that if you work in a male dominated industry such as mechanics or any other male dominated industry for that matter, there is bound to be banter and jokes about sex.

Were you, a grown man, really offended by a bit of banter about "I'm a bit dom myself"? Really and Truly? You never heard anyone joke about sex before, or joke about it yourself?

jobneeded

yeah sure , ive been asked before he i had a type of buddy lol i wasnt fussed n just said no while laughing.. but i just found that pretty odd... - he said it and i can actually say that was the 7th thing he'd said to me in two days..

bestpud

How about going along to Connexions and exploring alternative careers?

It's clear your family have had some influence on your decision to be a mechanic but maybe it is more of a hobby for you than a career?

Have you thought of anything else you'd like to do?

nametaken

Before you hand your notice in you might want to read this

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/camilla_cavendish/article7138520.ece

flossy_splodge

I think what others are trying to get across to you is:

jobneeded wrote: »

hhmm well all im going to say to that last post is" yeah it did, had a shooting pain from the palm of my hand up to my shoulder. but on the other note. if theyre willing to teach,im willing to learn from them. but when theyre doing it the wrong way, Says YOU and they do it the way they have just shown me and they nearly lose a finger...Anyone can have an accident or a near miss, it does not necessarily mean they did anything wrong. make's me think. and possibly it may have been too long since i last worked on a car or van and ive simply had a change of heart and this is the proving point?

That's why you are coming across as a bit arrogant.
It is tough in the working world.
I am many years older than you and have had a long and successful working life but the biggest thing I had to learn was PICK YOUR FIGHTS!
I personally wouldn't say roll over every time something bad happens but if you expect others to be an exact replica of you, you'll be disappointed.
We are all different. We all come from different histories and we all have our own take on what is OK to do and say and what is not.
In this situation you are the 'newbie'.
Sorry, but there it is.
You need to learn to fit in.
NOT learn to accept physical abuse but to be honest mental abuse can be just as bad.
I currently work with someone who simply does NOT accept that she is ever wrong.
She will bite your head off, snap, be very aggressive etc if you don't get what she wants you to do and she thinks she's explained it.
That's HER problem.
I have to bite my tongue and get on with it if I want to work.
End of.
Occasionally when the issue is really big, I will bite back, but I'm older than her and pick my moments carefully.
Do you see what I'm saying?
Everyone else in my workplace has the same opinion of this person as I do and no, it doesn't make for happy days; but in the economic climate we are in, just suck it up.
I am learning a new career which hopefully will allow me to work to whatever age I want and a big problem for me is the rate at which she chooses to 'train' me.
It's deliberate in my view as she thinks the things I need to learn are difficult andI think they're easy.
This does not go un noticed and I believe makes HER feel uncomfortable and vulnerable.
So my role is to understand a bit of how SHE is feeling and not just think about MY needs.
Tough and annoying but I want to work.
I hope this helps.
Good luck.

skintdragon

I'd say, follow your gut instinct. If you feel uncomfortable with the setup of the work place, leave. If they are breaching health and safety rules (ie. you haven't been shown fire escapes, equipment you use are faulty/ not fit for purpose), and something happened to you, you wouldn't have a leg to stand on, especially if you knew something wasn't quite right. The question would be "why didn't you report it"?

Don't give up doing something you feel so passionately about, and don't let these numpties ruin what is potentially something good for you.

Good luck.

:A

Oldernotwiser

jobneeded wrote: »

"QUOTE" I said it on your last thread and I'll say it again - your attitude is at least part of the problem. You think that the work related programme you did at school should help you avoid the scut work of a genuine apprenticeship and it really isn't worth a thing, in fact it's making you @rsey with your employers because you make it obvious that you think you know better than they do. " I dont think by doing that 2 year course i was going to avoid the "general banter" shall we say of being called names, and all the rest of the "funny" jokes eg long stand,glass hammer, - then going to the butty shop,sweeping up and so on... - i was prepared for that,what the training course was about - was working to comply with the COSHH regulations in the work place ( LINK) - http://www.hse.gov.uk/coshh/index.htm And then also was taken through the procedure of health and safety and the regulations, and then on to the job in hand. - how to do the basics such as changing tires,pads,discs,track rod ends,how to setup the tracking correctly for that specific vehicle,then onto mini and major servicing of vehicles, how to fault find using diagnostics, and also how to find faults quickly and effectivley without using a diagnostics equipment. - your not telling me this is the right way that an apprenticeship should work (i go to the 1st interview in march, told i will be trained as a fast fit tech - (but didnt say i would be doing anything commercial related) -2 months go by being left with no yes or no and left in the dark as to what was happening,they then phone out of the blue 2 months later, 2nd interview - this again nothing was mentioned about anything being commercial, and also the head mechanic was being rather funny too,"i can be arsey but im not a !!!!, i do this and i do that, you'll be doing this and you'll be doing that" which ok fair enough -just get on with it- " 1st day, the head mechanic(my supposed mentor) stayed out of the way, and only time he talked he talked complete dribble about where he's been,what he's done and basically talked aload of rubbish(just agreed and sounded interested and just though nothing of it) 2nd i was called a !!!!, "using his words" "you!,you !!!!!!, gave me a look earlier as to say - you !!!!ing !!!!" - never did.. all i was doing was just watching him change a tyre?! then he was telling me how to change a tyre - the way he's been doing it as he's worked here and he's worked there, and he's been doing it this long, - did it his way, i nearly fell into the damn machine, and nearly lost a few fingers, - he then had a customer wanting new tyres, he did it - and nearly took off the end of his fingers - but only ripped out his finger nail and got it as far as the bone - with blood pouring out - - and then the 3rd day, i was again called a useless !!!! (just though ive got my other use's which you wont have a clue about) (not to sound big headed) then he hit me over the back of the hand with a torch when i couldnt hear what he said, he's pushed me out of his way as he's been walking past, he's explained things at 300 times the speed of sound and asked him kindly to explain it again but a little slower, i got " ppfftt useless !!!!!!!" with a mucky look given my way, and to add, he keeps on telling me about his "sex life - to qoute his exact words" yeah me n the birds ive been out with - il admit i can be a dommy!" erm - well telling an apprentice thats only on his 2nd day that you have a dommination fetish - erm well.... make up your own minds about that but personaly i wouldnt trust him if i had kids... to add, he also makes up things such as when he was explaining - tyre sizes - he told me a story about his boss's black 280 brooklands capri - now... they never made a single 280 black brooklands capri! - grandfather who's the chairman of the "leeds capri club" has had numerous capri's including the "white" JPS mk2 he's just built from bare shell! (from a scrap JPS (which was also white - and yes they did make white one's but they were more rare then the black jps") and also being good freinds with "jon hill" - who started and runs "capri club international" - Pretty irrelivant i know but... anything he says, anything he claims to have done - is basically calling the last 15-16 years of my life a lie and ive been living in some fantasy world! - and as said... taking physical pushing, and being hit with a tool of any kind isnt accpetable in this day and age. To add. my relative's who work in the motor trade - i asked when i left school and have asked regular but the only problem being was the recession and both place's where they both worked were down on work. and are still only just recovering. - and the fact that my grandfather works for ford -who said "were very sorry but due to the economic climate at this time we are unable to invite you to join us" -

Yup, that's what I said - it's your attitude that's the problem!