feeling rather depressed please help

jobneeded

im sorry if it comes across that way, but im willing to do anything for anyone but thing i wont do though is be bullied.... i was bullied most of the way through school...

chika

Op your job doesn't sound great. You need to stand up to the supervisor about the physical stuff. is there any chance you could be exaggerating or making it sound worse than it is. The blokes in the Garage that fixes my car are always sniping at each other and throwing things at each other (I once witnessed one of them rolling a tyre at someone from behind!) However they do like each other really. I don't think that they would have taken you on unless they wanted you. You seem to have got your knickers in a twist from the start when your phone call was late.

I think you should go in on Tuesday with some humilty. Really listen to what the man has to say - if you don't get something the first time ask him to demonstrate and do stand up for yourself if he makes physical contact. As for the sex chat - you're eighteen and have a lot to learn. I live with lads who chat about such gubbins all the time (very detailed conversations - I'm probably more aware of my housemates ex's anatomy than mine!) Just laugh it off, or make a joke about it.

The more I think about this is that your school work may have taught you the textbook way to do things but that isn't necessesarily the right way. You seem to have quite poor interpersonal skills - it would probably do you some good to sort this out. (Oh and this isn't a snipe but please use paragraphs)

nametaken

I'll be honest with you son. In real life you can't say this peoples faces but the beauty of the internet is that you can so here goes.

You sound as if you've worked for a few days and decided this work malarky isn't for you. You keep referring to depression and your health and it sounds as if your trying to use this as an excuse to give up work and sign on the sick with so-called stress and depression.
Once you get into that trap it's very very hard to get out.

Work sucks sometimes. Stay while you look for another job.

jobneeded

I understand what you are both saying in the last two posts. But by no means is this exaggerated in any way shape or form.
I know work sucks from time to time, and people can become disheartened but my main gripe is that your training somebody,you've taken the challenge to show somebody the ropes. that doesn't make it ok to be giving abuse to the trainee.
And to add, his sex life is what I would say as his personal life. Im not interested, im concentrating on the job in hand. and thinking about what he has tried to show me.
Its when I do ask for help or for him to "sorry but can you just explain what I am supposed to do? OR "sorry but what doe's this mean or what does this do?"

I now don't want to ask him as i'm afraid that im just going to get either pushed out of the way (mucky look/s but i'm not bothered about a mucky look - what can that do?) is what I think but its when i ask for his help or ask anything that i begin to think.. "hmm no i'm not going to ask him as im only going to get abuse back and get my head ripped off"

Learning from text books is one of the things we did at school and on the course, But it was 30/70 as most of the learning was practical.

And no although it may have come across that I simply want to jack it in and get on the sick. that is far from the point. Im feeling rather put off from mechanics to the point im dreading the next day. Im losing sleep over what the next day might be like. And all I was hoping was that I could simply tell this briefly to jobcentre adviser and see if it would be possible to claim income support while searching for work. As I do already have 2-3 companies in mind and to which I have already applied for and was told that it would be 2-3 or one which was 6 months until they will be available to recruit.

that was all. I'm sorry if this whole thread has come over as "cocky" or stupid or anything else and has upset anyone.

bestpud

jobneeded wrote: »

im sorry if it comes across that way, but im willing to do anything for anyone but thing i wont do though is be bullied.... i was bullied most of the way through school...

When people have had a hard time at school, it obviously damages their self esteem.

For some, low self esteem can manifest itself in a false bravado and they can appear arrogant. It's a shame but I've seen it many times and the result is they are avoided by others and they feel even worse about themselves.

You seem to have an inflated ego in some ways and I can only imagine how this comes across in someone who seems to lack interpersonal skills.

jobneeded

deflated is the way im feeling.

bestpud

jobneeded wrote: »

deflated is the way im feeling.

That's what I mean though!

You feel that way on the inside but you may over-compensate for that and come across as the opposite.

I know several people like this and it's sad imo as they almost encourage people to react in the way they expect iykwim and reinforce the problem.

I don't know if it is the case for you or not - it's just a guess.

pinkshoes

jobneeded, having read your posts, I'd question whether you really want to work in that industry, and perhaps you'd be suited to something else? You do come across as being a little over-sensitive, and a little arrogant.

It's a tough world out there, and you have an opportunity to learn. Ok, so the people suck. Perhaps just shut your trap, do as you're told, and learn as much as possible. If they laugh at you, don't get upset, laugh at yourself too! Did being struck with a torch cause you a severe injury?

My advice would be to grow some thicker skin, show them you've got what it takes, and once they learn to respect you, they'll treat you much nicer!!

DCFC79

jobneeded you shouldnt have to put up with the physical abuse like being hit on your hand with a torch etc. Its your decision in the end but id get out now

jobneeded

hhmm well all im going to say to that last post is" yeah it did, had a shooting pain from the palm of my hand up to my shoulder. but on the other note. if theyre willing to teach,im willing to learn from them. but when theyre doing it the wrong way, and they do it the way they have just shown me and they nearly lose a finger... make's me think. and possibly it may have been too long since i last worked on a car or van and ive simply had a change of heart and this is the proving point?